Banner Graphic, Volume 18, Number 305, Greencastle, Putnam County, 2 September 1988 — Page 4

A4

THE BANNERGRAPHIC September 2,1988

Dear Abby

Dusting chores kick up storm of controversy

DEAR ABBY: I retired about a year ago. Since that time, I have had the opportunity to observe how my wife goes about her housewifely duties much to her annoyance. We now have an ongoing disagreement about whether she should dust first or vacuum first. I have brought up that question among our friends, and you cannot believe the arguments it generates. I say she should vacuum first because vacuuming raises the dust, which can be disposed of by dusting. My wife took the other side: Dust first then vacuum. Not to be sexist, most men opted for vacuuming first. I would like to hear from you, Abby. And perhaps your readers would let you know in what order these chores should be done. Please don’t say, “If you kept yourself busy, you would not care about the order one dusts and vacuums.” JAMES R. PETERSON, CINCINNATI DEAR MR. PETERSON: Shucks, you stole my answer. But now that you’ve shown a sincere interest in improving the efficiency of the domestic routine, why don’t you take over the vacuuming and dusting yourself? Then you can do it your way, and you’ll have nothing to argue about. But to answer your question, the last time I cleaned house, I vacuumed last (what a memory!). Readers? * * * DEAR ABBY: I am 28 and recently married a 42-year-old divorced man with two children, ages 18 and 20. My husband told me that he and his ex-wife have had a very good relationship since their divorce. Knowing this, I have tried not to let any feelings of jealousy or insecurity cause problems in our marriage. He told me that he had asked his ex-wife to call him for emergencies only. Well, I think she calls here entirely too much. She calls not only to talk about the children, but mainly because she feels they should have the same closeness as before. Abby, how do we keep a lot of problems and confusion down, and at the same time keep his ex-wife out of our lives? I feel that his “ex”

\ .IS Off selected St rperref Sale prices effective through Saturday, August 20, 1988 \ \ / \ unless otherwise noted. Sale does not include JCPenney » I V V Smart Value items. j MM|v3Cy| ICI9BB, JCPenney Company, Inc.

£

Abigail Van Buren

wants him to continue to treat her as his wife, which is far from reality. Please give me some advice on how to make peace and still solve this. THE NEW WIFE DEAR NEW WIFE: Does your husband think that his ex calls too much and wants to continue to be treated as his “wife” or is that your conclusion? You need to discuss this with him and come to an understanding. If he is displeased with his ex’s behavior, too, then he, not you, should be the one to let her know. Meanwhile, try to cultivate an attitude of compassion rather than competition, since you’re the one who won the “prize.” * * * DEAR ABBY: My husband and I traveled more than 200 miles last week to attend his mother’s memorial service. The night before the service, the family (seven of us) decided to have dinner at a Chinese restaurant. We took along “Roger,” our 6-month-old son who is still colicky at times. After we had placed our order, Roger became very fussy, so we tried to comfort him by holding him. My husband even took him outside for a while. When he brought him back, he started to cry very loudly again, so we thought if we put him in his car seat beside us. he might settle down by himself. There were only 14 people in the restaurant besides our party, but the waitress came over and told us that her customers were leaving because our baby’s crying was disturbing them. My husband got upset, canceled our order, and we left. Abby, did we overreact by walking out? Or should the waitress

have approached the situation differently? I always thought a restaurant was there to serve customers, including those with fussy babies. What is your opinion? ROGER’S MOM DEAR MOM: I don’t know how the waitress could have “approached the situation differently.” She acted appropriately to have politely informed you that her customers were leaving because of your baby’s crying. Considering the circumstances of your trip, you were all under a great deal of stress, so if your husband “overreacted,” that’s understandable. However, a colicky baby should not have been permitted to cry until he “settled down.” He should have been taken outside until he settled down, and then brought back. * * * DEAR ABBY: I was very much interested in your advice, “Do not transfer medicine from its original container to another.” I have to, with Anacin. In their effort to make the bottle child-proof, the makers of Anacin made it “elderly-proof,” too. I am in my 80s, and with my arthritic fingers and poor eyesight, I find it very hard to line up the arrows and pry off the lid. Please let the Anacin people know this. Their product is very good once you get to it. FRUSTRATED IN RICHMOND, VA. DEAR FRUSTRATED: Have you ever told your pharmacist that the child-proof lid on the Anacin bottle is giving you an Excedrin headache? If not, please do, and you will be provided with the easy-to-open kind. * * * “How to Be Popular” is for everyone who feels left out and wants an improved social life. It’s an excellent guide to becoming a better conversationalist and a more attractive person. To order, send your name and address, clearly printed, plus check or money order for $2.89 ($3.39 in Canada) to: Dear Abby, Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, 111. 61054. Postage and handling are included.

Hr "1 " : £ * 1 „ ' : ivOBB v^fl

AT THE CROSS I had just finished an after-dinner address at a convention of medical doctors. Several were coming by, introducing themselves, and spending a few moments in general conversation. One elderly physician approached with some difficulty, holding the arm of a younger doctor with one hand and gripping tightly onto his walking cane. His smile required his entire face to express itself. We talked a few moments about a point or two I made during the address. It was then that I spotted a beautiful gold cross, rather large, dangling on the end of a long chain, presenting itself prominently on his chest. “I see you have the cross, doctor,” I said, smiling and gently touching it. “Yes,” he said. “And everything that goes with it," and he limped on his way, still smiling that big smile. My eyes followed him through the crowd, as if transfixed. I thought: his “cross” is not his burden; not his limp; not his aging infirmity. No. His “cross” is in his face—his smile —not in his limp. And that’s where the CROSS always ends up: on our faces, expressing “everything that goes with it.” The old hymn is right: “At the cross, at the cross, where I first saw the fight....” Copyright 1988. Keister-Williams Newspaper Services, P. O. Box 8005, Charlottesville, VA 22906

This weekly message is sponsored by these local businesses:

GREENCASTLE OFFSET PRINTING Terry & Pat McCarter 20 S. Jackson 653-4026 HUMPHREYS’ WHEEL HORSE Sales & Service US 231 N. 653-3019 JULIE’S POODLE PARLOR Wayne, Julie & Aaron Burns 11 Bloomington St. 653-5573 GREENCASTLE FEED CENTER, INC. U.S. Hwy. 231 North Greencastle 653-4191 CENTRAL NATIONAL BANK Officers, Directors & Staff 1 Central Square WAL-MART DISCOUNT STORE Management & Associates, 653-2481 25 Putnam Plaza, Greencastle KROMME PLUMBING & HEATING Gene Sawyer & Staff 1111 S. Locust 653-4694 ALBIN’S POOLS & SPAS Norma & Tom Albin Albin Pond Rd. 653-3228 SHUEE & SONS TV & APPLIANCE Sales and Staff 24 N. Jackson, Greencastle The Shuee Family and Staff THE WALDEN INN Matthew O’Neill & Staff 2 East Seminary 653-2761 LONE STAR INDUSTRIES Greencastle, Indiana BRACKNEY’S WESTERN STORE The Brackney Family U.S. Hwy. 231 N. 653-9464 BRANAGIN OIL CO. Gary & Darcella Branagin & Personnel 653-8254 compliments of the GREENCASTLE NURSING HOME 815 E. Tacoma, 2 blks. N. of Armory CENTRAL INSURANCE AGENCY, INC. ‘Monty Montgomery ‘Rick Sharp ‘Charlene O'Neal ‘Jerry “Pat” Grimes 653-2641 DAVES’ HEATING & COOLING Dave Cox & Dave Corbin, props. 124 N. Jackson 653-7346 JENKINS STANDARD SERVICE Indiana & Walnut Streets Grencastle 653-9933 GREENCASTLE MANUFACTURING CO. Manhattan Road Phone 653-2611 QUANTUM MECHANICAL INC. Heating ’ Air Conditioning Refrigeration RR 6, Box 45 Greencastle 739-6222 CASH CONCRETE PRODUCTS, INC. “Since 1919’ Webb Road 653-6533 MOHR CHIROPRACTIC CENTER P.C. Dr. David Mohr Greencastle, Indiana PUTNAM INN RESTAURANT Ron Hansen & Staff 400 N. Jackson Greencastle 653-8777 B & E ELECTRIC SERVICE Electric & Commercial Refrigeration 1108 So. Locust 653-3953

lvk| Sunday | \S Psalm 149 |\ Monday IL Luke IM 1:46-55 Tuesday Revelation 4:1-11 Wednesday Revelation 5:1-14 Thursday Romans 1:1-17 Friday Romans 4:1-25 Saturday Romans 5:1-21 Scriptures Selected by The American Bible Society

KERSEY MUSIC COMPANY David & Sandra Fanning & Staff 11 N. Indiana St., Greencastle 653-6824 BLACK LUMBER CO. 501 North Indiana Greencastle 653-5171 SKELTON-SKINNER LUMBER CO. Retail-Wholesale-T ransit Shippers 1221 S. Bloomington 653-9705 TRI-COUNTY BANK & TRUST CO. member FDIC-Roachdale Bainbridge-Russellville HERITAGE HOUSE CONVALESCENT CENTER OF PUTNAM CO. 1601 Hospital Dr. 653-2602 SUNSET MANOR NURSING HOME 1109 So. Indiana 653-3143 MAMA NUNZ’S PIZZA Jo Ruth Cancilla, owner 800 S. Main 653-8402 JOE ELLIS HEATING AND AIR CONDITIONING, INC. 116 W. Franklin David Masten, 653-6712 SERVICE GLASS Merle & Carol Dixon & Staff 1104 N. Jackson 653-9452 TORR’S RESTAURANT Terry Torr & Staff Jet. US 40 & 231 So., 653-2666 A.A. HUBER & SONS PLUMBING Heating & Air Conditioning Indianapolis Road 653-3133 NICHOLS BUSINESS EQUIPMENT Service & Sales 302 N. Jackson, Greencastle 653-7350 MALLORY CAPACITOR COMPANY A Div. of Mallory Components Group Emhart Industries, Inc. COMMUNICATIONS CORPORATION OF INDIANA “The Telephone Company’ Roachdale, Indiana GREENCASTLE HOG MARKET John McCorkle, Mgr. & Staff Greencastle, Indiana COUNTRY FOLKS DAIRY BAR with NEW Drive-Thru Service Junction US 231 & US 36 MUFFLER CONNECTION Jim & Candy Robinson & Staff 816 No. Jackson Greencastle 653-4424 BLUE FLAME of GREENCASTLE Junior Reed & Staff Rt. 5 S.R. 240 East Greencastle 246-6198 BRIAN SMITH’S BODY SHOP Junction U.S. 231 & U.S. 36 Bainbridge 522-6703 SILVERWOOD SIGNS Quality Sign Work Free Estimates Steve Stamper 653-8786 KERSEY ELECTRIC & ENTERPRISES Commercial & Residential Electric & Antenna Work Roachdale 522-1451