Decatur Daily Democrat, Volume 13, Number 297, Decatur, Adams County, 11 December 1915 — Page 3

I From My Narrow Little Window II THE HOOSIER OBSERVER II HAPPY, THOUGH MARRIED. ■ K

■ DON’T LIE TO YOUR WIFE. J'Some one told me the other day that a woman (she didn’t say who it w»si said that she wished I wouldn't write any more ‘‘observations’’ on the above subject, because her husband sat. down and read them to her. • atiThey must have been a success, ■feerefore. I take heart and will elab(bate on rtHe 3 of our United Press rule of six for marital felicity. And this time that woman may turn the tables on her husband and sit down and read this to him. ; ' R ub ' three says: “Husband, don’t tell your wife you are going to lodge when you expect to play poker.” El am afraid Mr. Hubby is going to get 4.hard blow this time. For if there is anything under the heavens that I ijfcliko more than a liar, I have yet J wlay eyes upon it or hear of it—man or woman. When they once have lied to me and I know it, I am forever through with them. I am afraid to write all my true sentiments concerning the above for if they were to be heeded the divorce courts would be Oerrun and I would dislike to have go; much responsibility resting upon my shoulders. • • • • I Now the matter of what is crime differs with people. Like cold and heat, or truth, it is relative. To some wives it would be a crime in their eyes if their husbands wore a red fleck -tie; or a crime if he failed to heed rule one and not kiss her on going and coming home; or a crime if he failed to bring home the proper (amount of “bacon;” or if he beat her; or if he failed to provide properly. Be that as it may, to my mind, aside from the actual breaking of the prime Marriage vows otherwise, I would consider a man’s lying to his wife, as the greatest crime against marital felicity. I think, if I were a wife, I Would forgive anything else, including even that which he was trying to shield by lying—sooner than the lie itself. I think that, because I have found by actual experience in ' everyday life that I can never trust a person again, w’ho has once lied to me; and true happiness in married life is based upon trust and respect—and ABSOLUTE SINCERITY. So you can see that the way I look at it may be from an entirely different view-point than that taken by many a wife who is happy if only her “man” brings her home enough “bacon,” whether he stole it or lied for it or worked for it. If it add weight to what I say, let me tell you that in the past eleven years, three of which I worked in the county clerk's office, and eight in newspaper work in that department. 1 have handled nearly all the 2,212 marriage licenses by actual count that have been issued in this county in that time; and nearly all the divorces that have been applied for and granted in that time. Many of the couples have come under my personal observation, while others I have learned of only from the records from which I took my notes. Os the divorces I have had no count, but many whose weddings I have written, have also come up under my pen in the divorce court. Now I will proceed. In many of the divorces it is easy to trace the first break with the first breaking of trust and sincerity. Probably it all began when husband and wife began to lie to each other —when they did not face the truth squarely. « • * • I am not going to argue whether it is wrong to play poker. Ido not really know what poker is—l only know that I have the impression that it is not “nice” to play poker and that officers sometimes arrest persons—especially when they catch them playing poker. The wrong-doing in this marital rule game that concerns this article is in hubby’s saying he was going one place, when he expected to go another. Os course, everything might go along lovely, especially with I a trustful wife, but if she caught him lying once, even in a little thing, it seems to me that she could not trust him and believe him in the big things of life. Once the trust is gone, it seems to me life would be one long round of suspicion after the other, and therefore misery. I am not going to advise what to do if you have a husband who lies. I

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do not advocate divorce, but personally I could not live with him—l can’t abide either man or woman liars. It seems to me that a woman should know before marriage whether the man is a liar or not. If he lies before, he will lie after marriage, and she should not marry him. I know of one former Decatur lady who is unmarried. She loved a man and ho loved her and they were to have been married. She found out he smoked cigarettes. She couldn’t marry a man who gave promise of being a cigarette fiend. He promised that he would quit the cigarette smoking. He said he had and she believed him. She caught him smoking them one day. She broke the engagement and is still unmarried. Not the fact only that he smoked cigarettes kept her from marrying him, but the fact that he lied to her and that she could no longer trust him. She loved him and probably always will, but she felt that it would be a crime to marry where the marriage could not be based upon absolute sincerity. It hurt her to give him up, but she saved many a deeper hurt in so doing. I know of another case of an engaged couple in New York. The man is jealous of the girl, and probbaly has reason to be. While he was working later than usual one evening she told him she would go to a certain place and wait until he would be released from duty, when she would meet him and they wquld go home. Instead she met —and fully intended to do so all the time—another man, and walked about with him, until her own lover was off duty. He appeared on the scene sooner than he expected and there was a great quarrel. She did it much in a spirit of tease. And they made up. But unless a sweeping reform of some kind sets in there will be a long life of marital unhappiness. They might just as well face the music now’ as later, and save the encore. I know another couple who are married, but unhappy’. Before marriage, the boy did something that his parents did not approve of. He sneaked away to the dances and the girl went with him. She knew that he was deceiving his parents, but she encouraged him in it. She is today reaping the fruits of the affair, for her husband lies to her, too. • • « « As I said, I could not trust a liar enough to marry him. But IF I had married a man who did not lie before marriage, and did after, I would sit myself down full face to face with my own self and find out WHY I had made him a liar. It may be that the wife storms and rages and nags when he does something that does not please her little whims, and that he takes the easiest way out by telling her lies to sooth her and lull her into forgetfulness. Find out, wife, whether you are to blame for his lying. If you are, turn over a new leaf. Right here bobs up another thing. A man lying, not only lessens a wife’s trust for him, but it seems to me in his lying, he destroys another virtue upon which a woman’s love and admiration hangs. A woman admires a strong man. And a man who lies is cowardly. He lies to escape consequences—he takes the easiest way out. Man, don’t lie. If your wife is any kind of a “good sport” at all, she’d rather have you face her truthfully as the meanest man living, or even beat her with a club, than to have you come sneaking, cringeing home with a lie, because you feared her! Now, woman-who-didn't-want-me-to-write-any-more, you had better drop this, and let hubby read it to you. For I am going to say right here, that there are just as many lying wives, as there are lying husbands What applies to him, applies to her, too. They lie about not only going here or there, but about little things of the household. I am sorry to say, that I am afraid some husbands make liars and thieves of their wives. In my travels about the city, I heard of one in particular, and 1 suppose there are others—whose husband made her both a liar and a thief. She needed a new dress skirt and told him she must have a certain sum of money for it. He gave her the money and she intentionally and premeditatedly bought a cheaper skirt for a much lower price, and used the remainder of the money for something else. A little thing, probably, but the basis of deceit was behind it. I have heard of still others, who “pad” their grocery bills, and then use the surplus to buy other

things they want, husband refusing to hand them out the cash outright. On the same method Is the plan that many wives take to bake things for 1 pastry sales, having the things charg- 1 ed to their grocery bills when it ' would be impossible to get the cash 1 from Him for the cause in another way. So, much might bo said on both sides 1 of the case. DR. WELLS (The Golden Rule My Code of Ethics) Dr. Wells treats all chronic and private diseases of men and women and invites those who have been unable to secure satisfactory results elsewhere to call and see him. Consultation is free. WOMEN suffering from maladies peculiar to their sex are assured the best possible treatment by non-sur-gical methods. MEN who are in need of reliable advice or treatment for any weakness, rectal diseases, private or blood diseases, are cured in the shortest time possible. TUBERCULAR AFFECTIONS of throat, lungs, joints or glands treated by rational metvods that succeed when old methods fail. RHEUMATISM cured by the new in-tra-venous method. When all other methods fail I will cure you. The first treatment will help you. CATARRH, DEAFNESS — My treatment for Catarrh and Deafness is the best. If your case is curable I can cure you. EYE DISEASE—I treat all disesases of the eyes and ears. The best place to get glasses. Eyes tested free. PILES —I absolutely guarantee to cure any case of piles without surgery. No detention from business. I cure fissure by painless process. CANCER—I cure Cancer without the knife and remove warts, moles, scars, blemishes and superfluous hairs. STOMACH TROUBLES—My electric treatment for stomach troubles cures when drugs fail. ECZEMA, Psoriasis and acne cured when all others fail. ELECTRICITY—I have one of the most perfectly equipped -0(11068 in the United States with every electric device known to be of use in the treatment of disease. IF OTHERS have been unable to cure you, I solicit an interview. Consultation free. H. O. WELLS, M. D. 229 E. Berry St., Fort Wayne. PIANO TUNING AND REPAIRING. D. A. Gilliom (Professional) rebuilder and repairer of pianos and sewing machines, and piano tuner. Dealer In both branches. Write or phone 8, Line P, city. Office at home. Residence, south end city limits, at G. R. & I. railroad crossing. At home on Saturdays. 293-m-w-s-ts

LISTENI You Never Pay More at Schafer’s. Only 11 more Shopping days till Christmas. Our store is full of Useful and Serviceable gifts for men, Women and Children. On the few Suggestions given below you will find something suited for every friend, and member of the family.

Community Silverware Casseroles Chafing Dishes Crumb Trays Serving Trays Nickel Plated Ware Aluminum Ware Rayo Lamps Electric Toasters Electric Irons Electric Heaters * Electric Percolators Alcohol Percolators Percolators Pocket Knives Skates Sleds Repeating Rifles Shot Guns Safety Razors Blade Razors Razor Hones Fur Coats

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PUBLIC SALE. Having decided to quit farming and move to Bluffton, I will offer for sale at my farm 8 miles east of Bluffton, or G miles west of Monroe, known as the old Robinson farm, on Tuesday, December 14, 1915, commencing at 12. o’clock sharp, the following described property, to-wit: Thirteen Head Horses: One sorrel mare coming 5 years old, in foal; sorrel gelding, 8 years old; bay gelding. 3 years old, a good one; blue roan mare, 5 years old; sorrel mare coming 5 years old; gray gelding, 3 years old; bay gelding 3 years old; sorrel mare 3 years old, an extra good one; good driving mare, lady broke, coming 5 years old; sorrel gelding coming 3 years old; 2 coming 2 year old bay mare colts; sorrel spring colt. Twen-ty-six Head of Cattle:Holstein cow, to be fresh Jan. 15, a mood milker; red cow. 7 years old, to be fresh Jan. 5; brindle cow, 5 years old, to be fresh in January; largo roan cow, 9 years old, to be fresh in May; spotted cow, 4 years old, giving good flow of milk; Jersey cow. 6 years old, giving milk, will be fresh in April; a good butter cow; roan cow, 5 years old, with calf by side; large red cow, fat; 3-year-old heifer, with calf by side; brindle cow, 8 years old, to be fresh Feb. 18; 4 heifers, 2 years old, good ones; 3 coming 2-year-old steers; full blooded Holstein bull, 1 year old; 6 spring calves. Sixty Head Hogs: Five brood sows, 2 with pigs by their side; 29 shoats, averaging 100 pounds or better; 14 shoats, averaging 40 lbs. Ten dozen chickens. Farming Implements: Two wagons, 1 Weber wagon good as new; 2 buggies, in good shape, 1 with storm front; carriage, in extra good shape; John Deere breaking plow, 14 in.; Gale high lift; 6-foot McCormick binder, in good running order; riding corn plow, disc plow, 1 7-foot disc, hand corn shelter, fanning mill, tank heater, good as new; 2 sets double work harness, 1 set brass trimmed; good set carriage harness, set of single harness, and other articles not mentioned. There will be a good lunch stand on the ground. Terms:—Sums of $5.00 and under, cash; over $5.00 a credit of 12 months will be given, the last six months drawing 6 per cent interest; 4 per cent discount for cash. JOHN ISCH. Noah Frauhiger and Jess Mischaud, Auctioneers. Fred Isch and W. W. Rogers, Clerks. 295t3 NOTICE TO PUBLIC. Notice is hereby given that I will not stand responsible for any debts contracted by Emily J. Niblick. This also refers to her board bill, except at my home. Dated this 6th day of December, 1915. 292t3 S. T. NIBLICK. FOR SALE —Hard coal heater, range, an organ and a china closet. Apply Dan Haley, Mercer avenue. 290t6* Climalene is always ready to use, as it dissolves tn hot or cold water, makes no suds, and will soften the hardest well or hydrant water. 294t3

Fur Robes Plush Robes Driving Lamps Manicure Sets Sewing Machines Electric Motors for Sewing Machines Carving Sets Alcohol Sad Irons Carpet Sweepers Vacuum Sweepers Stand Watches Doll Carts Bread Mixers Power Washing Machines Watches Dandy Dan Tricycles Tricycles Toy Automobiles Express Wagons Flash Lights Thermo Dinner Buckets Toy Wheel Barrows

HENSLEY’S

25TH. ANNIVERSARY

IN THE JEWELRY BUSINESS IN DECATUR And to our knowledge not a single dissatisfied customer. Our motto has always been to make every customer satisfied. We are here to satisfy you. will be more than satisfied to see our reduction in goods, as we expect to make this month the largest month of our twenty-five years. Our stock of diamonds, watches, umbrellas, silverware and jewelry is the largest we have ever carried. Come early and we will satisfy you that early buyers get the cream our our stock. We will lay anything away for you without any deposit on it. We know you and have confidence in you. Remember we are always here to back our goods, and if there is anything in our line we haven’t got it is not in the market. EVERYTHING EXGRAVED FREE. 25th. HENSLEY’S ANNIVERSARY SALE. 25th.

SPECIAL ATTRACTION. One of the biggest displays of the electric houselold needs ever attempted in a city the size of Decatur is now on display at the Lawrence Electric Co. 29315 NO HUNTING ALLOWED From this date on we will positivei ly not allow any hunting on our farm. . Violations of this will be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. Please take notice. , 295t4. MERRYMAN BROS. i FORNAX MILLING CO. Pays highest prices for good milling wheat. Want good hand sorted new ear corn. Call and see them. 281tf 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. 4. q. q, q. q, q. q. q. 4- Fine second hand Packard pi- 44" ano, In first class condition, for 4sale cheap, if sold right away.— 4> 4 1 Yager Bros. & Reinking. 291t3 4-4’4’4-4’4-4-4’4>4-4-4-4-4-4-

A BIG SUIT SALE I I We are making closing prices on all Suits I Our stock is complete with extra values! of this seasons choice styles. I Every suit must go regardless of its Man- 1 ufactured cost. I

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4>4-4>4>*<r*4-4-4-4-4>4-4- * PLENTY OF MONEY * * 44- To loan on farms, 10 years' 4* •S' time, without renewal, no com- 4- * mission, partial payments any 4 1 4- time. ERWIN OFFICE..4* 4-4**4-4>4*4-4*4*4-4-4>4-4* Democrat Want Ads Pay. 4 , 4'4 , 4’4 , 4 , 4 , 4 , 4 , 4 , 4 , 4 , 4 , 4‘ * A fine used Packard * * piano in first class con- * * dition sold cheap, if ♦ * sold right away.—Ya- ♦ * ger Bros. & Reinking. * q.q. 4.4.4.4.4.44.4.4.4.4.4. The new city house numbers are only fifteen cents each. Tack yours up today and save the extra expense of having the city to do it-

Fine Suits That were $30.00 This Sale I $17.75 | Extra Fine Suits good value at $25.00 1 This Sale I $ 15.00 1 m y Fine Quality Suits that were cheap at I $16.50 This Sale I $9,75 |

25TH. ANNIVERSARY

Dr. L. K. Magley VETERINARIAN Corner Third and Monroe Streets. Phones R office M ill DECATUR, IND. B. C. HENRICKS D. C. YOUR CHIROPRACTOR Above Voglewede’s Shoe Store. Phone 660 Office Hours Ito 5 7to 8 LADY ATTENDANT Decatur, Ind.