Banner Graphic, Volume 19, Number 28, Greencastle, Putnam County, 7 October 1988 — Page 4

THE BANNEBGRAPHIC October 7,1980

Dear Abby Her ‘lover’ just wants to be her friend

DEAR ABBY: I recently met a very charming gentleman, and we hit it off immediately. I’m 34, divorced, considered great-looking and I’m unattached. He’s 42 (also divorced) and great-looking. I am not accustomed to jumping into bed on the first date, but with him, it was the second date. It was a mutually satisfying experience, and we are dating regularly. However, he keeps stressing a point that I find puzzling. He says, “I believe a man and woman can be ‘just friends’ as well as lovers.” Abby, what makes a man think he can be physically intimate with a woman, and be “just friends”? I do not have sex with my friends. I keep telling him that if a person is “just a friend,” then sex is not even in the picture. Am I old-fashioned, crazy or correct in my thinking? ‘JUST FRIENDS’ DEAR JUST: You are neither old-fashioned nor crazy. In a love relationship, lovers can be friends as well as lovers which is ideal. But a man who has sex with a woman, and keeps reminding her that they are “just friends” is saying, “I enjoy sex with you, but don’t expect this relationship to grow into something more meaningful or permanent like marriage.” Give him high marks for honesty, but don’t say you weren’t forewarned. * * * DEAR ABBY: I am 65 and so is my husband. While I am still working outside the home to make

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Charles and Christine Lee, Van Bibber Lake, will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary 2-5 p.m. Oct. 16 at the Manhattan Baptist Church. They were married Oct. 16, 1938 in Putnam County. Their children

PROPOSITION ONE THE LEGALIZED GAMBLING AMENDMENT What Is Proposition One? Proposition One is an amendment to the state Constitution that will appear on the ballot on Election Day, November 8. It will be one of three propositions on the ballot that day. What Will It Say? Proposition One will be worded this way: "Shall Section 8 of Article 15 of the Constitution of the State of Indiana be amended by removing the language that prohibits lotteries?" What Does That Mean? From the way that question is worded, it sounds as if all you are going to be voting on when you vote on Proposition One is for or against a lottery. But that is not true. If you vote "Yes" on Proposition One on November 8, you will be voting not just for a state-run lottery ... but you will be voting to allow the legalization of ALL forms of gambling in Indiana, including betting on horse racing, dog racing, and casino gambling. IF YOU DO NOT WANT LEGALIZED GAMBLING IN INDIANA, THEN YOU MUST VOTE ~N O, , ON PROPOSITION ONE ON NOVEMBER 8. Paid For By Indiana Citizens Against Legalized Gambling, Inc. P.O. Box 812, Bloomington, IN 47402 812-332-2098 332-3094

Abigail Van Buren

ends meet, my husband is gambling away a big part of our income in state, national and international lotteries. He doesn’t buy just one lottery ticket; he buys 100 to increase his chances of winning. He enters “contests” that require sending money and more money every time he “wins” a round. He orders merchandise and magazines we don’t need in order to win something. He subscribes to cheaplooking newsletters that promise to send him the “secrets” of how to pick winning numbers. Abby, we could get along very well with our combined incomes if he didn’t gamble, but he denies that he is gambling! He says gambling is going to the races or playing the numbers. Please check with Gamblers Anonymous and ask them if what my husband is doing is gambling. Answer soon. I fear for our future. TIRED WIFE DEAR TIRED: Regardless of how your husband tries to justify his spending money in order to “win” money, the name of this game is “gambling.” You don’t indicate where you live,

Pat Bombei, Greencastle, Mary Anne Bartee, Amo, Eddie Lee, Danville, and Jerry Lee, Greencastle, urge all friends and relatives to attend. They asked that gifts be omitted.

but if there is a Gamblers Anonymous near you, urge him to go. It would be well worth the investment in time. He would soon learn what “gambling” is, and how to control it. * * * DEAR ABBY: I am the mother of an intelligent, attractive, welleducated 32-year-old daughter who is single and has a very successful career. For the first time in her life she is in love. The man is very nice, but, Abby, he is 21 years old. I have mentioned this to many of my friends, and they give me examples of Joan Collins, Priscilla Presley and Cher! Abby, they are in Hollywood, and my daughter is living in the real world. I am worried about the pain that might result due to critical remarks made by friends and family members. I love my daughter very much and want to see her happy. She may have moments of happiness when she’s secluded with her “young man,” but she must work and live with others who may not approve of her choice. What do you think about this “youthful situation”? WELL-MEANING MOTHER DEAR MOTHER: I would trust an intelligent, welleducated, 32-year-old woman who has a successful career to make an intelligent choice for a companion. She may place more importance on “chemistry” than arithmetic, which is her right and her business. She may be sufficiently secure and happy to be totally unaffected by their critical comments. Don’t worry, Mother.

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Neighbors keep alert DEAR HELOISE: I want to share the way my neighbor and I keep an eye on each other. We are both elderly and live alone. Since I am an early riser and my neighbor is a late riser, this is what I do. When the morning paper comes, I go outside to get it and I toss her paper up onto her porch. This way later in the day if I see her paper still on the porch, I immediately call her to make sure that she is OK. If she sees my paper still on the lawn, she calls to make sure all is well with me. Gertie Smothers, Elko, Nev. You are lucky to have a thoughtfill neighbor. If we would all look out for each other like this, we sure could take a bite out of crime. Heloise AFTER-BABY SHOWER Dear Heloise: We decided to give my friend a baby shower after her baby was bom. This was a shower for the new mom instead of the baby. One guest gave her some “gift certificates” for free baby-sitting time. If the new mom has an errand to run, her friend will baby-sit free of charge. Some of the other gifts were large blouses to cover the slight bulge having a baby gives you, thank-you notes and other stationery, casseroles all ready for the freezer, favorite cassette tapes and even VCR tapes of a favorite movie. We had so much fun that whenever an acquaintance has a baby we will have another “after-baby shower.” The New Mother’s Friend, Memphis, Tenn. Mom did most of the work, so she deserves a shower too! New mothers are sometimes overwhelmed with the baby and all the new things that happen in a home with a new baby. What good friends you are! Heloise Clark-Gardner vows set Oct. 15 Mr. and Mrs. Steven Clark, Greencastle, announce the engagement of their daughter, Tammie J. Clark, to Benjamin B. Gardner, son of Mr. and Mrs. Walter Gardner, Greencastle. The bride-to-be is a 1988 South Putnam High School graduate. The future bridegroom, a 1985 Greencastle High School graduate, is employed by Sherwin-Williams Co., Greencastle. The wedding will be held at 1:30 p.m. Saturday, Oct. 15 at New Providence Baptist Church. All friends and relatives are invited to attend. A reception will follow at the church. (Editor’s note: An earlier announcement inadvertently omitted the date of the forthcoming wedding.)

The Wondrous World Of Childhood/^^^^^^ eyes If only we could see the l “Whosoever shall not receive the kingdom as a little child, he shall not enter therein.” Mark 10:15. to see the Copyright 1988. Keister-Williams Newspaper Services P O Box 8005. CharlottesviWe. VA 22906 Scnptures Selected by Tbe American Bible Society This weekly message is sponsored by these local businesses:

GREENCASTLE OFFSET PRINTING Terry & Pat McCarter 20 S. Jackson 653-4026 HUMPHREYS’ WHEEL HORSE Sales & Service US 231 N. 653-3019 JULIE’S POODLE PARLOR Wayne, Julie & Aaron Burns 11 Bloomington St. 653-5573 GREENCASTLE FEED CENTER, INC. U.S. Hwy. 231 North Greencastle 6534191 CENTRAL NATIONAL BANK Officers, Directors 4 Staff 1 Central Square WAL-MART DISCOUNT STORE Management 4 Associates, 653-2481 25 Putnam Plaza, Greencastle KROMME PLUMBING & HEATING Gene Sawyer & Staff 1111 S. Locust 653-4694 ALBIN’S POOLS & SPAS Norma & Tom Albin Albin Pond Rd. 653-3228 SHUEE & SONS TV & APPLIANCE Sales and Staff 24 N. Jackson, Greencastle The Shuee Family and Staff THE WALDEN INN Matthew O’Neill & Staff 2 East Seminary 653-2761 LONE STAR INDUSTRIES Greencastle, Indiana BRACKNEY’S WESTERN STORE The Brackney Family U.S. Hwy. 231 N. 653-9464 BRANAGIN OIL CO. Gary & Darcella Branagin 4 Personnel 653-8254 compliments of the GREENCASTLE NURSING HOME 815 E. Tacoma, 2 blks. N. of Armory CENTRAL INSURANCE AGENCY, INC. ‘Monty Montgomery ‘Rick Sharp ‘Charlene O’Neal 653-2641 DAVES’ HEATING & COOLING Dave Cox 4 Dave Corbin, props. 124 N. Jackson 653-7346 JENKINS STANDARD SERVICE Indiana 4 Walnut Streets Grencastle 853-9933 QUANTUM MECHANICAL INC. Heating * Air Conditioning Refrigeration RR 6, Box 45 Greencastle 739-6222 CASH CONCRETE PRODUCTS, INC. “Since 1919* Webb Road 653-6533 MOHR CHIROPRACTIC CENTER P.C. Dr. David Mohr Greencastle, Indiana PUTNAM INN RESTAURANT Ron Hansen 4 Staff 400 N. Jackson Greencastle 653-8777 B & E ELECTRIC SERVICE Electric 4 Commercial Refrigeration 1108 So. Locust 653-3953

KERSEY MUSIC COMPANY David 4 Sandra Fanning 4 Staff 11 N. Indiana St., Greencastle 653-6824 BLACK LUMBER CO. 501 North Indiana Greencastle 653-5171 SKELTON-SKINNER LUMBER CO. Retail-Wholesale-Transit Shippers 1221 S. Bloomington 653-9705 TRI-COUNTY BANK & TRUST CO. member FDIC-Roachdale Bainbridge-Russellville HERITAGE HOUSE CONVALESCENT CENTER OF PUTNAM CO. 1601 Hospital Dr. 653-2602 SUNSET MANOR NURSING HOME 1109 So. Indiana 653-3143 MAMA NUNZ’S PIZZA Jo Ruth Candlla, owner 800 S. Main 653-8402 JOE ELLIS HEATING AND AIR CONDITIONING, INC. 116 W. Franklin David Masten, 653-6712 SERVICE GLASS Merle 4 Carol Dixon 4 Staff 1104 N. Jackson 653-9452 TORR’S RESTAURANT Terry Torr 4 Staff Jet. US 40 4 231 So., 653-2666 A.A. HUBER & SONS PLUMBING Heating 4 Air Conditioning Indianapolis Road 653-3133 NICHOLS BUSINESS EQUIPMENT Service 4 Sales 302 N. Jackson, Greencastle 653-7350 MALLORY CAPACITOR COMPANY A Div. of Mallory Components Group Emhart Industries, Inc. COMMUNICATIONS CORPORATION OF INDIANA “The Telephone Company’ Roachdale, Indiana GREENCASTLE HOG MARKET John McCorkle, Mgr. 4 Staff Greencastle, indiana GREENCASTLE MANUFACTURING CO. Manhattan Road Phone 653-2611 MUFFLER CONNECTION Jim 4 Candy Robinson 4 Staff 816 No. Jackson Greencastle 653-4424 COUNTRY FOLKS DAIRY BAR with NEW Drive-Thru Service Junction US 231 4 US 36 BLUE FLAME of GREENCASTLE Junior Reed 4 Staff Rt. 5 S.R. 240 East Greencastle 246-6198 BRIAN SMITH’S BODY SHOP Junction U.S. 231 4 U.S. 36 Bainbridge 522-6703 SILVERWOOD SIGNS Quality Sign Work Free Estimates Steve Stamper 653-8786