Banner Graphic, Volume 21, Number 193, Greencastle, Putnam County, 19 April 1991 — Page 4

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THE BANNERGRAPHIC April 19,1991

Dear Abby Women share notes on obsession with professor

DEAR AB BY: I would like to respond to “My Secret,” the married woman who is still pining for “Father F.,” the Catholic priest who was her college professor. I experienced a similar obsession for many years. The man of my dreams had also been my college professor, and I was convinced that had I been a different kind of person, we would have had an affair. After graduating from college, I moved to another city and married a wonderful man. Even though my marriage was a happy one, I continued to fantasize about meeting “him” again in some romantic place. I felt certain that during those times when I thought so intensely about him, he was having those same feelings about me. Some years later, while visiting my hometown, I ran into him one afternoon in a busy mall. All those memories came flooding back and I was thrilled to see him. With outstretched arms, I shouted excitedly, “I can’t believe it’s really you!” He stopped, and, Abby, he didn’t even remember my name. I felt like a fool! Quite often, especially when life gets rough, we recall special people in our past as still being there where we left off frozen in time waiting for us to come back and pick up

lifestyle

Calendar of events Friday Singlcs-R-Us will have a second anniversary dinner al 7 p.m. Friday, April 19 at Putnam Inn, Greencastle. Leadership team has plans for the evening includeing table games and dancing. Cal 6533206, 795-3003 or 522-1591 for more information. Saturday Bainbridge Lodge 75 F&AM will serve breakfast of biscuits and gravy, eggs, fried potatoes and coffee from 6-10 a.m. Saturday, April 20. The public is invited. The third Putnam County legislative update session is set for 8 a.m. Saturday, April 20 in the board room of the Farm Bureau building, N. Jackson St., Greencastle. Coffee, juice and rolls provided. The Owen County 4-H Council of Spencer is sponsoring a Spring Craft Fair from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, April 20 and 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sunday, April 21 at the Owen Valley Middle School, Ind. 46 West, Spencer. A coat giveaway is set for 10 a.m. Saturday, April 20 at Mt Zion Baptist Church, 802 Crown St, Greencastle. The coats are all sizes for adults and children. A spring creative arts and crafts bazaar is set for 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, April 20 at the Montgomery County 4-H building, Parke Avenue, Crawfordsville. Bake sale and food available. No admission. Open house is set for 1-3 p.m. Saturday, April 20 at Peace Lutheran Preschool, 218 Bloomington St., Greencastle, for all new students and those wanting more information about the state-accredited preschool. Three-, four-, and five-year-olds are invited to explore the classrooms and meet the teachers., Also, Discovery Toys can be ordered at the church or by calling Jan Hile at 653-9484. Old-fashioned square dance is set for 8-11:30 p.m. Saturday, April 20 at the Roachdale Lions Hall. Admission is $4 per person. Everyone welcome. Sunday The Putnam County Youth Soccer Association Fun Day and Picnic is set for 1:15 p.m. Sunday, April 21 al the Big Walnut Sports Park. Soccer demonstrations will be given by the DePauw soccer team. All soccer players and their families welcome. The Emera Club will meet at 5:30 p.m. Sunday, April 21 at Putnam Inn. Monday Morton Lodge No. 469 F&AM will have a called meeting for E.A. degree at 7 p.m. Monday, April 22. All E.A. welcome. Refreshments later. Putnam County Playhouse will have auditions for “The Crucible” at 7 p.m, Monday, April 22 and Tuesday, April 23 at the bam. TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) No. 573, Greencastle, meets every Monday at 7 p.m. at Mt. Zion Baptist Church, 802 Crown St. Those wishing to attend or in need of information may call 653-9015 or 653-4879. Tuesday TOPS Tuesday morning group meets at 8:30 a.m. at the GTE meeting room 201 E. Washington St., Grecr.castle. Everyone is invited to attend. Tots Time free child care, designed for a parents’s morning out, is scheduled from 9 a.m. to noon Tuesdays. It is held each Tuesday, unless otherwise announced, at First Baptist Church, Judson Drive, Greencastle. All children under age five are eligible for the free service. TOPS Ind. Chapter 998, Cloverdale, meets every Tuesday at 9 a.m. at the Conservation Club on Jim Street Road. Visitors are welcome. For more information, call Faye at 672-8303. North Putnam parents will meet at 7 p.m. Tuesday, April 23 in the high school auditorium. The meeting is for incoming ninth-graders to register and receive course offerings. The Civil War Round Table of West Central Indiana will meet Tuesday, April 23 in Room 123 of DePauw’s Julian Science and Math Center in Greencastle. The meeting is set for 7:30 p.m. Doors open at 7 p.m. Don Brattain, long-time Greencastle resident and veterinarian, will speak on the activities of the Unverground Railroad from 1850 onward. A native Hoosier, Dr. Brattin may also mention his own childhood familiarity with buildings he played in that had been used in the Underground Railroad. Wednesday Tots Time free child care, designed for a parents’ morning out, is scheduled from 9 a.m. to noon Wednesdays at Roachdale Christian Church on Ind. 236 at Roachdale. It is set for each Wednesday, unless otherwise announced. All children under age five are eligible for the free service. The Humane Society of Putnam County will meet at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, April 24 in the county commissioners room in the courthouse. Everyone welcome. Chapter I of PEO Sisterhood will meet at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, April 24 at the home of Mrs. Alan Barber. Mary Jane Monnett will have the program.

Abigail Van Buren

where we left off. The sad truth is that time marches on for everybody. You wisely advised the woman who was still carrying the torch for “Father F.” to get rid of her fantasies. Others who are inclined to dwell too long on the past would do well to follow that advice. A FAITHFUL READER FOR 30 YEARS DEAR FAITHFUL READER: How wise you are. Read on for a letter from a younger soul sister who is also very wise: DEAR ABBY: My heart stopped when I read the letter signed “My Secret.” I could have written that letter. I am currently attending a Catholic university and would give anything for a relationship with my

philosophy professor who happens to be a priest. Richard Gere he’s not, but his intelligence, wit and personality make him the kind of guy most girls would kill for. The way I look at it, I plan to take advantage of my time as his student and reap the benefits of his skill as an instructor. Like a flower making use of a spring rain shower, I want to soak up every bit of his wisdom so I can be the best person I can be. I will place him high on the list of professors who have had an impact on my life, then file that list with the rest of my college memories, and move on. My advice to “My Secret”: As for leaving your husband to be near “Father F.,” forget it. Life is a continual journey; don’t waste your time going down a dead-end street. Instead, emulate “Father F.” and honor the vow you made, just as he must honor his. Having you hanging around nearby will only make things more difficult for him if he is to remain true to his calling. Priests are only human, after all, and they probably don’t relish the celibacy part of their commitment. I know exactly how you feel, but don’t be the straw that broke the camel’s back. Like the prayer says, “Lead us not into temptation.” Just sign me ... CHERISHED MEMORIES Kappa Delta Phi has luncheon raffle winners The April 13 Kappa Delta Phi sorority luncheon had several raffle and door prize winners. J. Hayes, Lizton, won $75 in the raffle while the SSO prize went to Helen Bunten, Greencastle, and the $25 prize when to Betty Ayres, Shelburn. Door prizes donated by Headley Hardware, Hooks east, Posey Patch and Hooks downtown were won by Georgia Subblettes, Marjorie Oliver and Dorothy Reeves in the first session and Bobbie Monnett, Jody Whitman and Betty Deßoer in the second session. Kappa Delta Phi thanks everyone for supporting its charity projects and the Greencastle merchants for the door prizes.

V ) Heloise ► A "LJ

Critter cage makes bug-watching easy Dear Heloise: My son came up with a very clever idea for making a cage for various “critters.” I know you can’t consider grasshoppers, crickets and little lizards pets, but my son does for a short time anyway. Rather than putting them in a large jar with a few holes punched in the lid, he makes a “cage” using a cardboard halfgallon milk carton. He lays it on its side and cuts away two opposite sides leaving two intact along with the bottom and top of the container. He slips an old nylon stocking over the container and ties a knot on the bottom and leaves about 6 inches on top. The top of the container can be opened and closed and that’s how he puts grass and his little “pet” in. He then pulls the stocking tight and ties a knot. It works very well since it is roomy and has plenty of air and can be seen by everyone. Bobby never keeps them overnight; he lets them free. He just likes to catch them and watch what they do. Nancy Adams, Houston, Texas REMOTE CONTROL Dear Heloise: I thought my TV remote control was ruined when my 3-year-old son spilled a drink on it. Luckily, it didn't cause any damage. I decided I wasn’t going to take a chance with it, so I put it in a zipper-type plastic bag and sealed it closed. We can still work the control and the bag keeps it dust-free and safe from any spills. Rita Harris, Portland, Ore. An ounce of prevention is worth a bundle of repair bills! Heloise TELEPHONE BOOK Dear Heloise: I never throw away old telephone books. I recycle them by cutting the pages and using them to put potato peelings and vegetable scraps in. I also have a bird and use the pages to line the bottom of the bird cage. Seven or eight pages fit nicely and they’re easy to remove one at a time when soiled. R. Durant, Miami, Fla. Recycling at its best! Thanks for your hint. I’m sending you a newsletter (Vol.l, N 0.4). It’s chock full of recycling hints. Others who would like this issue of my newsletter please send $2 and a stamped (52 cents), self-addressed, legal-sized envelope to Hints from Heloise Newsletter/1-4, P.O. Box 836, Gibbstown NJ 08027-9910. Heloise

"One Body, One Spirit" Those of us who have more than one child are often amazed at the differences in them How could chil- y* dren created from the same genes possibly have such varied physical and emotional makeups l But just jl ■ same, we love one Ji jmSml | bi God has promised us. His children, that He loves us all equally, regardless of the color of our skin, what language we speak, or whether £ 1 we are cri ppled or whole. Our bodies are only i the shells 0< the soul. and. in actuality, we are all V souls striving to learn and to grow, and to survive in th is earthly existence. The Bible tells us >' < V s * l that we are one body, one Spirit.” , ] V / Come to God s house and discover how Jr J 1 unconditionally God loves you. Experience f J this, and your heart will be filled to overflowing | ' A?. ________ with the peace and warmth that God has in , Bv.' store for those who follow His example. Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Mark • Genesis • Genesis • Genesis • Genesis • Genesis • Genesis 9:2-13 6:1-8 6:9-22 7:1-24 8:1-19 8:20-22 9:1-17 Scriptures Selected by Copyright 1991. Keister-Williams Newspaper Services. P O Box 8005 Charlottesville VA 22906 The American Bible Society

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