Evening Republican, Volume 21, Number 309, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 4 January 1918 — Page 2

Little Problems of Married Life

By WILLIAM GEORGE JORDAN

t e« ,rr ."t3»5 <P?Wv’i**K4j ri -r 1 Man COMRADESHIP IN MARRIED LIFE. There is bat one reason, but one justification for marriage, and that is all the other motives are not reasons, they are only excuses. Those ferho start in married life with a good capital of love feel that they have an absolute guarantee of harmony and happiness that will endure through all their years, but if they depend solely on love they may find they are exhausting their capital instead of living on the interest and may soon become bankrupt of love. But love alone is too fine, delicate and emotional to stand the constant hard usage of daily life. Like gold, it is better and stronger when alloyed; love should be made sturdy ■ and lasting, reinforced, strengthened and intensified in its power to resist wear. • It is only when alloyed, or blended, with comradeship and trust that it is at its best. The truest, sweetest and happiest Carriages are those of two who just are wedded sweethearts and good chums. With this duality of condition and trust that keeps their atmosphere pure, clear, bracing and wholesome, all sources of discord are neutralized, all joys are doubled by sharing, all sorrows lightened by mutual sympathy, comfort and inspiration, and all problems solved in the sweet sacredness of conference, with the united wisdom of both ever at the command of either, needing no outside referee. Success in married life does not require heroic spectacular qualities possible only to a few chosen ones, the elect of the earth; it needs only loving comradeship and confidence, a little self-control, courage, kindness, unselfohnreu*, cheerfulness and Just daily patience along the way. It does not require wealth, for often the poor are the happiest and most contented. It does not demand intellectual, powers and fine education, for two aged lovers, hardly able to read, may sit together in the sunshine by a cottage door at eventide, finding all their world in each other’s eyes, telling their beads of sweet memories of past joys and of sorrows outlived, and as her thin worn hand rests lovingly in his, there seems a benediction of calm peace and consecrated'love that makes mere intellec.A ‘'‘".M’wwvwtowwu" •• . • tual wisdom seem worthless by contrast. There are some who tell us the qualities necessary in husband and wife. The long inventory sounds like an unabridged dictionary of all the virtues and one can imagine the saints blushing with shame at the sudden realization of how far short they are of this perfection. It seems like a test examination for a front seat in paradise and few of us would get more than a nine per cent rating on an honest marking. Let us be thankful that two who are just human and with all their faults, foibles and failings can have happiness if they determine to have it and pay the pi-ice in thought and effort. It is not a gamble; it is a certainty if both determine to do their best and work in union and unity. It does not mean a life unclouded by trial, sorrow, or suffering hut a home filled with love and peace, a rest and a refuge where no real discord can long throw darkening shadows.

■ Comradeship Is one of the strongest ties of married life. Comradeship is friendship in a negligee suit; it is free, near, trustful, comfortable, familiar and intimate. It has a basic respect that makes formality out of place, and pretense and pose seem treason,;., the two are their natural selves, spontaneous and unrestrained except by that respect’for each other’s individuality that makes each careful not to wound , or offend the other. Comradeship between husband and wife is the finest type of friendship, for pulsirig througljjt is the constant current of love, tenderness, sympathy, nearness, dearness and closer communion of interests, that ever vitalizes, intensifies and freshens. Comradeship gives to each a finer, truer understanding of the ofher that comes, not from the mere observation of acts and of moods, but from glimpses into the depths of each other’s thought, the revealings of standards and ideals, the unconscious confession of hopes, fears and and restless ambitions that are hidden forces struggling towards expression like the root of a plant seeking to penetrate the soil and reach the light. These come only in easy conversation where there is no thought of talking for effect, no sense of being on dress parade. When the two are real comrades the wife is interested in the hobbles, games, business, friends, and politics of the husband. She may not see whatfun he can have knockingza little ball over the landscape ahd then poking round a big field to find it, but if golf gives, him any real pleasure she is \glad. and is interested, and wants to understand., Politics may seem to her Just something we pay officeholders to manage, but if he sees anything in it . she is pleased to give him a chance to let her Ih on the puzzle. Her talk about her friends, her clothes, her reading and the hundred trifles of gossip and comment that may appeal to her he hears with genuine Interest, not with that condescending tolerance that some foolish people, unconsdous of how much they might

tjjHkpStt■ JjpkAl IranernMßiW but when she joins one, and Is scheduled to write a paper he Is pleased to talk it over and dig tip some gems of TnaleflHl TIGUI iMTuIiW Of WwSHP line wisdom. Just to help out. They -|he hero a demigod and a pompous p?lg and they grow a bit enthusiastic and finally laugh at each other’s view, their nqn-agreement really does not make the least difference, you know, for this is just—comradeship. With this spirit of comradeship there is never any thought of settling the question of “who is boss?” for such a question never arises. When a problem comes up before this home Supreme court, they have a little earnest session and if they do not see the Issue from the same point of view, by concession and compromise the one who has thought most deeply on the subject, who feels It most intently ot who is most affected by it casts the deciding vote. Comradeship inspires tolerance and throws little peculiarities ipto the shadow; it ignores or obscures petty failings as of no real consequence; it concentrates on the fine sterling qualities and forgives and forgets the little mortgages. Love oftimes is exacting; in its intensity it may place undue importance on a trifle and be seriously disturbed at a flaw or failing that seems a scar op a noble character. Comradeship helps loVe to a more human view, a saner, wiser charity in judging. A man says a friend of whon he is genuinely fond, “he is a bully good fellow,”,,and all the emphasis ot his heart goes Into the words and atones for the phrasing; he knqws his friend’s fallings but loyalty minifies their importance, the eyes art trained not to see, the lips keep silence. In his bachelor days the husband may have had some frlehd tried and true who was dear to him, whom he trusted as one good man does another. If the golden light of some success or prosperity threw a glow of radiance across his pathway an ' involuntary smile brightened his face as he thought how pleased his friend would be te hear it, how unselfish would be his sympathy, how hearty would be his congratulations; he could bank on his friend’s happiness just as certainly and absolutely as If his own dear mother were listening to the story and eager for every word of detail. If the hand of sorrow pressed heavily on his soul, and the night of doubt and fear settled down on his life, and the ship of his great hope had sunk wheri it was almost in port, and ha faced failure and defeat, he knew one who would be unchanged, whom he could counL.cn to the very end. And when some problem affecting the welfare of either had to be solved it was the problem of both and they would stay up half the night to settle it like a jury locked out until they came to a verdict and they put together their wisdom just as they had often pooled their, meager funds when the exigencies or need of the, one became the privilege and glad opportunity of the other.

When this instinctive impulse to confidence is carried into married life and the heart a.nd the lips and the outstretched arms turn to the wife as naturally as the.magnetic needle finds its north, with the truest comradeship made greater and finer by love, then married life has no real problems that the two, united and in unison, canndt solve. * Comradeship holds the specter of monotony at bay. With tyvo ever bringing their best sweetly to each other, as a little.child carries to its mother a wayside flower it has plucked, just because it is most natural to bring it to her, there is little fear that their days will be long or that they will himger for change from each other when they are finding this change in each other and with each other. Whatever tends to lessen their comradeship and to decrease their dependence on each other is a menace to One of the early temptations of married life is to live with the old folks. It all sounds so alluring when it Is proposed that “they can take the entire third floor which is not really needed” by the home company who are willing to, donate it .or sublet it to the young firm. The advantages are obvious, the disadvantages are more subtle, but it -is a hazardous experiment. The opening words of the world’s greatest book are “In the beginning,” and they are the most important words of married life; they open its chapters of greatest joy and keenest sorrows. All its problems are most easily mastered “in the beginning;” prongs and injustice -that may throw the dark shadow of despair over the life of one and perhaps even finally separate forever the two "who have loved may, in a spirit bf calmness, courage and wisdom, be . silenced forever “in»the beginning.” If there have been mistakes and blind blundering and folly, if the two determine to start afresh, to begin all over again and wipe out the past, letting love, comradeship and trust be their watchwords they can have a new —beginning. And what was true of that first marriage in the dim dawn of hjstory, in that garden of Eden, is true of all marriages and will be till time shall end that their paradise is committed to the absolute keeping of the two, and that they shall watch It and guard It and care for it and that only by their own wrong shall thia paradise with all its joys, and Its peace and Its Sunshine ever pass from them. ~ '

THE EVENINgM'MPUBLICAN, IND.

ITALY in ALBANIA

ITALIAN military operatidns in Albania may or may not bear fruit, but the benefits of Italian occupation will prove lasting. In more than one respect the satisfaction which Italians have always found in likening themselves to the ancient Romans is justified. For’the Romans possessed a certain quality which one can call by no better name than civilizing genius. Where Rome passed Roman footprints still linger indelibly, says Edgar Ansel Mowrer in a letter to the Chicago Daily News. Though the empire of Trajan is less than a memory, the Roman road, the Roman bridge, the Roman building or wall have lasted long after other later constructions have crumbled into sand, for the reason that the least of the Roman enterprises the “Roman idea,” one of the strongest conceptions European humanity has known. Those old stern soldiers and governors civilized and embellished the peoples and lands they ruled. But they not only built cities and pushed roads to the ends of the earth wherever the cohorts advanced but more enduring cities, more substantial bridges and better roads than this earth had seen before or has known since. Modern Italy has inherited much of the “Roman idea.” Italy today shares the old love for bureaucratic government, for order, for solid construction outwearing the mere “utilitarian” product, for in its way Italy hankers after the same vicarious immortality of lasting monuments which possessed the builders of ancient temple and basilica. And, like the legions of long ago, the Italian army of today advances ’to civilize and builds for an entire age. Ample evidence for this statement may be found in the roads and “military works” at the Italian front, but, better still, In the occupied territories of southern Albania, which Italy has either taken for itself, as Avlona, or Is holding for the barely conceived state of Albania, whose approaching birth it has so sententiously announced. Only to a limited degree can this work of amelioration be attributed to any but generous motives. Race That Does Not Progress. Southern Albania, a rough, wild tract of sparsely cultivated land, is

thinly inhabited by an old race, the so-called Toski, forming the southern branch of the Albanian family. The district has been conquered more than once, but it has always remained somewhat backward. During the civil wars in ancient Rome, a number of old soldiers and other partisans of the beaten factions, migrated thither. But their number was too small to enable them to give durable backbone to the indigines, who, though wild, have rarely managed to present any organized resistance to an invader. For “the Toski do not apparently share the admirable love of independence of the northern Albanians. , They are Indeed a. mild race and unless pushed to hopelessness by extraordinary oppression easy to govern. And, Strangely . enough, all the Albanians, though they prove themselves in foreign lands amid other surroundings to be a quick-witted people, capable of many things, though they obviously possess many* of the major virtues, have at home remained essentially semibarbarous. Today, though they do not oppose, they do almost nothing to aid the Italians in their great work of transforming the country, and their general Wnpassivlty Is rather like a which the civilizers must constantly be lifting and moving from one place to another. First Census Since Augustus. Space is lacking for more than a brief survey _of the, - accomplished works. First of -all, it is fitting to apeak of administration. The entire occupied region north of the London frontier has been divided on the Italian model into the province of Avlona.

Harbor of Durazzo.

the protince>of Argirokastron and the district (clrcondario) of Chimara, with a total population Of 165,459 persons, almost equally divided between t the Moslem and the orthodox The census upon which the ure is based is the first to be taken in Albania since the great census of Augustus, made some I*9oo years ago. Combined Italian and native courts were Instituted and as a resjilt, the classic Albanian feud rendered superfluous, hence illegal. Schools for little children have been opened throughout -the country, in number 124, with 194 “teachers. Civil police service distinct from ordinary military surveillance has been organized with fl view to granting as large a liberty as is compatible to the ■civilians. The horrid Turkish prisons were in some cases abolished, in others thoroughly sanitized. New buildings will soon be erected. Coastal navigation between Albanian ports and linking them to nearby Corfu is encouraged within the limits of naval exigencies.' Customs offices with coast patrols are already in operation and all t;he money taken In is spent in improving the country. Vast hygienic measures are being carried out. For the better supervision of the varied services pertaining to civil administration a secretaryship for civil affairs was instituted. It is defined as “the organ through which his excellency, General Ferrero, exercises his powers of watchfulness, control and guardianship over the vast field of state and autonomous administration.” The office issues periodical reports, to one of which'!" am thankful for most of the Information herein contained. The secretary, Count Hugo Capialbi, is an enthusiastic worker. Making Over Ancient Cities. A list of all the various things 'accomplished would read like a circular advertisement for a new western town, of a recently opened suburb. The ports of Avloqa and Satti Quaranta have been literally transformed by piers, .sheds, warehouses, various administrative buildings. A general survey of the entire country has been made and soon a new map will appear, corrected to the slightest detail. At Avlona the port isjinked to the nearby camps and military positions by

Op the Albanian Coast

more than ninety kilometers of Decauville nai-row gauge railroad. There are two ice factories, for the hospitals, an electric power plant, limekilns. Various existing buildings have been made over and serve as prefecture, as central office for the military engineers engaged in civil works, as post office, courthouse, agricultural office and civil affairs building. Within a short time a new customs office, public slaughter house, covered markets, town hall and courthouse will be built v ' The transformation of Avlona Seemed, at first beyond human capacity. Only those who have seen something of the orient will appreciate the filth, the tortuous plan, the general baseness of this semioriental port as it was before this war, as it had been for centuries, as it might always have been, it seems, had not some newcomer arrived to make the, herculean at--tempt to clean these truly Augean stables. But fortune favored the new-’' comers. A fire burned out the old market and the center of town. Austrian aviators destroyed many of the surrounding dwellings. u A, great open space was left in the very spot where the hopeless bazaars had once stood. To the Italians an open spot and leave to build on it are all a man needs to enjoy perfect bliss. They set up temporary bazaars and set to work. From boildings of immediate need they have passed to monuments and a plan la now on foot to adorn the new publiCi square with a /all clock tower and adequate fountains, for which a new aqueduct four miles long has been constructed and . another la about to ba built. J

DAY OF DETAILS

t- Utl- Thintir” Th nt Moko_ or Mar the Toilet. - Not- Difficult to - % Copy. •nils is Indeed the “day of little things” in matters of dress. It is in the details of the toilet that success, or complete want of success, lies. Never, I think, was more attention paid' to the dainty “frills and furbelows” that make a woman look so charming and, to the male eyes, so utterly bewildering, and these uncommon and lovely details are by no means expensive, only 'they demand the exercise of taste and —when they are made at home —they demand some patience, writes Idalia de Villiers, Paris correspondent This is indeed to be a “winder of embroidery.” ‘ But the latest designs, shown by our leading dressmakers and milliners, art not at all difficult to copy. They are original and surprisingly effect! a clever girl who knows how to use her needle can arrive at wonderful things. Take for example the exquisite little blouse-coatee shown in the sketch. This is one of Beer’s latest models and it is expressed in putty-colored poult

The Blouse Coatee.

de sole, with a beautiful gllet, or waistcoat, of putty-colored canvas cloth embroidered In royal blue and rust-red wools. The straight lines which run across the waistcoat are royal blue, in the thick soft wool which we used to ,call “double berlln,” and the wool is attached to the canvas cloth after the manner of soutache or braid. Then the little rounds are worked in rustled wool in a simple crewel stitch. Further, the loose tie which holds the collar in place is made entirely of royal blue wool, with a row of little red balls to form a fringe. You will notice that the same wool embroidery is introduced on the loose sleeves. Also that the blouse has a basque and a ceinture of piitty-color suede. Several of the more Important dressmakers are showing blouse coatees of this order and very pretty and decorative they are. The model described would be lovely in navy-blue duvetyn or soft'black serge, with gny chosen colors introduced In the waistcoat and oh the sleeves.

USE TURNOVER COLLAR MUCH

Extends to the Waistline In Many Street Dresses—Trimness and Simplicity Noticeable. Loose panels, or plaited panel?, in varied lengths, predominate in'street dresses, and there is a preponderance of the turnover collar extending to the waistline. * The regulation round or square collar also continues to be popular. A new coat-dress shows a standing collar, the dress fastening oil the side to the waistline. Trimness and simplicity are particularly notable in street dresses. Although afternoon dresses may be cut on similar lines, there is a decided tendency toward the use of two mate-, rials, silk, crepe arid' satin, crepe and serge, etc., and there is a great amount of drapery and plaits in evidence. Richness of effect is added to many dresses by the use of a satin body lining under crepe, in contrasting or selfcolor.

FASHION’S FANCIES

Detachable tunics—a new note. Plaids and stripes for sports wear. Bags to match the new fall hat! Dull wood brown —a new color arrival. The great hats of ceremony are as towering as a Chinese pagoda. Chenille embroidery vies with wool embroidery in decorating the new dresses. New stitches of embroidery are arranged to imitate carpet weaving. Two belts, rather narrow, are supplanting the broad single belt, which has been popular for so long on onepiece frocks. - - The tailored suits, dresses and coats •bow combinations of gaberdine, serge and tatin trimmed “with embroidery.

TWEEDS FOR SCHOOL FROCKS

**practical MateNiii for fi G ir | t rfW| g .j«a3 IA ■| | smon axafl-ebsM gjrf if in a soft, woolly tweed in a double* checked design. It is in black and white, yet the pattern is! woven so skillfully that it gives a gray effect that is inconspicuous and splendid to conceal dirt. The skirt is straight and plain, and the loose coat is ly high waisted, wi<i belt and straps of the same material. It has hip pockets and the ever-becoming flat collar and revers. With this may be worn a hat ip velours in a soft purple shade, simply adorned with a band of black ribbon. Tweeds are the newest and most practical/ftear for girls. Delightfully simple dancing dr school frocks are made in nattier blue poplin with a little suggestion of silk embroidery on- the collar, cuffs and sashends. This simple garment merely hangs in straight plaits from a yoke, yet will prove most> useful and becoming to youth. Dark shades to be worn this season—the grays, navys. and browns, and the tete-de-negre with dark greensare in vogue.

HANDMADE FLOWERS ON HATS

Newest Trimming Consists of Call® Lilies, Orchids and Clematis in Varied Colorings. , Quite the newest and most charming thing to do with your hat is to trim it with flpwers that are handmade. The shops are showing beautiful things made of chenille and fine nets. For instance, there are calla lilies, orchids, clematis and tiger lilies, a? well as butterflies In varied and brilliant colorings. Many shades of chenille are used to make the butterfly look as if it were poised upbn thegown. The bride is included in thenew trimming vogue. Her wreath of yore was made up of white wax flowers; now she wears adorable whitesilk roses set in silver with long spirals of silver. And her corsage matches. Nimble fingers can make most attractive flowers out of hand-tinted ribbons. One sees morning glories, poppies, pansies, sweet peas, etc., all of the tinted ribbon.

ZOUAVES WILL BE POPULAR

Idea Applied to Both Skirt and Jacket in Collection-of Spring Models From Paris. Possibly the most salient feature of the collection of models for spring brought over to New York from Parisis the prominence of the zouave idea.. This does not apply only to the skirt, for the elongated jacket is a feature of the zouave dress, as is also the boundin hipline, and these features are all repeated and played upon in this collection. While it may not seem that there isanything startlingly new in a dropped waistline, the manner in which the hips are bound, the jacket and theshowing of the blouse section under the jacket is distinctive. It produce® really another silhouette which, although narrow, is not straight andl binds in around the hips.

DAINTY BOUDOIR CAP

Sometime* you see a thing and you call it pretty or beautiful for lack of a word that would express the real exqulsitenes* and charm of the thing you were describing. Thia unusual boudoir cap is Just that sort of thing. It ha* . that Dutch effect, new this season, but which ha* been In vogue on and off for many years. The Venetian lace I* held in place with'* narrow pique blue ribbon. x *

Bloomers.

A great many women now wear bloomers in preference to petticoat* —so says one shopkeeper who ought to know. If milady prefers the bloomer* she may have them in crepe de chine in light colors or black satin if she, wishes something more practical.