Banner Graphic, Volume 15, Number 104, Greencastle, Putnam County, 4 January 1985 — Page 3

Dear Abby: Cautious employee ignores door bell, looks boss's gift horse in mouth

DEAR ABBY; You be the judge: Last night about 7 p.m. I was relaxing in my tub when my doorbell rang. I wasn’t expecting anybody, but I got out of the tub, wrapped a towel around me and peeked out my front window to see who it was. I saw a kid about 18 or 19 years old, holding a box. I assumed he was selling something, so I said nothing and went back to my tub because I was not about to open my door to a stranger. The next morning my boss called me in and said, “Yesterday I asked you if you were going to be home that evening and you said yes, so how come you weren’t home?” I told him I was home. Then he told me he had sent his son to my house with a fruitcake his wife had made for a Christmas gift, but nobody answered the door. I told him the truth—that I was home, my doorbell rang and I saw a kid on my porch but didn’t want to open my door to a stranger. He said his son drove clear across town for nothing; then he called me a “paranoid dummy.” He really hurt my feelings, Abby. Was I wrong to do what I did? Or z was my boss wrong for chewing me out? No name or town, please. I need this job. BEING CAREFUL DEAR CAREFUL: Orchids to you for being careful, and a wilted weed to your boss for chewing you out. He should have told you that his son would be delivering a gift to you about 7 p.m. Nobody should open his or her door to a stranger.

Hints from Heloise: Drying tips help preserve garment fabric

DEAR HELOISE: Here are a few tips on using a clothes dryer efficiently. You get the best results as well as save energy by correctly sorting all items for the dryer. Heavy items should be dried together, not put into otherwise lighter loads. Lightweight garments dry faster in a much shorter time period than heavy garments. Remember to only dry full loads. Small loads waste energy. And don’t overload the dryer as everything should tumble freely. Also avoid overdrying. All fabrics have a natural moisture content. When overdried, the moisture is removed. What happens is that the clothes get wrinkles, static electricity, a rough feel and sometimes shrink. Always unload the dryer as soon as the appliance stops, making sure to hang or fold the clothing promptly to avoid unnecessary wrinkles. S.D.A. ★ * * Thanks for very good time- and money-saving hints. Heloise TESTING RINSES Dear Heloise: I always keep my hair rather long. When I cut it, I save the hair. When I want to put a rinse or dye in my hair, I use this cut hair to test the color. This way I am able to see how my hair will react to certain products and colors. I don’t have to worry about a surprise color after I have finished with the rinse. Beatrice Lyon NOVEL SHOWER PARTY Dear Heloise: Recently I attended a bridal shower which was different. We were asked NOT to wrap the gifts. The shower was given by friends of the groom and the bride was a stranger. As we entered, one of the hostesses received the gift, entered it in a book and took it back into the den where all the gifts were on display. At that time we all met the bride, had a chance to visit with her and also to see all of the gifts. The amazing thing was that before we left we were thanked individually for the particular gift we had brought.

District director guest speaker at DAR meeting

Members of the Major Abraham Owen chapter of DAR and their guests met at the Colonial House Restaurant Dec. 13 for their annual Christmas dinner. Mrs. Jeanne Wanhainen, Tell City, district director, was the guest speaker. Following dinner, members sang “The Star Spangled Banner” and recited the Pledge of Allegiance and the American Creed in unison. Devotions from St. Luke, Chapter 2:4-7 and prayer were given by Mrs. Jeanetta McFarren. Mrs. McFarren also read the minutes of the previous meeting. BARBARA MOORE GAVE a summary on Liberty Love Day. Edna Montgomery gave a report on good citizens. Mrs. Montgomery said Kirk Wood, Clay City, was chosen as the DAR Good Citizen. Joyce Hipps gave the CAR report. Mrs. Hipps is the new CAR area leader. She will be holding meetings in the Cloverdale area for ancestors of Revolutionary War soldiers. Mrs. Montgomery gave the report on the flag presentation to the Freedom Aires 4-H Club which was held on Dec. 20 at the Owen County Fairgrounds. She also gave a report on the honor roll requirements.

DEAR ABBY: A further word about taking children out of school for dental appointments: You recommended against it, and I agree wholeheartedly. (Teachers can’t teach absent students any more than dentists can treat absent patients.) Then “Frustrated Dentist” said: “I am a pedodontist, and my practice is totally limited to children and adolescents. If I were to follow your recommendation, I would have to schedule all my patients between the hours of 3 p.m. and 5 p.m daily. Obviously, this is impossible.” Abby, that dentist missed the obvious solution. Where is it written in concrete that 5 p.m. is quitting time? A dentist whose practice is limited to children should make his office hours between 3 p.m. and 9 p.m. plus all day Saturday. That way, no school is missed and everyone is happy. Simple, no? -BILL McC. IN LEXINGTON DEAR BILL: Simple, yes. DEAR ABBY: First one grandma says, “Marriage is the price a man pays for sex, and sex is the price a woman pays for marriage.” Then another grandma says, “Men give love in order to get sex, and women give sex in order to get love—and marriage has nothing to do with it.” My lover and I cannot marry because we are both men. Our relationship is not based on the barter system. We’re together because we love each other, and sex is a natural expression of that love—not a demand or a payment. Are heterosexuals missing something? GLAD I’M GAY

Within the week, we also received individualized thank-you notes which were not the generic “Thank you for your gift!” It was well organized and a lot better than sitting around watching the bride, time and time again, tear off a gift wrap which cost $2 or more. All in all, that was a shower to remember. Mary L. Davis * * * I bet it was. It’s a new twist for a shower and it sounds great. Heloise LIBRARY TREASURES Dear Heloise: The busy working parent of pre-schoolers who doesn’t have time to read books to her children should take them on a trip'to the public library. They can get storybook records and all they have to do is put the record on and the children will be enchanted. Most of the records come with a picture book to go along with the record so children can follow the story. This was a treasure chest discovery for my daughter and I. I sincerely hope that it will be the same for other busy parents. Patricia Janelie PERFUME RACK Dear Heloise: I am not the world’s greatest housekeeper, but I do not like clutter. I don’t like to look at my perfumes and colognes on the dresser as they aren’t very attractive just sitting there. Because I use a different perfume all the time, I like to have the bottles readily available. So, I bought a threeshelf spice rack and mounted it on the wall next to my dresser. I put some cup hooks on the bottom of the “perfume rack” to hang necklaces from. I killed two birds with one stone and now everything is attractive and easy to get to. Helen Klima DEAR HELOISE: Whenever I use appliances that require batteries, I always put a piece of masking tape on the battery and mark the date on it so I know when I last replaced it. Some appliances, like battery-

DELEGATES WHO PLAN to attend the April Continental Congress in Washington, D C., were named. Mrs. Melba Haltom, vice regent, read the invitations. Mrs. Haltom also stated the “Arts of Independence” book has been published and is available for sale. Mrs. Hipps was named the new State Motion Picture, Radio and Television director. Mrs. McFarren reported on the marker for Mrs. Wesley. Mrs. Hipps introduced the guest speaker. Mrs. Wanhainen talked about genealogy. Mrs. Aral Groner then read a Christmas story entitled “The Blue Beads.” Carols were then sung as Barbara Moore accompanied on piano. Jim Goodin won the surprise gift. THOSE ATTENDING were: Edna Montgomery, Edythe Bonness, Aral Groner, Dorothy Lyon, Mary Mabel Morris, Connie Davis, Melba Haltom, Jeanne Wanhainen, Jeanetta McFarren, Ralph McFarren, William Marley, Mary Edith Marley, James Goodin, Sarah Goodin, Louise Van Scyoc, Barbara Moore, Aubrey Moore, Rose Lotz, Joyce Hipps and George W. Hipps.

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DEAR GLAD: Not all heterosexuals are missing something. Nor are all homosexuals together because they love each other. All generalizations are flawed. Including this one. ♦ * * DEAR ABBY: I have been in a bad marriage for 40 years. I knew it was a mistake after the first year, but being a Catholic, 1 accepted it as my cross. I bore eight children, hating every minute of it. There was never enough money, so I started teaching school when my youngest was 4. I’m 60 now and feel like 85. I’m sick of marriage, sick of my family and sick of life in general. Suicide would cut off insurance and be hard on my family. Is there a place where I can get some information on how to end my life and make it look like an accident? Every night I pray I won’t wake up the next morning. HELPLESS IN HELL DEAR HELPLESS: I am glad you wrote to me because you need to see these words:

operated clocks require a change of batteries every year. I check the date on the batteries every so often, then I know when to change them. Mary Velousky * * * I never thought of that because I’m still learning too! Heloise COLD PACKS Dear Heloise: My mother taught me this little trick. Instead of putting ice on bumps and bruises, wet a washrag and put it in a plastic bag, then store it in the freezer. You won’t have ice cubes melting everywhere and you have a cold pack whenever needed. J.M.D.S. ADDRESS BOOK UPDATE Dear Heloise: I have a time- and space-saver for keeping address booksup to date. I paint over the old address with liquid correction fluid, then let it dry a few seconds and write in the new address. Esther Myers EYE GLASSES HOLDER Dear Heloise: At last I’ve found the perfect holder for my eyeglasses at night.

Problems of childhood topic of workshop Jan. 7

Dr. Judy Myers-Walls, extension specialist in child development, Purdue University will be in Putnam County Monday, Jan. 7 to present a program to Extension Homemaker Club leaders on the topic of “Children’s Problems.” The discussion will focus on how to deal with children’s problems through positive direction and building self-esteem.

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The children of Mr. and Mrs. Oscar Kenneth Miller, Fillmore, invite everyone to an open house to celebrate the Millers' 40th wedding

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My dear lady, your letter is a cry for help if ever I saw one. I beg you to see a priest and also a doctor. Your problems are much too heavy to carry alone. For immediate comfort, call your local suicide prevention hotline. You desperately need to talk to someone now. You are a sick woman who wants to recover, although you deny it to yourself and now to me. Please take my advice and let me hear from you again. I care. ♦ ♦ * DEAR ABBY: This is for all newspaper carriers, mail carriers and delivery people: When you see a dog, barking and growling in front of someone’s house, turn right around and forget that house. Today, a delivery boy tried to get up to our front door when he was confronted by our dog on a chain, growling and snapping frantically. The delivery boy didn’t take the hint; instead he kept advancing,

The foam-insulated holders for cold canned drinks is wide enough for the new long frames and deep enough to be safe. Naomi L. Dalton And it won’t scratch the lenses. Heloise POPCORN BALLS Dear Heloise: A neat way to wrap popcorn balls is to put them in a plastic bag or sandwich bag. As you eat them, turn the top of the bag back over your hand and your fingers won’t get sticky. Eileen R. Dotzler DEARHEIDISE: I recently attended a baby shower for the second child of a young mother. One of the guests included a gaily wrapped coloring book especially for the older first child. I learned later that this little one was thrilled with his present as much as the ones given “his” new baby. This was a very thoughtful way to include other children in the preparations for a new arrival. I intend to remember other children at any future shower. G.H. Pegg

Dr. Myers-Walls is married and the mother of a daughter. She obtained her master’s degree and doctorate at Purdue University. The program will be held at the 4-H Community Building at 7 p.m. Anyone interested may attend the meeting. For details, persons may call the county extension office, 653-8411.

anniversary 2-5 p.m. Jan. 13 at the Fillmore Christian Church basement. The couple has five children and 10 grandchildren.

trying to get around the dog and up to our front door. Had our dog been able to get to this boy, he could have done him serious damage. Abby, I’m really worried. I have heard that according to law, every dog is entitled to one bite, but if he bites twice, he has to be put to sleep. Is that true? LOVES MY DOG DEAR LOVES: “Laws” concerning dogs differ, depending on where one lives. However, it would seem apparent that a barking, growling dog on a chain is doing what he has been trained to do—protect his domain—and anyone who deliberately attempts to invade his territory is asking for trouble. Mail carriers, newspaper carriers and delivery people are usually instructed to “forget” the house that’s being protected by man’s best friend.

Calendar of events Friday The Women of the Moose will hold a chicken and noodle supper at 6:30 p.m. Friday, Jan. 4. Cost is $2.50. Applegate Lodge No. 155, Fillmore, will hold a called meeting at 7:30 p.m. Friday, Jan. 4. Work will be in the EA degree. All Masons welcome. Saturday A euchre party is scheduled at 7 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 5 at the Putnam County Senior Center, 9 W. Franklin St., Greencastle. Doors will open at 6 p.m. All senior citizens are welcome. The Greencastle Friendly Squares will hold their anniversary dance 7-11 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 5 at the Greencastle National Guard Armory. Nancy Brown, Larry Cole and Mel Cruse will be calling continuous dancing. Cloverdale Lodge No. 132, Free and Accepted Masons, will hold its installation of officers for 1985 at 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 5. Brethem are urged to attend. The public is invited. Temple Lodge No. 47 F & AM will hold an open installation officers at 1 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 5. Refreshments served. Visitors welcome. Cloverdale F & AM Lodge No. 132 will have its installation of officers at 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 5. The public is invited. Monday Putnam County Shrine Club will meet at 7:30 p.m. Monday, Jan 7 at the American Legion. All shriners are urged to attend and support the club. The Greencastle Civic League will meet at 7:30 p.m. Monday, Jan. 7at the home of Julia Williams. Tuesday “A Cure for Arthritis...ls There One?” will be the topic of the Community Education forum at Putnam County Hospital at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8. Dr. Mark Conway and physical therapist Jane Maillet will be discussing the causes, cures and treatment of arthritis. The session will be held in the ground-floor classroom at the hospital. It is open to the public at no charge. Brick Chapel Home Extension Club will meet at 1 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 with Mrs. Irene Lane. Bring soup for the food pantry. Beta Psi chapter of Kappa Kappa Kappa will meet at 8 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 at Feld’s Carpet Place. Bring a food item for the food pantry. The Happier Homes Extension Club will meet at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 at the home of Mrs. Helen Ewing. Ladies AuxiliaryVFW Post No. 1550 will meet at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 at the post home. The Four-Leaf Clover Home Ec Club will meet at 1:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 at the home of Nell Kersey. The lesson “Stenciling for the Home’ will be presented by Grace Torr. Temple Lodge No. 47, F & AM will meet Tuesday, Jan. 8 for work in the EA degree. Refreshments will be served All visiting brethern are welcome. The Volunteer Sewing Group will meet Tuesday, Jan. 8 from 9 a.m.-noon in the downstairs classroom at First Christian Church. Brick Chapel Home Ec Club will meet in the home of Irene Lane at 1 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8. The monthly missionary meeting of Immanuel Baptist Church will be held at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 at the home of Joanne Green, 119 W. Berry St., Greencastle. Edna Wade will give the devotions. The Veronica Club will meet at 2 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 with Mrs. Bernice Ray. Parents Time, a program designed to help reinforce parenting skills will meet at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 8 at the First Christian Church, 110 S. Indiana St., Greencastle. All interested parents are welcome. Child care will be provided. For further information, call 653-4789. Thursday The Beech Grove Ladies Aid will meet all day Thursday, Jan. 10 at the church. A pot luck dinner will be served. The deadline for calendar of events items is as follows: Monday evening-I p.m. Friday; Tuesday evening-1 p.m. Monday; Wednesday evcning-Friday-1 p.m. Thursday. "Die calendar is not published on Saturdays. For maximum exposure of calendar items, they should be submitted 10 days in , advance of scheduled meeting.

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January 4,1985, The Putnam County Banner-Graphic

DEAR ABBY: Recently a reader asked you whether a tomato is a fruit or a vegetable. Your answer was better than most, but I feel it was inadequate. Since I was unable to get satisfactory definitions of the terms “fruit” and “vegetable” from people in the food industry, I asked a botanist, whose response seems to be the only valid one: “A fruit is a plant ovary. A vegetable is any edible plant part. A tomato, clearly, is both a fruit and a vegetable, as is the case with many foods. All edible fruits are vegetables. Many vegetables are fruits.” DON GRIESMER, MILWAUKEE DEAR DON: A tomato is both a fruit and a vegetable? And many vegetables are fruits? Forgive me if I interpret all this as a contradiction in terms. Where do the nuts fit in?

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