Banner Graphic, Volume 15, Number 72, Greencastle, Putnam County, 27 November 1984 — Page 4

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The Putnam County Banner-Graphic, November 27,1984

Dear Abby '• Second wife fears she's married to half a husband

DEAR tor three years to a man who divorced his wife because she was having an attair with another man I was already divorced when I met him. Now the problem. My husband feels guilty about his divorce. He talks to me about his concern for her mental health, and he worries about who is comforting her sexually. I've heard this for three years now, and it isn’t doing much for my mental health. His ex-wife has the house in her name and their two children live with her. She’s currently seeing a very wealthy man who has remodeled her home and takes her out, and 1 presume he “comforts” her. Meanwhile, I’m living in a modest apartment with a fi-vear-old child from my previous marriage and a husband who is worrying about his ex-wife’s mental health and sexual needs. I feel like saying, “My first marriage failed, too, but I’ve picked up the pieces and gone on. I married you because I loved you. I still do, but I don’t spend my time worrying about my ex-husband’s mental state or sexual needs.” What is wrong, Abby? Why am I beginning to feel like I have half a husband? SECOND THOUGHTS IN LOUISVILLE DEAR SECOND THOUGHTS:

Caldwell weds Hedrick Oct. 6 in Tennessee

Sarah Jackson Caldwell, daughter of Dr. and Mrs. Benjamin Hubbard Caldwell Jr., Nashville, Tenn., exchanged wedding vows with David Eugene Hedrick, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Donald Hedrick,

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Your husband is too preoccupied with his ex-wife, and you are beginning to feel that you have half a husband because you have. He needs counseling in order to let go of what he no longer has: her. Tell him what you feel like telling him and insist that he get professional help. * * * DEAR ABBY: Thank you for all the good things you had to say about Marriage Encounter. But Abby, we must ask for a correction immediately. Marriage Encounter is all the things you said it was. It is for couples who have good marriages. And it is a crash course for couples who want to put the honeymoon sparkle back into their marriages and keep it there. But it is not a counseling session in any form whatsoever! If a couple needs counseling, they should seek it first, and when they are back on the right track, they should treat themselves to a Marriage Encounter weekend to reaffirm their commitment of love and marriage. Hoping to see this correction soon. H. AND C. SPITZER IN S.C., LUTHERAN MARRIAGE ENCOUNTER

Greencastle, during a double-ring ceremony Oct. 6. The wedding and reception were held in the formal boxwood garden of Inglehame

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DEAR H. AND C.: I submit this correction with my apologies. The trouble with “corrections” is that those who have read the erroneous information rarely see the corrections. * * * DEAR ABBY: To get right to the point, I’m a 26-year-old man with a serious problem. 1 have very bad acne scars on my face. They hinder my professional life as well as my social life. I’ve had them for years, and now I want to do something about them. Can you recommend any medication, treatment or even plastic surgery? I would greatly appreciate

Farm, Franklin, Tenn., a historic site of the Middle Tennessee area built in 1940 It is the home of the bride’s maternal grandparents, Mr and Mrs. Vernon H. Sharp Jr. In the same garden, the bride’s parents were married 26 years ago. THE CLASSICAL URNS flanking the wrought iron gates at the entrance to the grounds were filled with Oregon fern, verigated pittisporum and ivy. The towering 40-year-old boxwoods were the setting of the garden featuring antique stone statuary and a three-tiered flowing fountain filled with several varieties of ivy, caladium leaves, Oregon fern and astilbe Topiary trees of boxwood and Marguerite daisies in white lattice boxes shaped the sanctuary pew, which was accented by large arrangements of Mont Blanc lillies, white delphinium, euphorbia and agapanthus on tall white fluted columns. Two carved Victorian prayer benches covered in ivory linen were the focus of the ceremony. Rev. Donald Richter, Mid Hudson Christian Church, Wallkill, N.Y., officiated the ceremony where the Ted Medsen String Quartet provided the music. GIVEN IN MARRIAGE by her father.

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it. Please help me. Thanks. SCARFACE DEAR SCARFACE: If you don’t know a dermatologist or board-certified plastic surgeon who uses a technique called dermabrasion, call your county medical association and ask it to recommend a few. This procedure can be done with a local anesthetic in a doctor’s office, or in a hospital if a general anesthetic is used. Depending on how badly scarred your face is, this procedure will give you a practically “new” skin surface. It is not painless, hut it’s not nearly as painful as a condition that causes one to sign himself “Scarface.” Go for it, and good luck.

the bride wore a antique Victorian wedding gown of cotton lace, featuring panels of heavy reembroidered cotton lace and feather stitched embroidery. The gown had a chapel train while the veil of antique French silk illusion was gathered on a Victorian headpiece of wax orange blossoms and lillies of the valley. She carried a Victorian nosegay of white sweetheart roses, tube roses, stephanotis and gyposhilia. The bride attended Butler University, Indianapolis. Gertrude Sharp Caldwell, the bride’s sister, New York City, was the maid of honor. The bridegroom attended Indiana University, Bloomington and recently studied at the Joffrey Ballet School, New York City. He is employed as a ballet dancer for the Des Moines Ballet, Des Moines, lowa. Mark Trigg, Lithonia, Ga., was the best man. A 12-FOOT BANQUET table was spread with the same lace cloth used by the bride’s parents at their wedding reception A four-tiered wedding cake was decorated with the same five-bisque cupids used by the bride’s parents. The couple are at home in Des Moines.

Calendar of events Tuesday The Civil War Round Table of West Central Indiana will meet at 7: 30 p m Tuesday, Nov. 27 in Room 106, East College, DePauw University. Nationally acclaimed author Alan Nolan will present one program “The Iron Brigade at Gettysburg” and retired journalist Richard Jackson will present Readings from Iron Brigade Veteran’s Diary” as he narrates from his grandfather s Civil War journal. The public is welcome. The Four Seasons Club will meet at the home of Sharon Dunn at 7 p.m. Nov. 27. Roll call will be foolish superstitions. A euchre party will be held at the Heritage House Convalescent Center at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 27. No euchre will be held in December Temple Lodge No. 47 F & AM will hold a called meeting at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 27. Work will be in the FC degree. Members are urged to attend. Visitors are welcome. Refreshments will be served after the meeting. Wednesday Putnamville United Methodist Women will meet at 7 p.m. Wednesday, Nov. 28 with Mrs. Robert Scobee. Bring thank-you banks. A euchre party will be held at 1 p.m. Wednesday, Nov 28 at the Putnam County Senior Center, 9 W. Frankiin St., Greencastle. All senior citizens are welcome. A called meeting of Royal Arch Chapter No. 22 is scheduled for 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, Nov. 28 at the Greencastle Masonic Temple. The Viritual Past Master’s Degree will be conferred. Refreshments and social hour will follow. All Royal Arch Masons are invited to attend. Thursday The men’s interdenominational prayer breakfast is held at 6:30 am. every Thursday at the Double Decker Restaurant. Those participating order from the menu. Friday Women of the Moose will sponsor a Sock Hop 8-10 p.m. Friday, Nov. 30. Children are welcome. Members only are invited. Dress accordingly. Beginning Friday, Nov. 30, from noon-4 p.m., the Hypertensive Task Force of the local Putnam County Heart unit will be starting a monthly blood pressure screening program for residents of the area. For information, contact Bernie Moon RN at the Putnam County Hospital, 653-5121,8 a m.-3 p.m. Saturday A euchre party will be held at 7 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 1 at the Putnam County Senior Center, 9 W. Franklin St., Greencastle. Doors open at 6 p.m. All senior citizens welcome. The Putnam County Chaplaincy Association will meet at 8 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 1 in the Putnam County Hospital classroom. The Jefferson Township Extension Club will have its annual Christmas party at 2:30 p.m. Saturday, Dec. 1 at the Colonial House, Cloverdale. The B team should arrive by 2 p.m. to prepare special table decorations. There will be a $3 gift exchange. Monday The DePauw Women’s Club will host a “Holiday Snack and Social Hour” at the home of Dr. and Mrs. Rosser Monday, Dec. 3 immediately following the faculty meeting. Members are asked to arrive shortly before 8 p.m. Call Nancy McFarland, 653-6690, or Angela Smock, 653-2239 for more information. The Monday Club will meet at the Colonial House at 12:15 p.m. Monday, Dec. 3 for a Christmas luncheon. Remember to bring an exchange gift and money for a charity gift. The Fortnightly Club will meet Monday, Dec. 3 with Esther Friend. Grace Browning will have the program. Wednesday The Putnam County Historical Society will meet at 6:30 p.m. Wednesday, Dec. 5 at the Double Decker Restaurant. Mrs. Vera Kierstead will give the program on Christmas music. Make reservations with Mrs. William J. Boatright by noon Tuesday, Dec. 4.

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Heloise Cleaning of salad bowl removes hard gumminess

DEAR HELOISE: My big problem is wooden salad bowls which are coated with a substance that has become sticky and unattractive. Is there any way to remove this coating and still have a good wooden bowl to use? Mrs. Betsy Nizich ★ * * Wash the bowls in warm, sudsy water, rinse with cold water and immediately dry thoroughly. Never soak them or leave them to drip-dry. After washing, rub the entire surface with a little cooking oil. Let the bowl sit overnight to absorb the oil. Wipe out the excess oil the following day and the bowl should be ready to use. If washing the bowls does not remove the gumminess, then try rubbing the inside surface of the bowl with a piece of pecan or walnut meat. If there are scratches in the wood, this should make them less noticeable. If all else fails, then you will have to refinish the bowls by sanding the wood with the grain, using a very fine sandpaper. Continue sanding until the surface feels smooth and none of the sticky residue is left. Apply a thin coating of a waterproof, spar varnish. Be sure to let the varnish dry thoroughly. To keep your bowls beautiful, do not let salad sit in them for a long time. The acid from fruit, vegetables, and salad dressing causes that hard-to-remove gumminess. Good luck! Heloise HOME SAFETY Dear Heloise: I was concerned about our toddler falling against the raised brick under our woodbuming stove or getting burned against it. I bought a circular, expandable wooden playpen and cut it so it could be fastened to the walls on each side of the brick with hooks and eyes (or even wedged between the brick and furniture). It stretched into a semi-circle around the brick. It can easily be entered to fix the fire or pushed back out of the way and it allows for viewing and circulation. Kay Jerew

MAP MAGIC Dear Heloise: If you travel a lot on the highways, have the portion of the map you will be using blown up by a photograph shop that enlarges pictures. You can glue the map on a piece of cardboard and cover it with plastic so it can be wiped clean. Mrs. J. Baker ★ * * This really sounds like a great idea for anyone who has to travel all over a town. Sometimes maps are hard to handle and to read especially if your eyesight isn’t so good. Heloise ROLLING IN DOUGH Dear Heloise: I have a tip to share for rolling dough for things like cookies and pie crusts. I always had trouble with the dough sticking to my rolling pin. I now dampen my counter top and, while it’s still wet, place waxed paper on it. The dampness holds the paper in place. I put prepared dough on the waxed paper and top it with a large sheet of plastic wrap and then roll away. The plastic wrap keeps my dough smooth and even and I never worry about it sticking to my rolling pin. Janis Wulfers NO FATS Dear Heloise: When you are making chili or spaghetti sauce, keep the tomatoes refrigerated and icy cold until ready to use. When added to the hot ground beef some of the fat will solidify around them and can easily be removed. A Reader * * * A nice tip one that makes it possible to enjoy reduced-calorie chili or spaghetti. —Heloise * * * Have a special hint that makes housekeeping easier? Send it to Heloise, P.O. Box 32000, San Antonio, Texas 78216. She can’t answer your letter personally but she will use the best hints she receives in her column.