Banner Graphic, Volume 10, Number 255, Greencastle, Putnam County, 1 July 1980 — Page 5

Dear Abby : Funeral footage belongs in can

DEAR ABBY: We recently had a tragic automobile accident in our town in which a high school girl was killed instantly. Three friends in the same car were seriously injured. One died this morning. A week ago, when the funeral of this girl who was instantly killed took place, I took it upon myself to take movies of the funeral. It was my intent to write to the girl’s parents (I do not know them) and offer them the Film footage as a gesture of interest in their loss so that those of their family who were unable to attend could review the happenings that took place at the funeral. Also, in later years the parents might appreciate having the movies as a remembrance. Do you think my offer of this film would rekindle heartache, or do you think it would be regarded as a token of sharing a loss as it was meant to be? Someone at the funeral commented as I was taking these movies that it was “tacky,” This, of course, was only one man's opinion. If it was tacky, what about all the funeral footage we view on the television news? MASSACHUSETTS DEAR MASS.: Everyone deals with his grief in his own way, so I don’t know how the family of the dead girl would feel about seeing movies of their daughter’s funeral. Personally, 1 think filming grief-stricken mourners at a funeral is an invasion of their privacy, and I would not offer the Film to the family of the deceased. DEAR ABBY: I have worked for a store for Five years and

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I like my job. There is another lady who has worked there about the same length of time, and we have become pretty good friends. Yesterday I saw her slip a sls item into her pocket. She doesn’t know I saw her do this. I am very troubled and don’t know what to do. Should I talk to her about it? Should I tell the boss? What would you do? If you use this, don’t use my name or the name of my town. TROUBLED DEAR TROUBLED: I would tell the woman that I saw her pocket the item, then encourage her to either return it or pay for it if she has not already paid for it, that is. DEAR ABBY: You asked if there were any adult thumbsuckers among your readers. Well, I have been in the mortuary business for over 40 years, and I had to embalm a 77-year-old woman who had died with her thumb in her mouth! As I recall, we had one devil of a time getting that lady’s thumb out of her mouth. And judging from the condition of her thumb, she had been a thumb-sucker all her life. This is a small town and we’re still in business, so if you use this in your column, please forget my name. Or sign me . .. "DIGGER O’DELL” DEAR ABBY: Has anyone ever written to you in defense

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of mothers of young children? A bride complained that a baby’s crying “ruined” her wedding. I agree, the mother should have taken the baby out, but at 4 months old, some babies cannot be left with anyone else. My breast-fed son nursed every other hour, and he would have driven a sitter crazy. He’s 2 now, and I refuse to leave him unless the place (and person) is familiar to him. Anyhow, I’m tired of childless people telling me how to raise my child. They’re entitled to a child-free life if they so choose, but if that means I can’t attend their weddings, etc., they’ll have to accept my regrets. (One friend said, “Oh, can’t you leave him for a few hours with my Aunt Agnes?” whom I had never met.) Abby, if you don’t print my letter, please print someone’s to give our side of the story. I LOVE MY KID, RICHLAND, WASH. CONFIDENTIAL TO CURIOUS ABOUT CONSCRIPTION: Conscription varies from country to country, and the laws change with time, too. For example, the following order was issued in Ethiopia in 1935 by the then-emperor, Haile Selassie: 1) All men and boys able to carry a spear go to Addis Ababa. 2) Every married man will bring his wife to cook and wash for him. 3) Every unmarried man will bring any unmarried woman he can find to cook and wash for him. 4) Women with babies, the blind and those too aged and infirm to carry a spear are excused. 5) Anyone who qualifies for battle and is found at home after receiving this order will be hanged(!)

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