Democratic Sentinel, Volume 21, Number 46, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 12 November 1897 — Minding Outside, Not In. [ARTICLE]

Minding Outside, Not In.

Parent*, it seems to me from my limited but interested observation of them, generally bring up their children, morally, according to one of two theories. One id to constantly point out a child's faults and defects, and punish It because It possesses them. The other Is to constantly hold up an ideal, and punl&li the child where It falls short of it. For Instance, the mother of one of the most successful and charming families [ know told me she never enforced obedience. “Until a child has learned to obey,” she said, “I punish her for disobedience, and then let the matter drop. I used to have sieges that wore out both sides with my self-willed little daughter to make her obey me In even trifling things. “One day, after a particularly lengthy battle, she Anally said: T'm minding you, mamma, because you're bigger than I am. But I want you to know that I’m not minding one bit inside.' The personal element, the conflict between her will and mine, was all that her childish reasoning had grasped. And that wasn’t at all what I wanted. “After that I put obedience before her as what was right, disobedience as what was wrong, and made her feel that disobedience was promptly punished, while all happiness lay In the path of obedience and right. Little by little her growing Instinct upon right and wrong, her developed sense of moral responsibility, made her always choose to obey. She had learned more than simply the hopelessness of holding out against somebody bigger than herself. And meanwhile she hadn’t lost confidence In herself from being constantly made to feel naughty.’’— Harper’s Bazar. The Japanese language Is said to contain 00,000 words, every one of which requires a different symbol. It Is quite Impossible for one muu to learn the entire language, and a well-educated Japanese Is familiar with only about 10,000 words. FITS PermansnHr Cured. Vo 0U or nerrouioew tfttr am d*j'« uu of Ur. Kllnet Orem Verve Ke•torer. Send for FKEK SS.ou trial bottle sod treetSe. Us. K. H. Slink, Ltd., BSI Areb M.. VtuleoelpUle, Vat