Banner Graphic, Volume 14, Number 166, Greencastle, Putnam County, 20 March 1984 — Page 4

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The Putnam County Banner-Graphic, March 20,1984

Dear Abby Flirtatious guy 'prisoner' of jealous girlfriend

DEAR ABBY: I like this guy I’ll call Mike, and my problem is his girlfriend. I’ll call her Judy. It all started when Mike followed me to my locker one day and started talking to me. We seemed to hit it off real well. I could tell that he liked me, but there is just one thing standing between us—Judy. For a while the minor flirting between us was pretty hush-hush, but the kids started teasing us and then Judy got wind of it. I know Mike doesn’t really like her anymore, but I heard that he confronted her with his true feelings about me and she broke down, so he gave in and now they re back together again stronger than ever. Mike hasn’t told me what’s going on between them, so I am in the dark except for what I hear from my friends who are close to his friends. I have deep feelings for Mike and I know he really likes me, but Judy is in the way. I don’t want to lose him. What should I do? NORA (NOT MY REAL NAME) DEAR NORA: You never really “had” Mike, so you can’t very well “lose” him. No boy—Mike included—stays with a girl very long after he’s lost his heart to another girl. Time will tell. If Mike doesn’t come around in a few weeks, forget him. Judy has him all locked up, and he appears to be a willing prisoner. ♦ * * DEAR ABBY: My husband spent many years in prison where he had someone telling him what to do all the time, so I hate to give him any orders, but this is serious. So far it’s been two months since he took a bath or washed his stringy hair, and I just can’t take it any longer. He thinks deodorants are for sissies and he really smells bad. He looks awful and has dirt in places that nobody except me sees. Meanwhile he expects me to have sex with him regularly. I love him, but I’m turned off by him and can’t find words to tell him. I am immaculate myself and bathe regularly—twice a week. Please tell me what to do. NO WORDS

DEAR ABBY: My husband spent many years in prison where he had someone telling him what to do all the time so I hate to give him any orders, but this is serious. So far it’s been two months since he took a bath oi washed his stringy hair, and I just can’t take it any longer. He thinks deodorants are for sissies and he really smells bad. He looks awful and has dirt in places thal nobody except me sees. Meanwhile he expects me to have sex with him regu larly. I love him, but I’m turned off by him and can’t find words to tell him. I am immaculate myself and bathe regularly—twice s week. Please tell me what to do. NO WORDS DEAR NO: Try these words: “Darling, I love you, but you smell bad. Please take a bath, if not for yourself, for me.”

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DEAR ABBY: I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, but I have had it with homemade decorator items from my inlaws with the message, “This will look lovely in your living room or kitchen or den.” Believe me, Abby, lack of money is not the reason for these homemade gifts. I appreciate the thought and effort that went into these gifts, but they are creating a real problem for me. I have my own style of decorating, and these craft items simply do not fit in. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but I also don’t want the pressure of trying to remember to get all these items out on display when my in-laws visit. Please tell people to reserve their handicraft items for their own homes. They should not impose their personal taste on another person’s home. I know from talking to my friends that I am not the only one with this problem.

Hints from Heloise Buying new ribbon for old typewriter easy with spool

DEARHEIX)ISE: Here is a hint for home or office that may be of help to your many readers as well as the means of saving many dollars over the years. My typewriter is on the getting-old side. It was secondhand when I bought it 10 years ago. The required ribbon is difficult to find. But I’ve solved my problem I buy a good ribbon for any model typewriter. After removing the worn ribbon from the two spools on my typewriter, I wind the ends of the new ribbon to catch the barbs on the spools. I then fit the spools into place and thread the ribbon. It works beautifully. If you use this method, be sure to

save the original spools since it is the spool that does not fit rather than the ribbon. Elmer L. Harvey * * * Thanks for your handy hint. Heloise SOOTHE THAT BITE Dear Heloise: Before mosquito time approaches, I’d like to offer a suggestion for stopping the itching caused by their bites. Take a sheet of paper towel (or paper napkin). Moisten it with warm water and sprinkle it with table salt. Then, instead of scratching, rub the bitten area gently with the salt. The itching will stop almost immediately. With bites caused by black flies, more salt may be needed, even within the next day or so. Salt has an advantage in that it is almost always available. Or, if a person is going to the beach or for a walk in the woods, it’s easy to take along one of the little packages served by fast food restaurants. Also, salt has an antiseptic quality. On bites, for some reason, it does not seem to burn or sting the way it would in an open cut. It just

You could do us all a tremendous favor by printing this letter, Abby. SWAMPED IN BRIC-A BRAC DEAR SWAMPED: Here’s your letter. I hope it helps, because there’s no way to tell people that their homemade gifts are not welcome. Some are cherished. ♦ * * (Getting married? Whether you want a formal church wedding or a simple, “do-your-own-thing” ceremony, get Abby’s booklet. Send $1 plus a long, self-addressed, stamped (37 cents) envelope to: Abby’s Wedding Booklet, P.O. Box 38923, Hollywood, Calif. 90038.)

stops the itching. Alice Halliday THREAD DISPOSAL Dear Heloise: Disposing of the pieces of thread left after sewing a seam on polyester, with the static created by the fabric, can be a problem. I keep a lint brush (mine resembles the rough side of the self-gripping tape) on my sewing machine and I deposit the threads on it. No more frustration in trying to get threads to let go of your fingers and it helps in the clean up. Elva PERFECT SIZE Dear Heloise: I have used a small (dinner-plate size), round, rather fiat and soft pillow for sleeping for a long, long time. It sure helps my neck which was whiplashed in an accident 30 years ago when collars were seldom prescribed. The pillow can be pulled in and out from under the head very easily. It is also great to place between aching arthritic knees when sleeping on one’s side. It’s great first aid for lumps and bumps too. J.R.E.

STATIC ELECTRICITY Dear Heloise: My sister-in-law gave me this hint. At her wedding, I was maid of honor. My dress was floor-length, so I put it on at the last possible minute. It clung to my legs so badly, it looked like slacks. I had no static spray and no time to buy any. Her suggestion: Rub hand lotion over the entire length of my pantyhose. I tried it and it worked perfectly. No more cling. ★ ★ * Do you have a way to overcome life’s little annoyances, such as conquering static cling? Send your suggestions to Heloise, P.O. Box 32000, San Antonio, TX 78216. She can’t acknowledge individual letters but will use good, practical hints in her column as space permits. Parenthood important to women ROCHESTER, N Y. (AP) - In the Western world, most men who want children are motivated by “the promise of immortality,” but it’s different with women, says researcher Ayala Gabriel. According to the University of Rochester anthropologist, although a woman is likely to support her husband’s desire to carry on the family name by having a son, she tends to be motivated even more by the anticipation of “parent-child relationships and the transmission of cultural values.” Based on her survey of couples who are expecting their first child, Ms. Gabriel reports: “Women who choose parenthood express a wish to repeat the relationship they have experienced, while men who want children wish for a continuation beyond their own life.”

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Calendar of events Wednesday The Allspice Home Extension Club will meet at 7 p.m. Wednesday, March 21 at the home of Linda Blue, Reelsville. The lesson will be coordinating colors given by guest speaker Dottie Buechler. For directions, call Linda at 672-8249 The Greencastle Garden Club will meet at 9:30 a.m. Wednesday, March 21 at the home of Mrs. Robert Breese. Mrs. Henbold will be the discussion leader. Morton O.E.S. No. 356 will hold an open installation of officers at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, March 21 at the Morton Masonic Hall. Sharon Edwards and Fred Thompson are the new worthy matron and worthy patron to be installed. The public is invited. DePauw Women’s Bridge Group will meet at the Phi Delta Theta house Wednesday, March 21. Annetta White is the hostess. Please call her at 653A410 by Monday, March 19 if you plan to attend. The Greencastle Christian Women’s Club will sponsor a “Pretty as a Picture” luncheon noon-2 p.m. Wednesday, March 21 in the DePauw University Student Union ballroom. A spring fashion show will be presented by David Williams and Heathcliff of Ashley Square. Price of the luncheon is $5.50. There is a free nursery for infants and pre-schoolers at the Greencastle Christian Church. For reservations and nursery, call Carol Beasley, 653-8533, Sandy Train, 653-8835, or Mildred Sandy, 795-4543. West Madison Homemakers Extension Club will meet at 1 p.m. Wednesday, March 21 with Mrs. Horence Harlan, 633 E. Walnut St. Even parents need time off. Wednesday mornings can be yours if you bring your pre-schooler or infant to Tots Time, located in the First Baptist Church on Judson Drive (in back of Marsh). You can take care of business, shop or just relax while your child plays with others and learns to cope with the outside world. Starting Friday, Feb. 3, Tots Time will offer its services 1-3 p.m. Fridays in addition to their Wednesday morning service. A euchre party will be held at the VFW post at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, March 21 for members only. Greencastle Business and Professional Women’s Club will meet at the DePauw University Student Union Wednesday, March 21. Reservations are necessary. Roachdale Chapter, Order of DeMolay, will have a special Parents Night at 6:30 p.m. Wednesday, March 21 at the Country Kitchen Restaurant, Roachdale. The banquet will honor the 1984-85 chapter sweetheart. All DeMolays, advisers and their families are invited to attend. The Crafty Cougars 4-H club will have a meeting at 7 p.m.! Wednesday, March 21 at the Roachdale Elementary School art room. Any boy or girl interested in enrolling in a livestock or miscellaneous projects in Jackson, Franklin and surrounding townships are invited to attend with their parents. Temple Lodge No. 47 F & AM will hold a stated meeting at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, March 21. Members are urged to attend and visitors are welcome. The DeMolay degree will be conferred by the Omnes chapter for interested Master Masons. Refreshments will follow. Thursday Putnam County Legal Secretary Association will have its regular monthly meeting at 7 p.m. Thursday, March 22 in the law offices of Calbert, Bremer and Pierson. Immediately following the business meeting, a bridal shower will be held for Pam Spiker. Omnes Chapter, Order of DeMolay, will hold its stated meeting at 7:30 p.m. Thursday, March 22 at the Greencastle Masonic Temple. Beginning at 4 p.m., the DeMolays will clean the temple and at 6 p.m. they will eat supper. Practice for the state ritual tournament will be at 6:30 p.m. Master Councilor-elect Howdy Thomas will announce his officers, activities, goals for the next six months. All DeMolays and interested Master Masons are invited to attend. Saturday The Stilesville Chapter OES No. 554 will hold an open installation of officers at 7:30 p.m. Saturday, March 24. Brenda Hutchins and Robert Hansen will be installed as Worthy Matron and Worthy Patron. The public is invited. There will be a euchre party at 7 p.m. Saturday, March 24 at the Putnam County Senior Citizens Center, 9 W. Franklin St., Greencastle. Doors open at 6 p.m. All senior citizens are welcome. Putnam County Singles will have a rehearsal for “Hessie of the Hills” at 7 p.m. Saturday, March 24 at the Cloverdale Community Building. They still need people to help with the play. Netta Stroud and Bea Allen, 795-6650, will be the hostesses.

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