Indianapolis Times, Volume 39, Number 283, Indianapolis, Marion County, 23 March 1928 — Page 18

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‘Be Cheerful’ Theory Offers Only Solution for Problem of Worry BY MARTHA LEE OP 1 course, it is easy to say “be cheerful” to someone else when one lias no troubles, but still that is the advice that is the best for the person w T ho takes life and its ups and downs too seriously. So many of my readers, especially the very young ones, Avritc me about such little worries that I feel sorry that they trouble themselves over such trifles.

No matter if a worry is but a small one if a man or woman is troubled about, that person suffers just as much as though there was something really big on his or her mind. Constantly I am advising my correspondents of the futility of wearing out the mind and body over something that amounts to less than nothing. With the coming of spring, one’s spirits should soar. Nature is an excellent teacher and one should be emulated especially at this time of year. Everything is awakening now and I hope all these correspondents who have felt depressed during the dull winter days will become encouraged and try to look on the sunny side instead of the quite smoggy side of life. Just forget these little troubles, for really, you know, worry puts one at a disadvantage in one’s attempt to reach the best way out of the difficulty. Give yourself all the “bfeaks” and take the big advantage of forgetting how to worry and I am sure those troubles will gradually be left far behind. Dear Hiss Lee: I am worried. X am 13 and have been married seven months. My husband does not object to anything I do. He is what everyone calls a '‘good husband,” but I am not happy. Before we were married he had a way of sympathizing with me and seemed to understand me a bit, but now I have to fight my battles alone. He never thinks of being affectionate only when I scold him for being indifferent. Then he will be himself again for awhile. But before long he will be as cool as ever. I once told him of it and he replied that it was not his way to be “lovey.” But Miss Lee, do you understand why marriage should make such a difference? I don’t and I think that though I appreciate his liberality and all that, I have reason to object. I am of a timid disposition. Does that make any difference? Should I leave him or what should I do? DOROTHY. Dear Dorothy: You are a very fortunate girl to be married to a man who does no more to worry you than your husband does. Naturally a man takes his wife more for granted after marriage because .he feels as though she is his. Once a young man told me that when a man really loves a girl he is content to tell her so once and then he feels that she understands what continues to be in his heart. Men dislike a show of emotion. In fact, I knew that the men who make the outer display of their affections towards their wives are generally the ones who are having affairs on the side. It is your youth that gives you this wrong idea of marriage. When you get a little older you will find out what every woman discovers, that a man expresses his love by providing for his wife and doing everything in his power to make her comfortable. Take my word for this, now, my dear Dorothy. You will agree with me later. Do not tire your husband by constantly giving him caresses. Forget your ridiculous idea of leaving him. Dear Miss Lee: I surely wish you would print my reply to Married Student. I have been a reader of your advice for several years and personally think you mete out very good advice. I am a Harvard graduate, as yet unmarried and

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shall remain so until I can marry Independently of any woman's support. First, I should say that this young man takes life as a huge joke. If I am wrong, to what level does he think the morale of men has dropped? Does he forget the old saying “what is home without a mother?” He most certainly does if he would send one of his children to the office or factory for her. It is with deep regret that I cannot challenge this young man to a debate on this subject. It was to my sorrow to read that this young man does not think a housewife and mother has to be intelligent. Let me say that I am one of seven and have seen my mother faced with problems that would puzzle a banker or any professional except a mother Does he reallv believe he could let a girl show him a good time at her own expense? If so. where has the "he-man” gone? Is it not the pride of every man to see just what he can do toward building his mate a home? A few years, boys, some of you will be faced with the serious problem of selecting the right colors for your dresses and aprons. Even today it is the male bird that feeds the young and feathers the nest. This tradition or the male has come down through the ages and will remain. Am I not right? I am open to criticism. OLD MAN 28. Dear Old Man 28: I am glad to see that one of our modern young men agrees with me that a woman is very foolish to assume financial responsibility for the home because she takes away some of the best traits in masculine character. Worried Brunette—Do not worry about your attracting young men. It is probably your good disposition more than what you refer to as “your well shaped legs’’ that make the boys like you because you say yourself that you weigh entirely too much for modern standards of beauty. Ithink my dear, you have become saturated with the “it” idea. Forget it and get interested in something besides your “fatal attraction” for young men. In fact, most young women write me they are worried about their not having dates, so you ought to be glad you are so popular. CITY COUPLE OBSERVES WEDDING ANNIVERSARY Mr. and Mrs. Jacob D. Miller, 509 W. Fifty-Fourth St., celebrated their fifty-fifth wedding anniversary today with a dinner at the home of their daughter, Mrs. C. L. Dold, 5331 Sunset Ave., and will hold a reception Sunday afternoon for friends and relatives. Mr. and Mrs. Miller have been residents hrere forty-nine years. Besides the daughter, Mrs. Dold, the Millers have four sons, Claude, Gale, Charles and Clyde Miller, all of Indianapolis. Sorority Formats Dates for spring formals of sororities at Indiana State Normal, Terre Haute, are: Alpha and Kappa, May 5; Psi Theta, May 26. Euchre Party The Independent Order of Shepherds will give a euchre party this evening at 29’i S. Delaware St. Mrs. Dora Beadle is in charge.

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Opens Essay Contest for High Schools The national defense committee of Caroline Scott Harrison Chapter, Daughters of the American Revolution, of which Mrs. James H. Taylor is chairman, has announced an essay contesc to be conducted in the six high schools of the city. The contest is being conducted with consent of Charles F. Miller, public school superintendent. The essays, to be on “National Defense,” are not to exceed 500 words in length and should be in by March 30. The five best essays in each school will be sent to Dr. George N. Bowman, American Legion, and $2.50 in gold will be awarded to the pupil writing the best essay in each school. Other members of the national defense committee are: Mrs. Donald N. Test, vice chairman; Mesdames Joseph C. Schaf, Jr., Addison J. Perry, Roy Fatout, Joel Whitaker, Charles E. Kregelo, Albert Gall and Miss Florence Howell. Stunts Presented by Classes in Y. W.C.A. Units Each of the seventeen classes in the commercial educational department and the seven classes in the Bible department of the Y. W. C. A. presented a stunt at the annual educational department dinner on Thursday at the Y. W. C. A. A radio program was given by the self-expression class, a style show by the sewing class, poems by the French class and songs by the Spanish class. Mrs. Samuel Ashby, Y. W. C. A. president; Mrs. A. W, Bowen, member of the board of directors, and Misses Florence Lanham, religious education director, were speakers. Miss Ruth S. Milligan, educational director, presided. Miss Hazel Stamm, violinist; Miss Frances Smith and Mrs. O. L. Sevrier, soloists, gave a program. • Fifty-Third Anniversary Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Watkins, East Monticello, celebrated their fifty-third wedding anniversary today. Surprise Shower Miss Beulah Edwards whose marriage to Roy Hazelwood, Chicago, will take place Saturday was honored with a surprise miscellaneous shower Wednesday evening given by Mrs. James Reside, 1412 Central Ave. Series of Parties The Busy Club will give a euchre and bunco party each Friday night at the home of Mrs. Hannah Means, 820 E. Twenty-Seventh St., beginning tonight.

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BY JULIA BLANSHARD NEA Service Writer NEWARK, N. J., March 24.—A thin dime started Ida O’Dell on the read to success through a tea room she built with her own hands. Ida is a blue-black haired Irish lassie. Smiles, spunk and sagacity are her native stock in trade. She had always wanted to preside over a neat, spick and span little tea room where couples drop in to chat in whispers and smile soulfully. But ever since she was 16, Ida O'Dell worked on a switchboard in one business office or another. As she plugged and rang she dreamed of the delicacies she would serve some day—and how! But she never got enough money ahead to take time off to learn the business. Last year the company she worked for failed. She looked for work weeks on end. Broke, disconsolate, she was just leaving an office where they had hired girls before her when she spied a shiny dime blinking cheerfully at her from the sidewalk. “I pounced on that dime,” Ida related, feelingly. “I’d spent my last cent on carfare. That dime seemed like a million. For eight blocks I tried to decide whether I’d have coffee and a doughnut or soup. Going without food is no joke.

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“Out of a clear sky, like the dime, came an idea. Why shouldn’t I get a job where meals came with the work? I could wait table and then I’d have both coffee and doughnut and soup as well. Moreover I might be able to learn the lea room business. “I looked at the dime and it seemed -o understand. Again an inspiration. I flipped the dime. Heads came. I never questioned it nor changed my mind. I went to the nearest restaurant and got not only my coffee and doughnut, but a job. “Later I changed to other restaurants and finally a tea room. I played in luck again. I became assistant to the manager and had a chance to really learn. Then a patron became interested in me. I told her my ambition to run a tea room and she ended by supplying the financial backing. • “She gave me this basement and some money. I slaved for a month —bought my fui'niture at the factory, painted it all three coats myself, made all the lunch cloths and everything.” Others say that Ida doesn’t tell the half when she describes the way site slaved to transform the dingy basement into the cheery,

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Federation President to Be Guest Mrs. Hamet D. Hinkle, Vincennes, president of the Indiana Federation of clubs, will be the guest of honor at the convention of the Seventh District Federation of Clubs at the Severin April 20. Election cf district officers will be held. Luncheon reservations should be made with Mrs. J. B. Phillips of Mrs. C. T. Austin. The morning program will include reports of district chairmen of departments and music by the federation chorus. Mrs. Hinkle will speak. Tea Sunday * Mrs. Minnie Hiatt, 2507 College Ave.. will entertain at tea Sunday afternoon complimenting Mrs. Rose Addington, Englewood, N. J., who has been here for six weeks visiting her sister, Mrs. George Lemaux, 4560 Park Ave.. and her nephew and family, 4550 Park Ave. Warner- White Mrs. Loren G. White, 2107 Napoleon St., announces the marriage of her daughter, Dorothy Irene to Robert W. Wai'ner, son of Mr. and Mrs. William Warner. Mr. and Mrs. Warner are at home at 1206 Southern Ave. Quarterly Meeting Katherine Merrill Tent, No. 9, Daughters of Union veterans, held its quarterly meeting Saturday evening at Ft. Friendly. Seven tents were represented and three State officers were present. quaintly fresh-looking little tea room it is today—all done in granite gray and bright blue, with checked table cloths with blue cut-outs of tea pots, tea cups and so on, and with the ugly overhead pipes now vine-covered and gleaming with paint. After scrubbing, cleaning and painting, Miss O’Dell hurried into the kitchen to prepare such dishes as her “hot fudge toddy cake,” “vitamine salad,” spiced croquettes with Mexican sauce, snowflake muffins, rice waffles with powdered maple sugar and cinnamon and so on—all luscious concoctions daydreamed into existence long ago at the switchboard. Now Miss O’Dell’s staff includes a cook, a helper and two waitresses. She manages, buys, is hostess and cashier and in rush hours waits on her special customers. She's the first to come each day and the last to go. “Os course I’m happy, but I’m not satisfied yet,” Miss O’Dell confesses. “My ambition now is to have a whole chain of tea rooms. Pretty soon I mean to start the second. “But do you know, I’d never dare start it until I flipped a dime for luck and guidance. And what is more, I’d feel that it wouldn’t be right unless I found the dime.”

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