Banner Graphic, Volume 20, Number 221, Greencastle, Putnam County, 23 May 1990 — Page 5

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Dear Abby Bedroom privacy issue divides husband and wife

DEAR ABBY: Paul (not his real name) and I have been married for two months. Paul is 35 and I’m 27. This is my first marriage. Paul was married briefly in college and has a 14-year-old daughter who lives with her mother in another state. His daughter is coming to spend the summer with us. She’s a sweet girl and I like her, but Paul has told me that while his daughter is here we will have to put our lovemaking on “hold.” At first I thought he was kidding, but he explained that he has this “little hang-up” he can’t perform sexually unless he has total privacy, which means there can be nobody in the next room, or even in the same house! I tried to tell him that it’s perfectly normal for married people to make love, and it shouldn’t matter whether somebody is in the next room or not. Paul can’t understand why I don’t accept his little hang-up, but I’m losing sleep over his obsession for total privacy because it may be indicative of other little hang-ups I don’t know about. Besides, we’re still honeymooning. Your opinion, please. LOSING PATIENCE DEAR LOSING: Paul could have been “surprised” during lpvemaking at some time in his life, which may account for his obsession for total privacy. However, asking you to put your honeymoon on hold for the entire summer is expecting too much. I For his sake and yours, Paul should seek counseling from a psychiatrist or sex therapist in order to hang up this “little hangup” once and for all. * * * DEAR ABBY: This is in response to “From Connecticut” who complained about screaming babies on airplanes. I have a feeling we’ve met before, and here’s why: While stationed in Wyoming with the USAF, my family had to fly to

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Connecticut for an emergency. The flight took all day, and we had to change planes twice. My husband took charge of our 2-year-old daughter and I carried our 5-month-old son in my arms. The baby began to scream the minute we took off. I did everything I could to calm him, but he continued to scream as though he were in terrible pain. I gave him infant pain relievers, his bottle, pacifiers I walked and walked him, sang endlessly, jangled donated car keys before him, made faces, and even gave him a lollipop to suck on—and I don’t normally give sweets to children. I did everything I could think of to quiet him, but to no avail. Most passengers were sympathetic. One very kind woman even took a turn walking the baby for me. I received some angry glances from a few irritated passengers, which made me feel terrible. When we landed, I took my sweaty, exhausted, crying baby into the ladies room to change his diaper. A woman who had been on my plane said, “I don’t know where you’re going, but you have no business taking that baby on an airplane!” I was too shocked to reply. Then tears welled up. I was on my way home to bury my mother. STILL GRIEVING IN PA. * * * Everybody has a problem. What’s yours? Get it off your chest by writing to: Dear Abby, P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif. 90069. For a personal reply, please enclose a stamped, self-addressed envelope.

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Mr. and Mrs. Clarence Cromer, Greencastle, announce the engagement and forthcoming marriage of their daughter, Elizabeth Ann, to Otis Henry Herman, son of Alice M. Herman, Winter Park, Fla. The bride-to-be is a Greencastle High School graduate. She attended Indiana State University and is employed at station WLOQ, Winter Park. Her fiance, a graduate of Lake Howell High School, Winter Park, is selfemployed. A June 2 wedding ceremony is scheduled in Winter Park, with a reception to follow.

Library writing workshop for children slated The Putnam County Public Library will conduct a five-week writing workshop for children. THERE WILL BE two summer sessions. The first will be 2-4 p.m. Thursdays, beginning June 7 and ending July 5. The second workshop will run 10 a.m. to noon, beginning Monday, July 9 through Monday, Aug. 6. During the five sessions, each child will write, illustrate and bind his own book. Completed books will be catalogued and prepared for check-out PARTICIPANTS must be able to read and write. Registration is necessary and is limited to 10 per workshop. To register or for more information persons may call the Putnam County Public Library at 653-2755.

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