Democratic Sentinel, Volume 15, Number 49, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 25 December 1891 — The Love in Marriage. [ARTICLE]

The Love in Marriage.

“Don't make a mistake, my dear,” said a middle-aged . lady to a young friend; “don’t marry that man simply because you are in love with him. If he doesn’t care quite as much for you, you had better break your heart grieving over what you have not got, than wear your life out in sorrow because you are bound to n man whose indifference is perpetually before your eyes. The idea of teaching a man to love you is a most mistaken one. There are instances where it has been done, but it is the most unsatisfactory thing in the world to wait for. “A woman is much more likely to learn to love her husband after marriage, than the man to learn to love the wife, and the reason for this is evident: The woman in the quiet of her home has her thoughts constantly .directed towards the husband. The man in the whirl of business has a thousand things to distract his attention, and she must be a woman of more than ordinary grace and attractiveness, who can win a tired, oftentimes harassed and distracted, man from his business thought to a deep and lasting affection. You may say .that marriage is a lottery. So it is, but there are lotteries and lotteries, und of all chance games the chance of winning a wayward heart is about the most hopeless. Especially is this the case if the woman is herself deeply in love. She gauges the man’s feelings by her own and bases her demand on what she would herself do, as she fancies, under like circumstances. But she reasons from wrong premises, and, like all calculations based on error, comes far short of her expectations. Marry only the man who desires your love above all things else, otherwise it is better to remain single.”—New York Ledger.