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Dear Abbv: Early guest not welcome sight for harried hostess with last-minute duties

DEAR ABBY: 1 invited some friends over for cocktails at 6:30 p.m. That afternoon one of my guests called to confirm the time. We talked a while, and just before she hung up, she said, “I’ll come by early. Goodbye.” I was so surprised, I didn’t say anything, but it was too late anyway. She arrived at 5:45. I was still dressing, so I let her in and I returned to finish dressing. Then I had several last-minute things to do for the cocktail party, so I wasn’t able to visit with her, or even listen to her while she followed me around babbling about one thing or another. She really upset me because I couldn’t concentrate on the things I had to do, and I’m afraid I wasn’t A very gracious hostess. Is it acceptable in today’s society for guests to inform the hostess that they will be coming by early? And how could I have avoided this unsettling experience? OLD-FASHIONED DEAR OLD-FASHIONED: The problem here is not what is

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“Hats off to Spring’’ is the theme of the 11th annual Spring Dessert sponsored by the Extension Homemakers Council. The dessert will be held 7:30-9:30 p.m. Tuesday, April 30 at the 4-H Community Building. INCLUDED ON THE agenda will be: introduction of new club members, the homemakers Indiana State Fair Fashion Show and a skit on hats. The County Choral Club, under the direction of Mrs. Vera Kierstead, will be the opening feature. Each of the 32 Extension homemakers clubs will display two cultural arts items. There will also be a display of old textiles, such as lace, quilts, comforters and embroidery. The exhibits will be open for

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"acceptable” in today’s society; it’s the difference between how you perceive your relationship with this woman, and how she perceives it. She was presumptuous to assume that she would be welcome to come early. And you lacked the backbone to call her back and tell her it would not be convenient for her to come early—which is what you should have done. * * * DEAR ABBY: I wrote to you three years ago saying my husband had asked for a divorce (another woman). I was 42 at the time and thought my life was over. Suicide even crossed my mind, but I couldn’t do that to my children. You advised me to get into therapy, ever though I said I couldn’t afford counseling. You said, “You can’t afford not to have it; call your local mental health facility—you’ll be charged only what you can afford to pay.”

viewing at 7 p.m. Mrs. Sandy Rissler and members of the Allspices Club arranged the cultural arts displays. Mrs. Jan Hodges is chairman of the Homemakers Fashion Show and she is assisted by members of the Friends and Neighbors Club, Greencastle. PLANNING THE ANNUAL events are Mrs. Barbara Brookshire, chairman and members of the Town and Country Club. Mrs. Juetta Chastain and members of Daytime Dollies Club, Heritage Lake, assisted. Cookies in the shape of hats and punch will be served during the social hour. Guests are invited to attend the Spring Dessert.

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Well, I went for counseling, and it really turned my life around. Now I realize that my husband did me a big favor when he left me because I met and married a loving, caring man whom my “ex” couldn’t compare to. Sometimes when it seems like the end of the world, it’s really only the beginning. BEEN THERE DEAR BEEN THERE: Thanks, I needed that. I recommend “counseling” so frequently, many readers think it’s a copout on my part. It’s not. Sometimes it’s a lifesaver. * * * DEAR ABBY: My 42-year-old husband’s “get up and go” has been gone for a long time. He comes home from an office job, eats his dinner, then falls asleep in his recliner. He wakes up two hours later and goes to bed. Should I get rid of the recliner or my husband? NO ONE TO TALK TO

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