Indianapolis Times, Volume 38, Number 319, Indianapolis, Marion County, 15 April 1927 — Page 19

APRIL 15, 1927

DON’T HAVE STANDARDIZED MIND

Martha Lee Declares Those With Rubber-Stamp Ideas Admit Their Own Inferiority—Running With ' the Mob Destroys Individuality. By Martha Lee Have you rubber-stamp ideas? Do you look, think, act like everybody else and are horribly afraid you'll do something a bit different?

It may be the age of standardization, but not in minds. This standardization of mind is limited and unnatural and often hides real charm and attractiveness. It’s certainly an admission of inferiority. Those with rubber-stamp minds accept ideals of others, agree at least on the surface, no matter how their souls rebel and become a mere ‘‘yes, yes” man or woman, Thus running with the mob. is not only a rank destroyer of individuality, but it often tramples justice flat underfoot —all because of the terrible fear of being thought “odd” or "different.” He’s Not of Her ‘Crowd’ Dear Martha Lee: I am eoming to you with a problem that is beginning to trouble me seriously. The young people I so with are college bred, of good families —all but one. .... , I met this young man while doing college research work. Physically he is my ideal. I was instantly attracted to him. He has a good mind, too. but being of foreign extraction and of very poor parents. ho has the education, manners and general mental equipment of a tactory band. He adores me and if I lollowed my feelings. I would him. Now every one of my friends would think I had gone crazy if I introduced him into our crowd. I am beginning to suffer, because in all my life I’ve never met any one I’ve felt this MARG , E I don’t like to advise you about kthis, Margie. It so depends upon "whPt sort of a. person you are. If your love for him has qualities other than those resulting from physical attraction, you will not let “what folks say” outweigh your regard for him. However, you indicate a large respect for mass opinion and might always resent his causing you to flaunt this. A possible solution is the fact that he may be willing to work hard to mentally improve—for your sake. In the meantime, though only you know whether you have sufficient courage to stand by your choice, against “the crowd.” He Broke His Dates Dear Martha Lee: I am a young girl. 17. and considered good looking. T went out with a fellow five or six times, but he always wanted to stop some place and ‘pet.’’ One evening this fellow so tar forgot himself that I became angry and would not speak to him all the way h °He'fmal!y won me over though, made a date for the following week, promising to be good. Ho didn’t call. About a month later, he made a date with me and l roke It flat. After that, although l saw him several times, be did not explain, but is so sweet and laughs and jokes, so I can t be angry with him. . . What is wrong? I am considered good looking and l like him v^mj'tbEN. You should have had too much pride to make that second date after ':r* didn't call the first time. Also, he has shown that his interest in you is not the wholesome kind you can count on. He simply doesn’t (•are for a girl that shows she has standards, and if you’re wise, you’ll give hint no more thought. J He Does Not Propose Dear Martha Lee: T ani a French war l>ri(U\ My marrmpe was unfortunate and i was divorced five years ago. T have h en sroiiig wfth a middle aged man for lour years. I Jove him dearly and I think he loves me. He is away most of the lime, and I have no dates while he is tone. , . Ho has often said we would bo married.

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but always says lie is not ready. He has a very good position ,iuid is making enough money to supply a gb%t liomy. Don't you think if tie really loved me he would want to give mo his name? He is good to mo otherwise—would give me anything. EVAN P. Perhaps the fact that he is gone so much makes him feel a reluctance to establish a home. Also, there may be some reason other than what appears on the surface. Do you know anything of this man’s personal life when away from here? Goes With Another Girl Dear Martha Lee: I am 19 and have known but, not gone steady with a. fellow for several years. He occasionally goes with a girl five years his senior. Wliat hurts me is that 1 know she only lias dates with him because there isn't any one else to date at the time. Every few months, perhaps, he asks me to go riding with him. but he never makes steady dates. Now he has left the city for a few weeks and hasn’t written. Shall I write to him? LONESOME. Certainly don’t write him. You positively no reason or excuse to, as he has shown no specific interest in you. All you can do is be as charming tts possible when you are with him. You can't force love or interest. ‘‘■Lonesome” don’t you realize that I can’t help you as you desiVe when you send me such inadequate address? I can’t communicate with you until I know certainly how to reach you so don’t be disappointed. SATIN FROCKS Satin, with bandings or other trimmings made from the "Hull side, is coming to the fore for daytime ensembles. A two-tone hat, with irregular brim, either in felt or straw, livens up the one-color satin ensemble.

WOMAN’S MOVEMENT IS QUIETER, BUT STILL HERE Although Noise of ‘Equal Rights’ Is Missing in Papers, Suffrage Doesn’t Satisfy.

r?iv Allene Sumner For a long time the tired business man lias realized as he read his eve-* ning paper that something was lacking. The other night it came to him. He pranced into the kitchen, paper in hand, and demanded of “the little woman” busily drowning the steak in mushrooms: “We may be doing wrong to the tired business -man’s grammar, but not at ell to his idea. Both the tired business man and other kinds of men and women as well, have begun realizing of late that the expression “woman movement” lias practically vanished, and that no longer do we see our papers pictured with marching women, banners across their “bosoms, fair arms upholding venomous placards demanding this right and that right. No longer do we see headlines proclaiming the forcible feeding of Mrs. So-and-So, jailed for picketing the White House and yelling that she’d pull the President’s nose if he didn't do right by our Nells.” Doesn’t Satisfy Even the glib answer that women achieved that for winch they picketed, women suffrage, does not quite satisfy. For everyone knows that ever since 1920 and the victory of the 19th amendment, one has heard rumblings and mutterings of “the women movement.” But whether you “see it in the papers” or not, whether it’s said in parades and banners or otherwise, there IS a woman movement today. If you doubt it, just send a card to the National Woman’s Party, doing business on Capitol Hill, right where It can watch out the front windows who goes in and out of Congress. You know, of course, that this party is devoting its energies to a 20th amendment, which is known as the National Equal Rights amendment—a simple little amendment reading “men and women shall have equal rights throughout the United States and every place subject to its jurisdiction.” v Equal Rights? Maybe you think that they have “equal rights” now. Listen! The party has been delving in the lay libraries of the Supreme Court for months. Here are some of the startling' discoveries just disclosed: Papas of Georgia and Maryland can legally will away the custody of their children from the mother— In three states, Michigan, New York and Massachusetts, the minor child need give its earnings to its father only— A father of Florida may collect damages for “the mental pain and suffering” of a mother whose child has been injured or killed. , In many states married women may not legally sign certain papers. A Texas husband may divorce his wife for one infidelity, but she may not divorce him unless she can prove that he is living “in a state of infidelity.” In many skates a woman cannot legally own the clothes which her husband buys her, but is entitled to only “the use of them.” Recent Findings The law of Georgia says that a wife’s earnings belong to her husband. Four pages of legal size paper, typed single space are filled with similar recent findings of the legal research department of the National Woman’s Party. The findings are put forth merely as reason why the proposed oth amendment is necessary. The party* points with shame to iqual rights provisions in the constitutions of other countries. Austria, Czechoslovakia, Free and Hanseatie City of Danzig, Esthonia, Germany, Llthunia and Prussia have equal rights constitutional provisions, all adopted since 1919. The party is especially riled at sixteen states and their laws which for-

TARKINGTON ANSWERED ON NUPTIAL FREEDOM Mrs. Ferguson Disagrees With Hoosier’s Plan for Happy Marriages.

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marriage. In this lies the crux of our mistake. Matrimony is like anything else —business, politics, friendship or golf. Rewards come only to those who work for them. You have to put a great deal into them before you get many returns.

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