Banner Graphic, Volume 22, Number 120, Greencastle, Putnam County, 23 January 1992 — Page 3

Stone, Ruark plan wedding

Anne Carlton Stone, Martinsville, Va., and Gregory Kent Ruark, Fillmore, announce their engagement and their plans for a November wedding. The bride-elect is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Jimmy Linton Rosser, Martinsville, Va., and Mr. and Mrs. William Clifton Stone, Ridgeway, Va. She is currently a senior at

Calendar of events Thursday Women’s Life Strategies Class meets each Thursday from 6:308:30 p.m. at Community Church of God, 637 E. Washington St., for women who are being abused or have been abused. Child care is provided. Call 653-4820 for information. Bingo will be played every Thursday at 7 p.m. at the Stardust Hills Clubhouse, Cloverdale. Concession stand will be available. Friday Euchre will be played at every Friday at 7 p.m. at the Stardust Hills Clubhouse, Cloverdale. Cost will be $2 for 10 games. Saturday The H.O.M.E. Show is set for 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 25 in the community building at the Putnam County Fairgrounds. No cost for admission to the show. Lunch is $4.50. Reservations need to be made by Wednesday, Jan. 22. Call the extension office at 653-8411 to reserve lunch. Sunday Stillboard shoots are set for 10 a.m. every Sunday at the Cloverdale Conservation Club. (Factory guns only). Turkey shoots will resume al the Madison Township Fire Department at 1 p.m. each Sunday. Prizes will be awarded. Beech Grove United Methodist Church will have its carry in dinner at 12:30 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 26 following Sunday School at 10 a.m. and church at noon. Everyone welcome. Monday Morton Lodge No. 469 F&AM will have a called meeting on the fellowcraft degree at 7:30 p.m. Monday, Jan. 27 All F.C. welcome. Light refreshments to follow. TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) No. 573, Greencastle, meets every Monday at 7 p.m. at Mt. Zion Baptist Church, 802 Crown St. Those wishing to attend or in need of information may call 653-9015 or 653-4879. P.E.O. Chapter CB will meet at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 27 at Helen Hauck’s home. The meeting will consist of a white elephant sale. (Note change of time.) Tuesday TOPS Tuesday morning group meets at 8:30 a.m. at the GTE meeting room, 201 E. Washington St., Greencastle. Everyone is invited to attend. Tots Time free child care, designed for a parent’s morning out, is scheduled from 9 a.m. to noon Tuesdays. It is held each Tuesday, unless otherwise announced, at First Baptist Church, Judson Drive, Greencastle. All children under age five are eligible for the free service. TOPS Ind. Chapter 998, Cloverdale, meets each Tuesday at 9 a.m. at the Cloverdale Conservation Club on Jim Street Road. Visitors are welcome. We give support and encouragement to men and women with weight problems. For more information, call 795-4696 or 6728303. Central Indiana Regional Blood Center will have a blood drive from 2-6:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 28 at the Stardust Hills Clubhouse, Cloverdale. Progress History Club will meet at 2 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 28 at Asbury Towers with Myrle Day and Grace Sandy as hostesses. Leota Fuller will present the program. The Four Seasons Club will meet at the home of Glee Conyers at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 28. The support group for adult survivors of incest and other childhood sexual abuse meets 7-9 p.m. every Tuesday at Cummins Mental Health, 308 Medic Way, Greencastle. For more information, persons may call 653-4820 or 739-6650. The Civil War Roundtable of West Central Indiana will meet at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 28 in Room 123, Julian Science Center, DePauw University. Dr. John Baughman, emeritus professor of history at DePauw, will speak on “Bishop Simpson, the Methodist Church, and the Civil War.” Visitors are welcome.

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Dear Abby

Man wants to know when a woman is being harassed

DEAR ABBY: If a man asks his secretary out to dinner with the implication that they will spend the night together, is he then guilty of sexual harassment? If he uses the exact same wording to invite his wife out to dinner, is he guilty of sexual harassment? If not, does it mean that a woman loses a part of her constitutional rights by the very act of getting married? If the wife says, “Not tonight, dear, I have a headache,” and he persists, can she have him arrested for rape? I’m worried. A MALE IN NEW MEXICO DEAR NEW MEXICO MALE: If a man asks his secretary out to dinner with the implication that they will spend the night together, he is not guilty of sexual harassment unless the secretary says “no” to spending the night, and he uses his position of power to persuade her to change her mind. And whether the woman is a wife or girlfriend, if she says “no,” the answer should be NO. Being married to a person does not entitle the mate to sexual favors. Both parties must be willing, or

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Disposable dishes save potluck worry

Dear Heloise: Whenever 1 take food to people in their homes, I always use disposable containers. This saves the family from having to worry about marking and returning containers during a busy time. And should the family have an excess of food, they can simply pop it in the freezer and use it at a later date. I also take food to potluck dinners in disposable containers and save myself the trouble of looking for my container after a meal or, worse yet, losing one of my favorite dishes. Agnes Larson, Billings, Mont. STAINED LEATHER Q. I was in an accident and got blood on my leather jacket. I have no idea how to get it out. Please help! T.W., New London, Ohio A. If it’s smooth leather (non-suede), you can try wiping it with a damp sponge and warm water. If this doesn’t work, the International Fabricare Institute (1F1) suggests it would be best to take the jacket to a professional leather cleaner. They should be able to remove the stain. And don’t forget that if it’s suede or dyed leather, most home remedies may actually damage the leather, so leave these cleaning jobs to the professionals. SPECIAL PICTURES Dear Heloise: Every Christmas we receive scores of holiday family pictures. They are interesting to look at, but what do you do with them? 1 bought a picture album and allow several pages per family. Every year I insert the new picture on “their” page. 11’s fun to look at them each year and see how everyone has changed. It’s also handy for keeping up with the names of children who we don’t see often. B.J. Brewer, Winston-Salem, N.C. EGG CARTONS Dear Heloise: 1 have several pairs of winter boots, and boot trees can get expensive. I put on the old thinking cap and came up with this idea. I use plastic foam egg cartons. The cartons keep the boots standing up and also allow the air to circulate. Beth N., Erie, Pa. REFRIGERATED SWEATER Q. What can 1 do to keep my sweaters from shedding all over my skirts? S.H., Chambersburg, Pa. A. Be sure to shake them well before wearing. Also, placing the sweaters in bags in the freezer or refrigerator is an old wives’ tale that seems to work for many. Heloise

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it’s no go. The same holds true with “Not tonight, dear, I have a headache.” A woman does not even have to have a headache. If she says “no” because she doesn’t feel like it it’s still NO. * * * DEAR ABBY: My niece’s husband, “Jim,” disciplines their 2-year-old son, “Timmy,” in a manner that troubles me. On a recent restaurant outing, when Timmy began to whine, Jim reached over and twisted the boy’s earlobe roughly.

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Later, Timmy cried out, “Daddy, stop pinching me!” Jim had pinched Timmy’s leg under the table. . My niece doesn’t comment on any of this, but I am concerned. I wonder how Jim treats the child when we are not around. I have heard that Jim’s father was very cruel to him at times, and I’m wondering if that’s the reason he treats his son this way. What, if anything, should we do? WORRIED DEAR WORRIED: You should have a talk with your niece and her husband about what you have observed. Be open about the fact that it’s obvious that Jim’s patience is sometimes tried, and he impulsively resorts to physical means to discipline Timmy. Mention the earlobe twisting and pinching the child under the table. Tell them there are parenting classes available; their pediatrician can recommend the best. That Jim’s father may have physically abused him may have some bearing on Jim’s abusing his own son, but it doesn’t justify

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it. Timmy needs someone to in-; tervene on his behalf. The fact that you are “worried” speaks well for you. Please followthrough and see that Timmy’s parents learn how to parentproperly. * * * DEAR ABBY: My honey and I are getting married in August. His mom and dad are divorced. His mom has a steady boyfriend, and his dad has a steady girlfriend. We want his mom and dad to be together for the ceremony. How do we seat the couples? And what do we do with their dates? MULTI-PARENTED DEAR MULTI: It depends on how friendly his mom and dad are. If they are on friendly terms, Mom and her date should sit together in the first pew, and Dad and his date should sit one row behind them. If they are not friendly, seat Dad and his date two or three pews behind Mom.

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