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‘Women’s Conference’ at Eastern Star Eastern Star Baptist Church was tilled with the spirit last week for the 3" Annual Women’s Conference. The Conference included many guest speaker for the various seminars and workshops held during the three days. Each day ended with a spiritual service and prayer. Attendees concluded that this year’s conference was a total success. (Recorder photo by Curtis Guynn)

METROPOLITAN MISSIONARY BAPTIST CHURCH 2815 Sutherland Avenue * Indianapolis, Indiana Aim AND WOMEN’S BAY Sunday, August 15, 1999 Theme: “Men and Women United with a Mind to Work for the Master” 11:00 a.m. speaker: Charles Powell Greater Northeast Baptist Church 3:45 p.m. speaker Sis. Barbara Boner Light of the World Christian Church ALL ARE WELCOME! Sister Carol Carson, Deacon James Long • Co-Chairpersons Reverend Kevin 0. Long, Pastor

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» (Readers, manhood is a serious matter. In our community some men are earning A+ while others Are lower than F-. I want to bring 'some balance to the inequity by 'devoting the next several column ■ 'to men. Whether you are a man, woman or a child, this column will 'offer you much to think about. It 'will provoke you, tickle you, and 'even enflame you. But lama firm fieliever that the Lord moves in mysterious ways. Come travel with the Love Clinic into manhood.) * Dear Rev. Patterson, When I was a girl my father 'Sexually abused me. It went on from the time I was 5 until I was IS. Back then I was young and so confused that I thought all fathers did that with their daughters. My father is a deacon in the church and he made the abuse seem scriptural. r No one in the family ever found I ‘out for I never told. Because they r would probably never believe that f this scriptural quoting man was a • molester. Even though I am a ‘ woman now, I am experiencing problems in my life. I don’t have

positive experiences in dating. I don’t trust men in general and church men in particular, and my faith in God is just about shot. My current problem is that the family reunion is coming up soon. It stirs up memories of my past with my father. Worst of all he demands that I be a part of family celebrations on this day. I hate him and I can’t help it. Am I wrong for this? Hurting Dear Hurting, I praise the Lord that you are able to finally discuss your situation. Your pain is real. You are never wrong for experiencing pain, this is natural God-given gift that let’s us know that something is wrong. The sexual abuse that you endured caused wounds deep in your soul as well as your physical being. If you have not started yet, I recommend therapy. This is the only way you can move forward with your life. Otherwise the anger, bitterness and rage stemming from the incest will cripple your life.

With counseling you will be able to face the family reunion will a new understanding that what was done to you was not your fault. It is also important that your adult relationship with your father not mirror the past. He must understand that he no longer has control over you. It may be to your advantage to reveal the abuses to your family members. He may have abused others in addition to you. All of the victims gain strengthwhen the secret is uncovered. It is a sad reality that sexual abuse is particularly found in Christian homes. (There seems to be a connection between rigid religious beliefs and the abuse of women.) According to statistics one-in-three

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young women will be sexually molested before she is 18. There are millions of emotionally crippled women in our churches today. They refuse to get treatment, preferring to live their lives wallowing in yesterday’s pain. You deserve a better life. Prescription: You can be an overcomer instead of a sufferer. Even though you are in turmoil with your earthly father, do not forget represent your relationship with God the Father. This father will never harm you. “And now to him who is able to keep you from falling and to present you without blemish before the presence of his glory with rejoicing...” Judel:24. Rev. Shewn C. Patterson is the founder/director of the Love Clinic in Dallas, Texas and author of the book, "The Love Clinic - There Is A Doctor In The House, ” (Black Pearl Publishers). Join her via the intemetatwww.theloveclinic.com. You may send questions or comments to The ’Love Clinic, PO Box 764675, Dallas, Texas 7W6, ,

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Women's Conference. When: Sept. 16-19. Where: Sheraton/Westin at Keystone Crossing. All proceeds will be donated to the Gilead House - a home for chemically addicted women & their preschool i children. For more intormation please call Reba Harris at 765-457-9489.

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MESSIAH MISSIONARY BAPTIST CHURCH OUR SACRIFICE - HIS MIRACLE CAPITAL STEWARDSHIP CAMPAIGN SUPER SUNDAY CELEBRATION AUGUST IS, 1999 lliOO AM. & 400 PAL Special Guest:

Guest Preacher! REVEREND STEPHEN B. HALL Senior Pastor St Maty 's Baptist Church Athens, Georgia Special Music: Messiah Baptist Church Music Department

Rev. Stephen J. Clay Senior Pastor

RIBBON CUTTING CELEBRATION BETHEL AFRICAN METHODIST EPISCOPAL CHURCH 414 W. Vermont St. • Indianapolis, In 46202 • 634-7002 AN INVITATION TO THE COMMUNITY Join us as we re-enter our newly renovated sanctuary SUNDAY AUGUST 15,1999 3:00P.M. PROCESSIONAL from Ilth & Martin Luther King St. to Bethel A.M.E. Church 4:00P.M. RIBBON CUTTING CEREMONY in front of Bethel SERVICE OF CELEBRATION DR. MELVIN GIRTON, SR. PREACHING Pastor of Christ Missionary Baptist Church BE A PART OF HISTORY!

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PASTOR and WIFE 20TH ANNIVERSARY

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Aug. 22,1999—FIRST FWB CHURCH Elder Charles Sheppard pastor

You are cordially invited to join us in the celebration I of our Pastor and Wife twelfth anniversary services. ; | When: Mon., Aug. 16,1999 - Fri., Aug. 20,1999 Ending on Sun., August 22,1999 Time: Each night the service will start promptly at 7:30 p.m. * Sunday’s service will begin at 3:30 pjn. Where: 1401 Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Street Theme: ANOINTED AND SENT BY GOD Guest Churches: MON. - REV. CHARLES BOSTIC of Cathedral of Faith Baptist Church TUBS. - REV. JOHNNIE DOUGLAS of Greater St Matthew Baptist Church WED. - REV. ALBERT SIMMONS of Freedom Missionary Baptist Church THURS. - REV. CLIFTON RUSSELL of Gabriel Baptist Church FRI.- REV. VERNON DAVIS of Christian Tabernacle Baptist Church SUN.- REV.SHEPBANKS ». of Greater Shepherd Baptist Church If you are unable to attend any of these services, please remember us in your thoughts and prayers. ■ ‘ : T ■ ■ ? Sis, Virginia Naylor, Pastors Aide Chairman Rev. Eddie R. Carrcthers. Pastor, Greater Progressive Baptist Church