Banner Graphic, Volume 21, Number 64, Greencastle, Putnam County, 16 November 1990 — Page 8

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THE BANNERGRAPHIC November 16.1990

Dear Abby

Woman has dangerous liaison with man who won’t commit

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been seeing Philip not his real name for sevenmonths. We get along famously most of the time, despite our age difference. Philip is 34 and twice divorced, and I am 20 and never married. We had both agreed to see other people if we wanted to, and it was going well until now. Philip has been sleeping with other women, and I just can’t handle it any longer. I told him how I felt about it, and he said he will not commit to just one person me or anyone else even though he loves me. Abby, the thought of him sleeping with somebody else makes me hys- ’ terical! My friends tell me it’s too early to expect an exclusive commitment from Philip. He says he will never marry again, but I think I can get him to change his mind. I don’t know if I should hang in there for a little while longer or break up with him. I love him with all my heart, but I’m afraid my love may be blinding me to the realities of this situation. Please advise me. IN LOVE IN OMAHA DEAR IN LOVE: Run as though your life depended upon it because it does. Any person

Calendar of events Friday Booth sales for the Greencastle Civic League “Lights of Love” are set for Friday, Nov. 16 and Saturday, Nov. 17 at Kroger and Marsh. Lights can be purchased by calling Diane Barber at 653-8020. Donations are $3 for one light or $5 for two. Stilesville Chapter No. 554 O.E.S. will have its Friends Night at 7:30 p.m. Friday, Nov. 16. All O.E.S. members are invited. It will be a rodeo theme night Western dress is encouraged, but not required. Saturday Bainbridge Masonic Lodge will serve sausage, gravy and buscuits from 6-10 a.m. Saturday, Nov. 17. The public is invited. Local Boy Scouts will be picking up food-filled sacks Saturday, Nov. 17 in Greencastle for the “Scouting for Food” program to help local residents in need of food. The Cunot Senior Citizens are sponsoring a Hunter’s Breakfast from 4-11 a.m. Saturday, Nov. 17 at the Cunot Community Center, eight miles west of Cloverdale on Ind. 42. The public is invited. Christmas boutique is set for 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 17 at the Heritage Lake clubhouse. Snacks available. Many gift items. The Roachdale O.E.S. will have a bake and miscellaneous sale from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 17 in the basement of the Roachdale Public Library. This includes baked items, Christmas candles, rada knives, calendars, pocket date books, cook books, crafts and goodies. An old fashioned square dance is set for 8 p.m. to midnight Saturday, Nov. 17 at the Roachdale Lions Hall. Admission is $4 per person. Everyone welcome. Sunday The annual Roachdale Delta Theta Tau sorority turkey shoot will be 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Sunday, Ndv. 18 at the Roachdale Gun Club north of Roachdale. Trap and still shoots are available with prizes of turkeys and hams. Homemade sandwiches and pies will be served. A trap gun will be given away. Proceeds go for nursing scholarships for students from North Putnam High School. The Delta Theta Tau Holiday Home Tour will be from 1-5 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 18. Tickets are available through local florists in Greencastle and Cloverdale. Members are selling tickets for $1 each on a SIOO cash prize. Monday The support group for adult children tending aging parents will meet at 7 p.m. Monday, Nov. 19 at the GTE building. The discussion will be “Handling the Holidays.” Everyone is welcome. TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly) No. 573, Greencastle, meets every Monday at 7 p.m. at Mt Zion Baptist Church, 802 Crown St. Those wishing to attend or in need of information may call 653-9015 or 653-4879. Bainbridge Order Eastern Star No. 440 will have their regular stated meeting at 7:30 p.m. Monday, Nov. 19 at the Bainbridge Masonic Hall. Tuesday TOPS Tuesday morning group meets at 8:30 a.m. at the GTE meeting room, 201 E. Washington St., Greencastle. Everyone is invited to attend. Tots Time free child care, designed for a parents’ morning out, is scheduled from 9 a.m. to noon Tuesdays. It is held each Tuesday, unless otherwise announced, at First Baptist Church, Judson Drive, Greencastle. All children under age five are eligible for the free service. TOPS Ind. Chapter 998, Cloverdale, meets every Tuesday at 9 a.m. at the Conservation Club on Jim Street Road. Visitors are welcome. For more information, call Faye at 672-8303. The Putnam County Unit of the American Cancer Society will meet at noon Tuesday, Nov. 20 at the Central National Bank. The Over 50 Club will meet at the VFW home in Greencastle with a carry-in dinner at 6 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 20. Business meeting and entertainment will follow at 7 p.m. All members and friends are invited to attend. Greencastle KT Commandery No. 11 will have a called joint inspection with Crawfordsville KT Commandery No. 25 at the Crawfordsville Masonic Temple at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 20. A carry-in dinner is set for 6 p.m. All members and spouses urged to attend. The support group for adult survivors of incest and other childhood sexual abuse meets from 7-9 p.m. every Tuesday in the office of Putnam County Family Support Services, 122 W. Washington St, Greencastle. For more information call 653-4820. The Washbum Chapter of DAR will meet at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 20 in the GTE building. Hostesses will be Nancy Clifford and Amy Richards. Wednesday Tots Time free child care, designed for a parents’ morning out, is scheduled from 9 a.m. to noon Wednesdays at Roachdale Christian Church on Ind. 236 at Roachdale. It is held each Wednesday, unless otherwise announced. All children under age five are eligible for the free service. Thursday Women’s Support Group meets from 7-9 p.m. each Thursday at Family Support Services office, 122 W. Washington St Call 653-4820 for more information.

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Abigail Van Buren

(male or female) who is having sex with a partner who is not monogamous is at risk for a sexually transmitted disease (AIDS included). You did not mention whether Philip practiced safe sex. But even if he does, no protection is 100 percent safe. * * * DEAR ABBY: Recently, my daughter and son-in-law announced they were going to be parents. They were both thrilled. Then a few weeks later, my daughter had a miscarriage and had to have a D and C. After the surgery, my daughter spent

two days with me, and while she was here, she received flowers and cards addressed to both her and her husband. After returning home, she called to thank me and my family for having included her husband’s name on the cards. She said it meant a great deal to him because, after all, he would have been the father, and he also suffered the loss of the baby. He had told her that many people had telephoned him at his home asking how his wife was and telling him how sorry they were about her loss but no one mentioned his loss. My purpose in writing is to remind people that when a woman loses a baby, the would-be father also mourns the loss. HIS LOVING MOTHER-IN-LAW DEAR M-I-L: Thanks for the sensitive and compassionate reminder. * * * CONFIDENTIAL TO GETTING DESPERATE IN PHILADELPHIA: So you’re 34, still single, and getting desperate? Hold it, dear, because your list of “prospective spouses” is pretty sad. (1) A charming guy who

Heloise

Hang ball to tell if rear end inside Dear Heloise: I learned this timesaving hint from my grandmother. When she would pull her car into the garage, she had to get out of the car to see if its back end was in far enough so the automatic garage door wouldn't hit it. She hung a bright rubber ball from the ceiling, so when the windshield touched the ball, she knew there was room to close the door. This also saves a little gas. Traci Hemsworth. Logan, Ohio CURTAIN ROD Dear Heloise: When redoing the bathroom, I bought some blue semisheer curtains. When I hung them on the existing white case-curtain rod, I was disappointed that the rod showed through the fabric. I bought an inexpensive can of blue spray paint, took down the white rod and sprayed it. After it dried, I hung up the curtains and I was delighted with the results. It saved me from buying an expensive new rod. Marcia Easton, Niles, Mich. CAKE DECORATING Dear Heloise: While decorating a cake, I ran out of decorating bags and discovered that a plastic sandwich bag or a plastic storage bag works well. Simply cut a comer out of the bottom of the plastic bag, slip the decorating tip in and close the bag. Kathy Johnson, Tuscumbia, Ala. STAINED BRICKS Q. I have a white brick fireplace. The jricks have become stained from smoke ind soot. How can I get them white again? M. Brown, Tempe, Ariz. A. A half-and-half mixture of laundry bleach and water works well. Before beginning, cover the floor and other areas to protect them from the bleach. Wear gloves and make sure the room is well-ventilated. That’s a must! Spray the bricks with the mixture and gently scrub with a soft-bristled brush to remove the soot and smoke stains. Heloise MESSAGE TAPES Dear Heloise: My children’s grandparents live out-of-state and call often. Many times when we are not home, they leave messages for the kids on the answering machine. I never erase these recorded messages, which are usually quite lengthy. Instead, I save them. When the kids are older, they will be able to enjoy these impromptu voice keepsakes from two people they love very much. Mary F., Phoenix, Ariz. SAW BLADES Dear Heloise: Just had to tell you the terrific idea my husband had for storing saw blades in the garage: He uses an old record rack he picked up at a garage sale. The blades fit perfectly and they’re handy to get to and safe to pull whet needed. Another plus they don’t rub against each other, so there’s no chance of ruining the blades. Rita Thompson, Seattle, Wash. RECYCLING DRYCLEANING BAGS Dear Heloise: I reuse the clear plastic bags that dry cleaning is returned in by tying a knot in the end and turning the bag inside out, to fit a tall kitchen trash container. After putting it in the container, I put a paper grocery bag inside to prevent the trash from tearing the plastic. Michael Motto, Columbus, Ohio

dances like a dream, but swings both ways. (2) A married man who will gladly divorce his wife, if you will agree to pay for it. (3) A man who is old enough to be your father, but wants you to sign a prenuptial agreement that will entitle you to nothing should he die first. Stay single, young lady. Better to be a MISS Somebody than a MRS. Nobody. * * * DEAR ABBY: Why do some people of the Jewish faith write “G-d” instead of “God”? Have you ever seen or heard of it? Please educate me. I would feel foolish asking anyone else. PUZZLED IN CANADA DEAR PUZZLED: Orthodox Jews consider it disrespectful or sacrilegious to trash anything with the word “God” written on it. Therefore, instead of writing “God,” they write “G-d” so the recipient need not worry about disposing of it. (Orthodox Jewish tradition holds that anything with “God” written on it must be respectfully buried.)

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