Indianapolis Times, Volume 39, Number 289, Indianapolis, Marion County, 30 March 1928 — Page 16

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Couples Wed Too Young Both Need and Resent Help of Older Persons BY MARTHA LEE WHEN n girl marries too young and also marries a man who really is no more than a boy, she can expect that the parents of the couple will interfere in their atfairs because an older person realizes that youngsters are not able to always manage the solving of their problems. Os course, the parents often go to extremes and attempt to dictate to the young man and his bride when there is no necessity for interference.

However, in most cases I can not help but sympathize with the parents and the young couple. When the happiness of a mother’s and father’s loved ones is in danger, and that, young readers is the attitude most parents have when something unusual comes upon the life of the married boy and girl the natural action for the parent is to try to help the son or daughter overcome the difficulty Parents do not intend to be meddling, but they know' that youth has not had the necessary experience to cope with every situation that may arise. On the other hand, the young husband and wife feel that they have assumed the adult responsibility of matrimony and that they are capable of managing their own affairs. They forget, these impulsive young persons, that in most cases love prompts the parents to offer advice and not just the “joy of meddling,” to quote one irate young wife. There are two sides of this problem about which readers write. Both the parents of the young husband and wife are right and wrong, too, because neither side really understands the viewpoint of the other. My advice is “to talk, it over;” that generally will help to clear the atmosphere of discord. Dear Martha Lee: I have been married two years and have a baby 14 months old. I am still in love with my husband, who Is 20, and I am 18. W T e have been living with his mother and two brothers ever since we have been married. His mother works, and I take care of the house. I would be as happy as could be if my mother-in-law did not find fault with everything I do. No matter how hard 1 try. there is always something the matter with what X am doing though she never tries to help me. Instead she gives me more work to do. I wanted to go to housekeeping and thought X had my husband in the notion but his mother talked him out of it. He alwavs minds her. but he hardly ever takes mv advice. He makes enough to go to housekeeping, and his Job is steady so there is no reason why we should remain living with his family. She is alwavs talking to him about me and he never takes my part. I know I am wrong sometimes, but surely not alwavs. Miss Lee, if this keeps up much longer, would you leave and go to work? Os course, I would take the babv and that might make my husband come to me and then it might not. His mother's tears have more effect on him than mine. I can support myself because I am a typist. BLUE. Dear Blue; You children married far too young and, of course, that is the underlying cause of your trouble now. You had not the experience aid wisdom that one should have before marrying. Your mother-in-law seems very objectionable from your letter but, my dear, you forget that perhaps some of these criticisms that she makes of you are really- based on truth and are offered in a far friendlier spirit than you know. You also forget that your mother-in-law is working which is hard on anyone’s nerves at any age and especially wearing on an elderly lady. Os course, the only solution for you is to get a home of your own. Two families living together generally causes discord. Explain this to your husband and tell him that if you go on the way you are now, it will lead to divorce, Decause anyone can see from your letter that you are beyond the state of reasoning and .effecting a reconciliation with your pnother-in-law. Do not go back to work and leave your husband unless you dicide never to go back to him. Nothing belittles a woman more than to be constantly leaving her husband and then going back to him. Try, Blue, to cultivate a calm dispositipn. It will help with the solving of your problem. "n Marjorie Lee; After two such sad attempts at marital happiness, both ending in divorce, I should think that you would remain single for the sake of your two children until you feel that you are capable of “making a go” of your next marriage. Nothing is worse than jealousy. A jealous fiance will be a jealous husband because marriage only accentuates his terrible fault. This man’s threatening to kill any man who looked at you after you marry shows also that he is mentally unbalanced by his passion of jealousy. Stay away from him for the sake of your children and for yourself. Eva DeV: Nothing is the matter with this boy friend of whom you write except that he has not grown up yet. He is a child and that explains his crying when you quarrel. That is no indication whatsoever that he cares for you; it merely shows that he has a bad temper and still has childish tantrums. Laugh at him and perhaps he will gain some manliness.

THE CONNOISSEUR - - - He- Feels Effects of Yesterday’s Ride

Having ridden with the ladies half a day the day before, Hr. Van de View’s dejected being very lame and sore— And the best that he can do is pick an easy sort of chair And repose without a motion in the balmy southern air.

Bride-Elect to Be Guest This Evening A bridge party and miscellaneous shower will be given this evening by Miss Alma Lucas, 3047 N. New r Jersey St., in honor of Miss Irene Seuel whose marriage to Roland Davies of Washington, D. C., will take place April 9. Spring flow'ers will be used for decorations. Miss Lucas will be assisted by her mother, Mrs. E. R. Danforth. The guests will be: Mesdames Theodore H. Seuel, James W. Ray, Harold L. Mercer, Ray Robinson and Misses Edna Seuel, Patia Carver, Helen Myers, Vivian Stevenson, Charlotte Reissner, Beatrice Moore, Juanita Stamper, Sarah Frances Downs, Glen Schwenk, Frances Peters, Helen Lauter, Dorothy Smith, Frances Thorpe, Edith Robinson, Eleanor Dunn. Elizabeth Bertermann, Georgiabelle Fleener. Betty and Helen De Grief and Sarah Rodecker.

MARYE and ‘MOM’ a a a THEIR LETTERS

BY RUTH DEWEY GROVES Dearest Mom: Maybe you did read my mind right about Billy and his presents but truth compels me to admit that I was not pulling any wool over my own eyes. I haven’t been married very long, ’tis true, but I learned right away that husbands are quick to take advantage of any little excuse for trying to do a Houdini cn the ball and chain how and then. For this reason I’ve got to drop Billy. But it isn’t because there’s anything wrong in his beautiful affection for me. It’s a sacrifice I've got to make to Alan's ridiculous jealousy. As you say, I can’t insist that he keep his record clean as a dutiful husband unless I break with Billy. But it isn’t fair. Billy thinks I'm a saint. And I’m sure that any girl who calls a man “Old Fruit” isn’t thinking of him in saintly terms. So. to put a stop to that affair I’ve got to wound the feelings of a darling boy who is as harmless as a baby. It’s perfectly disgusting but what’s the use? Alan can’t see that it isn’t a fifty-fifty proposition at all. Now I think I've been pretty honest about my motive. But I can’t yet see that it isn’t more harmful for Alan to get letters from a girl W'ho is old enough to know what she is doing when writing to a married man than for me to receive little notes from a boy who’s passing through that stage where flappers bore him. I’ve told Billy that Florence is older than she really is and that I think she is secretly married. That ought to intrigue him, don’t you think? If they fall hard enough for each other maybe Billy'd forget me and Florence'd forget Kenneth Oates. Everything would be jake then. I’m going down in a little while to meet Florence at the station. Billy’s going to drive the car for me because I can’t get through the traffic in that part of town. Besides I want him and Florence to meet when there isn’t an audience around- to interfere with their getting acquainted. I can’t ask him to the apartment unless there’s a party going on. Maybe Alan will kick even then but if Florence is any kind of a fast worker she’ll soon have Alan sympathizing with me. I thought I'd see what Florence can do before I tell Billy everything is off. Don’t want to break his heart if it isn’t necessary. Lovingly, MARYE. In California Miss Martha Winkenhofer, 2054 Asheland Ave., violinist and pianist, who left Chicago March 19 on a concert tour, will arrive in Los Angeles, Cal., Saturday. She will visit relatives and friends in Los Angeles and San Francisco before returning home.

Now he doesn’t have the energy to even hold a book And the only thing that he can do in comfort is to look— And a sporty lizard slipper very smartly trimmed with calf Is indeed a rare diversion compensation and a half.

REDUCING A “BARREL” FIGURE

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Three of the exercises for reducing over-large abdomens, which Marjorie Dork describes in the accompanying article.

EDITOR'S NOTE—Over-law abdomens are a common eause of bodily disfigurement. How they may fcc reduced to normal proportions by proper diet a-id exercise is told by Marjorie Dork, health and beauty expert, tin this third article of a series appearing exclusively in The Times. BY MARJORIE DORK Health and Beauty Expert for NEA Serv’ee One of the most common and least attractive type of figure is the barrel type in which the abdomen has become entirely out of proportion to the arms and legs. A woman with such a figure can reduce only by stretching muscles on this particular part of the body. You can walk or dance for hours without improving the figure. Here is one of the best exercises for it: Lie flat upon the floor and bring up the legs at right angles with the body, with this knees stiff. Then let them down slowly, keeping the knees stiff, to the count of six. It is the slow pull that does the work, but do not hurry. Do this five times at first and increase to ten or twenty times as you grow more accustomed to it. This one also is excellent: Lie flat on the floor with the awns stretched above the head. Then rise forward touching the toes with the finger tips. At first your fingers and toes may not meet, but bring them as close to each other as you can. Start with five times and increase to twenty or even more. You will find this one a bit less strenuous: Not As Strenuous Lie down flat and bring both knees up to your chest then lower to the first position. Do this ten times both together and then ten times with each leg alternately. Those three are all done on the floor. Here are three more to be done standing. Take the standing ones last as they are easier. Stand with the feet wide apart, shoulders up, arms above the head. Bend at the waistline and bring the hands back between the legs. This is excellent for your back and your arms as well as your abdomen. Ten times is a mere start. Increase later to thirty. Then in the same position, with fingertips above the head, reach over and touch first the right foot and then, after straightening up with hands again above the head, the left foot. Ten times at first and then more, regularly, will certainly have a slenderizing effect. Next, put your knees together and extend your arms outward as far as they will go on either side of the body. Swing the body as far to the right and then as far to the left as you can, moving only at the waistline. There are many other exei'cises which I will gave in later articles that will help the barrel-typed woman, but I don’t wish to overwhelm her at the start. Rather at this time I wish to stress the matter of diet, for the large abdomen proclaims that the food habits are wrong. First of all, eat only when you are hungry. Eat slowly, masticate every morsel. Then you won’t

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want so much food. Begin each meal with an appetizer or fruit juice to excite the salivary glands. Sip ’Em Slowly Fruit juices, milk, and buttermilk should all bo sipped slowly. They are foods in themselves, with the advantage over solid foods that they are much more easily digested. There is no diet more helpful to reducing than a liquid diet. You could even go on one for three days a week without injury to your health, but usually one day a week is sufficient. For one day s liquid diet, I suggest the following: At eight in the morning, two glasses of hot water. This flushes out the stomach. For breakfast, one cup of tea or coffee without cream or sugar, and one glass of unsugared fruit juice; orange juice is excellent. At 10 o'clock, two glasses of water. At 11 o’clock one glass of water. For luncheon, you can have a glass of any fruit juice or two glasses of buttermilk or sweet milk. At two o’clock, a glass of water, and another at three, and at five, a cup of tea with no cream or sugar. For dinner you may have the juice of six tomatoes, and before you go to bed you can have a glass of water or any desired fruit juice. If you will prescribe for yourself one day each week living entirely on a liquid diet, you will be surprised at what you will lose in weight, and how easily it is accomplished. Milk is almost a perfect food, and if you want to live only on milk for a day, you will find that it is very helpful to reducing. diet Front A silk blouse, heavily embroidered in peasant design, has a gilet covering it that is entirely embroidered. The blouse protrdues from beneath.

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State Poetry Body Keeps Present Head

Mrs. Carl Taylor was re-elected president of the Poetry Society of Indiana at the meeting Thursday afternoon at the Lumley tearoom for which Mrs. Alice F. Emerson, Mrs. Charles Stubbs and Miss Jean Snyder were hostesses. Other officers elected were: Mrs. Edna Raymond, first vice president; Miss Lucille Ballard, second vice president; Mrs. Olive Toph, third vice president; Miss Margaret Boys, recording secretary; Miss Jean Snyder, corresponding secretary, and Miss Lola Echard, treasurer. Mrs. Margaret Ball Dickson, a special guest, read from her latest book. “Tumble Weeds,” and members recited original poems. Piano selections were given by Mrs. Emerson, who also accompanied William Chitwood for violin numbers. The tables were decorated with pink roses and ferns.

‘ Y' Triangle Hall Will Celebrate Birthday Sunday “Rich girls, poor girls, merchant women, chiefs”. ... all branches of business women find a home at the Blue Triangle Hall of the Y. W. C. A., which will celebrate its fourth anniversary in the new building Sunday. Since its opening, April 1, 1924, 25,000 girls from towns in and about Indiana have come to its doors. A girl may arrive jobless, friendless, and perhaps almost penniless, although such cases are unusual, but she will find a welcome. Mrs. Dora Masten. who has been executive secretary of the Y. W. C. A. residence for fifteen years of its existence, arranges in such cases for the girls to get positions, and if board money can not be paid, she has a plan whereby a nominal sum is paid back on debts as soon as a girl finds employment. Terre Haute- and Bloomington have sent more girls to the Hall than any other Indiana cities and Illinois leads the other States in contributors because of the number that have come from Chicago. Dances, bridge parties, bobbies and “spreads” are given. There are dining rooms, not at all suggestive of the old-fashioned "boarding house;” cozy, “chintzy'' living rooms where girls can group about a piano for a "sing fest,” and during the summer mohths. the roof garden for special entertainments. During the year, Miss Marie Orr, House Club president, brings special speakers to meetings. The first residence hall located at 122 E. Michigan St., accomodated only thirty-two girls; this new hall will house 118. Mrs. Masten stated “that she don't know of a single occupation open to women that isn't represented.” She also emphasized that Blue Triangle Hall is really the center for every department of the Y. W. C. A. A special dinner will be given the girls Sunday, at which the anniversary will be celebrated. Mrs. Masten will review briefly the history of the hall.

Family Menus

BY SISTER MARY BREAKFAST—Baked winter pears, cereal, cream, codfish and potato puffs, corn muffins, syrup, milk, coffee. LUNCHEON Creamed veal, buttered new carrots, rhubarb betty, mill: tea. DlNNEß—Planked hamburg steak, lyonncme potatoes, creamed cauliflower, stuffed celery salad, cabinet pudding, milk, coffee. Many housewives will prefer not to serve a meat for luncheon and dinner both, but when children must be considered, a hearty meal is necessary for them at noon time. Creamed Veal Two and one-half cups diced cooked veal. 4 hard cooked eggs, 2 teaspoons grated lemon rind, 1 teaspoon salt, *4 teaspoon pepper, l!a tablespoons butter, 2 tablespoons flour, 1 cup milk, few drops onion juice, 6 small triangles of toast, parsley. Cut eggs in dice about the size of the veal. Combine eggs and meat and sprinkle with grated lemon rind, salt and pepper. Melt butter, stir in flour and slowly add milk, stirring constantly. Add onion juice and bring to the boiling point. Add prepared meat and eggs and make very hot over hot water. Allow twenty minutes for the mixture to become thoroughly heated. Serve on a hot deep platter and garnish With triangles of toast and sprigs of pars,ley.

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And a pair of lizard slippers in a shade of navy blue To complete a stunning sweater frock identical in hue, Makes him think that he is lucky to have stiffened up a bit Which affords a good excuse to just be lazy and to sit.

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Acquaintance Tea The first of four “acquaintance teas” to be given by the South Side Dranch of the Y. W. C. A. was held this afternoon in honor of charter members of the organization. Mrs. O. L. Teague was general chairman, assisted by Mrs. Henry Unger and Mrs. Thelma Stocker. Miss Florence Lanham of the main branch of the “Y” gave a short talk on membership. The Girl Reserve Club of school No. 31 gave a stunt, and Miss Virginia Boyd entertained with a reading. Spring flowers and candles decorated the tea tables. Miss Harriett Mey, Mwncie, a student at Western College for Women. is spending the week-end with Mr. and Mrs. O. M. Pittenger, 1200 E. Forty-Second St.

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Past Chiefs Club Mrs. J. Earl Brown, 621 W. Thirtieth St., entertained twenty-five members of the Past Chiefs Association of Myrtle Temple No. 7 Thursday afternoon. Assisting hostesses were Mrs. Galen T. Doyal and Mrs. Ella M. Carter. Decorations were roses and spring flowers and refreshments carried out the eolor scheme of green and white. Special guests were Mrs. William J. Miller, Mrs. Lillian Seyse. Little Hyla and Master Dean Doyal gave readings. Egg Filler If you have almost enough leftover meat for patties, creamed meat on toast or a baked supper dish, dice a couple of hard-boiled eggs for filler.

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