Banner Graphic, Volume 13, Number 112, Greencastle, Putnam County, 18 January 1983 — Page 4

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The Putnam County Banner-Graphic. January 18,1983

Dear Abby

Readers respond: Momma tag too maternal for young darling wives

DEAR ABBY: I couldn’t believe the advice you gave “Not His Mother," who objected to being called "Mamma” by her husband. You said, “It’s a loving title. Cherish it." Abby, this is 198.3! I am the mother of two little boys, ages 2 and 5, and all I hear all day long is “Mommy this" and “Mommy that." The last thing I want to hear is my 29-year-old husband calling me "Mommy." I'm too young to have a 29-year-old son. Whatever happened to “Darling," “Sweetheart,” "Honey," and whatever her name is? I’d even settle for “Toots” or “Babe.” - CALI, ME SANDRA DEAR SANDRA: Mv mail has been running 100-to-1 against "Mamma.” The consensus: The only name that’s worse is “my old lady.” * * * DEAR ABBY: I was appalled that you saw nothing wrong with a man calling his wife “Mamma." Women in our society are continually identified as somebody’s wife or somebody’s mother rather than as people in their own right. When a man refers to his wife as “Mamma” instead of Jane or Margaret, etc., he is saying, “She is not a person, she is only the mother of my children.” You should have told that husband to shape up, shut up or ship out! COLUMBUS, OHIO DEAR ABBY: “Not His Mother" wrote: "My husband calls me ‘Mamma’ and I hate it.”

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Your advice, Abby, was: “Change your attitude; Mamma is a loving title one that you should cherish. Accept it as a compliment.” Abby, my dictionary says that mamma means “mother.” It also says it is a term used by a child. It may be too late for “Not His Mother,” but I am a newlywed, and if my husband ever calls me “Mamma,” I might just send him back to his! BARBARA IN WALLA WALLA, WASH P S. Yes, Abby, there is a Walla Walla it’s right between Waitsburg and Wallula. * * * DEAR ABBY: There’s a problem between me and my new boyfriend. David (false name) has shared an apartment with Steve for many years. Steve is getting married next month, and David has to find a new roommate. He says he will accept either a male or a female. (The apartment has two bedrooms.) I told him I do not want him living with a girl. He says if he does, there will not be anything between them, and I will just have to trust him. Abby, I don’t think I could handle his having a female roommate. He says he loves me and I don’t want to lose him, but how r can I be sure nothing will happen between him and his new roommate if she’s a woman? IN LOVE WITH DAVID DEAR IN LOVE: Many men and women share living quarters without becoming romantically involved. In any case, his next roommate may not be a woman, so don’t worry about something that may never happen.

Hints from Heloise Scrubbing trick to dulling shiny pants

DEAR HELOISE: I am hoping (and praying) that you will please let us know in your column how to make the shine disappear from the seat of pants, skirts etc. I am sure many of us who have to keep on wearing our old clothes would appreciate this information. Mrs. J.W. Massey ★ * * The shine is caused by repeated wearing over the years, which results in the fibers being pressed and packed. So, you need to try to release the fibers as best you can. To do this, dip a terry cloth in white vinegar, wring it out slightly, then vigorously rub the shiny spot, up and down and right and left with the cloth. This should do the trick and release most of those fibers. Do not press the fabric afterwards unless absolutely necessary, but if you do, be sure to use a press cloth of some type. Any clean, medium-weight cotton cloth

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CONFIDENTIAL TO UNEMPLOYED IN DETROIT: Yes, I think you were foolish to have turned down the job because you were “trained for something better.” “He that hath a trade hath an estate; and he that hath a calling hath a place of profit and honor. A plowman on his legs is higher than a gentleman on his knees.” (Benjamin Franklin) DEAR ABBY: Our daughter is being married soon. She’s living in a one-bedroom apartment and has no room to store anything. After the wedding, she and her husband plan to live in the same apartment. Would it be proper to include a letter with the wedding invitation suggesting that if anyone wishes to give a gift, money would be greatly appreciated? Our daughter wants to do this, but my husband and I wonder if it would be considered poor taste. SOMEWHERE, U.S.A. DEAR SOMEWHERE: You and your husband are wise to wonder. To include such a letter in the wedding invitations would be in very poor taste. * * * * * * You’re never too old (or too young) to learn how to make friends and be popular. For Abby’s booklet on Popularity, send sl, plus a long , self-addressed, stamped (37 cents) envelope to Abby, Popularity, P.O. Box 38923, Hollywood, Calif. 90038.

will do, such as a handkerchief or tea towel. If there is still too much shine to suit you, try using a very fine grade of sandpaper, rubbing gently over the shiny area. This will loosen the fibers, helping to restore the fabric’s original appearance. Just a word of caution: Before using the sandpaper, test a hidden area to determine if the sandpaper might do too much damage to the fibers. If not, by using one or both of these methods, you just may save your skirt, or whatever. Hugs Heloise SHOWER CURTAIN REPAIR Dear Heloise: I was constantly replacing my vinyl shower curtain liners, because the holes for the hooks were always ripping. This, after awhile, gets expensive. Then, I tried using large metal eyelets to repair the holes. Works great and costs under a dollar. Kathleen Piccolo NIFTY’ NEEDLE CUSHION Dear Heloise: The

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homemade “needle pillow” my aunt made and which I have inherited, is more than 50 years old and is among mv treasures. It is made of wool, with all wool stuffing and I never have a rusty needle because I keep them in the pillow. It is approximately three inches long, two inches wide arid one-half inch thick. Since it is so small, the needles do not become buried inside. Try making yourself one. It is simple to make and very functional. Nancy Hintz HANDY REFERENCE Dear Heloise: Perhaps my method of organizing my grocery shopping will help others. Always forgetting or not finding something in the store drove me crazy, so one day, I took a 4x6 file card with me. On it as I went by each aisle, I noted the aisle number and what items were found on that particular aisle. I keep it in my coupon box and refer to it as I make up my grocery list, listing the items just as they are found on the grocery shelves. This has saved me hours of looking for one item or going back to the beginning of the store for something I overlooked. Also, I write my menus and lists in a steno pad. That way, I can refer back to menus and ingredients I’ve purchased previously. Mrs. W. McDonald HIDING HEM LINES Dear Heloise: With the high cost of dark blue jeans, it’s difficult to keep growing children in them. So, I buy jeans longer than necessary and put a hem in them, then wash them in cold water each time to retain as much of the color as is possible. As the youngster grows, I let them down. The white line around the hem can be covered with dark blue indelible ink so it won’t be visible. The ink does not wash out in the laundry. Edith Warren TRAVEL TIP Dear Heloise: When I purchase items from my friendly door-to-door cosmetic saleslady, she usually includes several sample packets of cologne, lotion or face cream with my order. When I go on a trip or away for a weekend, 1 put several of these samples in my suitcases. No spilled or broken bottles to clean up. Mrs. Judy Hall That’s using the old noodle! Heloise * * * little fuzzy about what seems like a college catastrophe? There could be a very simple solution. Write Heloise, P.O. Box 32000, San Antonio, TX 78216. She can’t write you a personal answer but she will reply in her column whenever possible. JUNIOR ACHIEVERS BLOOMINGTON, Ind. (AP) Some 3,000 teenagers are expected to attend the 39th annual National Junior Achievers Conference at Indiana University Aug. 7-13. Delegates chosen from 228,000 high-school students will compete for various honors, offices and thousands of dollars in prizes.

Calendar of events Tuesday Xi Zeta Omicron of Beta Sigma Phi of Roachdale will meet at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 18 in the home of Janet Ball. Please plan to attend. The Putnam County Art League will hold its regular meeting at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 18. The purpose of the meeting is to reorganize. Please plan to attend. * Putnam County Senior Citizens will meet at the VFW building at 6 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 18 for the monthly meeting and pitch-in dinner. There will be bingo for entertainment. : ; Wednesday There will be a VFW post meeting in the basement of the. Roachdale Librarv at 8 p.m. Wednesday. Jan. 19. All im, terested overseas veterans are urged to attend. There is a' special request for Vietnam veterans to take part in this, reorganization meeting. Ten members are needed by Jan. 31 * to keep the charter. Any additional information can be ot>; tained from Otha Faller 596-5744 or Leroy York 596-9391 Cloverdale Chapter No. 369 OES will hold its regular stated meeting at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday. Jan. 19. Officers are to' wear formal attire. The Greencastle Business and Professional Women's Club, will meet at 6:30 p.m. Wednesday, Jan. 19 at the Double." Decker Restaurant. The highlight of the program will be Dr-.! Charmaine Smith. DePauw director of Nursing, who will be! speaking on “You’re Not Getting Older; Y’ou’re Getting Better.” Arrange for dinner reservations by Saturday, Jan. 15 by contacting the committee chairman or committee hostess. The Greencastle Christian W’omen’s Club invites ladies of' the community to a “Spin into the New Year" luncheon from. noon to 2 p.m. Wednesday. Jan. 19 at the DePauw Student' Union Ballroom. Helene Deßoer will be sharing the art of! spinning, demonstrating the use of a spinning wheel and. showing articles she has made as the special feature. Price of the luncheon is $4.50. There will be a free preschool nursery’ at Gobin Memorial United Methodist Church. For luncheon and nursery reservations, call Karen Wood 653-3034 or Karen Readnour 653-6977. Parents Anonymous, a self-help group of parents under stress, will meet 7-8:30 p.m. Wednesday. Jan. 19 at the Charterhouse Library. Gobin United Methodist Church. Arrangements for child care or transportation can be made by calling CONTACT at 653-2645. The West Madison Homemakers Extension Club will meet at 1 p.m Wednesday, Jan. 19 with Mrs. Forrest Miller. 716 Ravenswood Drive. Bring an interesting piece of linen. A euchre party will be held at 7:30 p.m. every Wednesday in the American Legion Post No. 281, Cloverdale. Give your pre-school child a break in his routine. Tots Time offers little ones the opportunity of forming friendships with other children as well as learning to adapt to an environment other than home. Meanwhile, you can enjoy some free time of your own. Tots Time is open every Wednesday from 9 a.m. to noon and is located in the First Baptist Church on Judson Drive (behind Marsh i. Temple Lodge No. 47 F& AM will have a stated meeting Wednesday, Jan. 19 at 7:30 p.m. New officers please be present. Visitors are invited. Refreshments will be served after the meeting. Thursday The Moose Lodge will be open to everyone 16 years of age and older for game night every Tuesday and Thursday at 7:30 p.m. Free coffee will be served. There will be a Girl Scout leaders meeting on Thursday. Jan. 20. The staff director arrives at 6 p.m. and the meeting will begin at 6:30. Cookie information will be discussed. The Greencastle Pack 44, sponsored by the Presbyterian Church, will have its Pinewood Derby Thursday. Jan. 20 at the National Guard Armory. Weigh-in starts at 6:30 p.m. Heritage Preservation Society will meet at 7 p.m. Thursday. Jan. 20 in the Parish Hall of St. Andrew's Episcopal Church. Mrs. Mace Aker w ill present the program “In Search of Beauty and Architecture. ” Alpha Gamma Delta alumnae will meet with Mrs. Thomas . Robbins at 7:30 p.m. Thursday. Jan. 20. Men's interdenominational prayer breakfast is held Thursday at 6:30 a.m. at the Double Decker Restaurant. Order from menu. The Circles of Gobin United Methodist Women will meet. Thursday, Jan. 20 as follows: 9:30 a.m.. McKendree with Mrs. P S. Godwin and Oxford with Mrs. C. Herbold; 12 p.m:.' Wesley at Charterhouse Lounge; 1:15 p.m.. Aldersgate with. Mrs. O. Davis (Mrs. A. Reynolds, co-hostess); and 7:30p.m.* Bethel with Mrs. J. See t Mrs. K. Mecum. co-hostess). Putnam County Singles will have a card party at the home' of Russell Cash, east of Greencastle on State Road 240 on Thursday, Jan. 20. The party starts at 7 p.m. and will be for adults only. The host is Russell Cash (246-6767). Refreshments will be served. United Way of Putnam County will hold its annual meeting, at 7 p.m. Thursday. Jan. 20 at the Public Service Indiana! building. A report on allocation and admissions, election of! new directors and the 1983 campaign report are on the agen-’ da. Attendance is necessary to negotiate the important agen-! da. The annual meeting is open to the public.

Saturday The Cunot Can-Dos will hold a square dance 8-11 p.m.* Saturday. Jan. 22 at the Cloverdale Beagle Club. Club caller will be Jerry Workman. Monday Chapter CB of PEO will meet at 8 p.m. Monday. Jan. -24 with Mrs. Dwight Liston. 808 S. Indiana St., Greencastie. Mrs. John Zeinor will serve as co-hostess. The social will be at7:lsp.m. The Putnam County Singles' Monday. Jan. 24 meeting has been changed from the Public Service Building to the CoriP munitv Building in Cloverdale. Boston Club will meet with Hope Schopmeyer at 7:30 p.m. Monday. Jan. 24. Betty Aker is the assistant hostess. Aileen Murdock will have the program. Tuesday Progress History Club will meet at 2 p.m. Tuesday. Jan. 25 : with Mrs. Edna Boyd. Esther McCabe will present the* program. Please note change in meeting place. Wednesday The Putnam County Historical Society will meet at 6:30' p.m. Wednesday, Jan. 26 at the Double Decker Restaurant.; The guest speaker will be Evelyn Hobson from Dana and her; subject will be ‘Our Ernie Pyle.” Make reservations with; Mrs. William J. Boatright by noon Tuesday. Jan. 25.

The deadline for calendar of events items is as follows Monday evening - 1 p.m. Friday; Tuesday evening - l p.m. Monday; Wednesday evening - 1 p.m. Tuesday; Thursday evening - l p.m. Wednesday; Friday evening - l p.m. Thursday. The calendar is not published on Saturdays. For maximum exposure of calendar items, they should be submitted Hi days in advance of the scheduled meeting.