Banner Graphic, Volume 10, Number 177, Greencastle, Putnam County, 31 March 1980 — Page 4

The Putnam County Banner Graphic, March 31,1980

Calendar of events

Monday Putnam County REACT will have its regular board meeting at 7 p m Monday, March 31 at the home of Bennie Hall. 1028 South Indiana Street, Greencastle. The Home Extension chorus will rehearse at 7:30 p.m. Monday, March 31 at Greencastle First Baptist Church on .ludson Drive Womeaof all ages are welcome to join. Rainbridge Chapter No. 440, OES. will hold installation at 7 30 p m Monday. March3l The Putnam County Nurses’ Organization will hold a pitchin supper at 6 p.m. Monday. March 31 at the home of Rose Lambert. 306 Wood Street. There will be a shower for Dorothy Toney The Greencastle High School Music Boosters will meet at 7 30 p.m Monday, March 31 in the music room at the high school Topics of the meeting will include the presentation of the nominating slate of officers for next year, future fundraisers. the up-coming awards banquet and discussion on the trip for the band and choir Tuesday The Putnam County Republican Women's Club will spoil sor a "Meet Your Candidates” night reception at 7:30 p.m. Tuesday, April 1 at the DePauw Student Union, Room 221 All Republican candidates and all interested friends are cordially invited to attend. Over the Teacups Club will meet Tuesday, April 1 with Mrs Kenneth Eitel Mrs Harold Knov will give the program. Theta Alumnae Chapter of Delta Theta Tau w ill meet at 10 a m Tuesday. April 1 at the home of Mrs Ralph West Mrs Evan Craw lev w ill serve as assistant hostess Wednesday The Crescent Club will meet at 2 p.m. Wednesday. April 2 at the home of Mrs Hugh Clock, Fairway Drive, Greencastle The program will be given by Mrs. Walter Ballard The film “The Barefoot Executive.” will be shown at 3:30 p.m. Wednesday. April 2 in the Fillmore Elementary School library The movie is open to all children and adults and admission charge is 50 cents. Refreshments will be available for purchase. A special interest lesson for extension homemakers on “Defensive Driving” will be presented at 7 p.m. Wednesday. April 2 at the Putnam County Fairgrounds. Sgt. Tom Strador will be the instructor. Associate Tri Kappa will meet at 10a.m. Wednesday, April 2 w ith Mrs. Howard Youse The Father's Auxiliary of VFW Post 1550 will hold their regular meeting at 7 30 p.m. Wednesday, April 2 Everyone is urged to be present. The Genealogy Club will meet at 12:30 p.m Wednesday, April 2 in the Greencastle-Putnam County Library. New members welcome. Greencastle Chapter No. 255, Order of the Eastern Star, will hold their stated meeting at 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, April 2 There will be an Easter observance. All members are cordially invited to attend Thursday The Sunshine Circle Home Extension Club will meet at 7 p.m. Thursday, April 3 at the home of Sharon Hoskins. The Cumulative Honors Award Banquet will be held Thursday. April 3 in Room 122 at Greencastle High School. Bring $3 per family to cover committee expenses as well as a meat or meat casserole, a well-filled basket of food and your own table service. Rolls and beverage will be furnished. The board of directors of the Putnam County Learning Center will meet at 7:30 p.m Thursday, April 3 at the learning center, 630 Tennessee Street. These meetings are open to the public. Saturday The Greencastle Squares will dance from 8-11 p.m. Saturday. April 5 at the Greencastle National Guard Armory.

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Dear Abby : She's not one who should feel guilty

DEAR ABBY: I am a 38-year-old woman, living with my parents. (I am all the family they have.) Last year my mother (64) had a stroke which left her partially paralyzed. She walks with a cane and is confused at times, but she’s cheerful and uncomplaining. My father, 67, is a practicing physician, but he is no help at all. Over the years he has paid very little attention to Mother or me. He comes home, eats, reads the newspaper, watches TV and goes to bed. If Mother needs the bedpan he comes looking for me to take case of it. When I go out, he forgets to give Mother her medication. We have a woman come in five days a week to stay with Mother until I get home from work. I’m engaged to be married this fall. It will be my second marriage and his first. We will be living only 10 minutes from my parents, so it’s not as though I’ll be deserting them. Although I realize that I do have a life to lead, I can’t help feel a little guilty getting married with the situation like this. I’m not young anymore, and want to have a family while I’m still able. Please advise me. S.O.S.

Heloise

Recipe eliminates expensive ingredients

DEAR HELOISE: 1 would be very thankful to you if you could locate a recipe for me you had in your column several years ago. I’ve misplaced the recipe and have looked everywhere to no avail. I’he name of the recipe was "War Cake” and the only ingredient I can remember is raisins. Mrs. James Higgins * * ★ During the war years, this was a very popular cake since it doesn’t call for expensive milk, eggs or butter. Of course, it’s not as inexpensive as it once was because of the price of raisins today, but it’s still a bargain because it doesn’t call for the other ingredients. It makes a dark, heavy cake, but the glory of it is you can mix it all up in one pan. Using a medium-sized pan, mix together two cups brown sugar, two cups hot water, and two teaspoons shortening. Add ‘i> or :, i cup raisins, one teaspoon each salt, cinnamon and cloves. Boil for five ( minutes after the mixture begins to bubble. When this mixture is cold (and it must be cold), add three cups of flour, and one teaspoon of soda that has been dissolved in a couple of teaspoons of hot water. Mix well.

Rabbit Club discusses entries

The fourth meeting of the Putnam County 4-H Rabbit Club was held March 20. The meeting was called to order by Sherry Foxx. The American pledge was led by Becky Foster and the 4-H pledge was led by Joyce Crawford. When baking apples, choose a variety that holds its shape when baked. Yellow delicious apples are available in most supermarkets all year round and tend not to fall apart when cooked. They have a delicate flavor. Cortland apples, though not so widely available, are also good for baking. Red bell peppers are green peppers that have been allowed to ripen longer before being picked.

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Pour into a greased tube pan a'id hake for about one hour at 350 to 375 degrees. I've been told that the longer you keep the cake the better it tastes, but I can’t vouch for this because, like everyone who’s tried it, 1 find this good cake just doesn’t last that long. Love, Heloise * * * DEAR HELOISE: When we wallpapered one of our rooms recently, we covered tin' wallplates with the leftover scraps. We carefully matched the design on the paper under the plates with the paper we were going to cover them with. After carefully cutting out the holes for the switches and plugs, we replaced the plates. They looked so neat and “professional,” and they just blend right in with the wall. Anne ★ * * LETTER OF LAUGHTER DEAR HELOISE: How come I can be out in 45degree temperature when camping and think it’s fun, but I freeze to death in a house with a thermostat set at 65? Evelyn Peterson * * * All a state of mind? Heloise ★ ★ * DEAR HELOISE: To all you ladies who will be

Enrollment cards and dues should be submitted as soon as possible. Rabbits should be in members’ possession by May 15 to be able to take them to the fair. Rabbits should be bred bv May 23 for meat pens.

THE FAMILY CIRCUS

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DEAR S: Proceed with your marriage plans, and don’t feel guilty. You’ll live near enough to your mother to look in on her often. And I beg you to ask your father to please show a little more concern and compassion for your mother. I wish you joy. You deserve it. DEAR ABBY: I have been told that in Hawaii when a girl wears a flower over one of her ears, it means that she is “taken” (has a boyfriend), but if she wears a flower over the other ear, it means that she is “looking,” or available. I am going to the islands soon and would like to know which ear is which. RAY DEAR RAY: A flower over the left ear (same side her heart is on) means, “I’m spoken for.” A flower over the right ear means, “I’m unattached.” A flower over both ears means, “I’m spoken for, hut let’s negotiate.” DEAR ABBY: When I was growing up, my mother

getting Easter lilies this year, don’t give up on them when they quit blooming. Out them back and, when the soil is ready, plant them outside. This fall, dig the bulbs up and place in a plastic bag. Seal with a twist-tie and store in the refrigerator. Next February, repot and this time next year you’ll have your own Easter lily. Mine will be blooming soon. Ginny B. ★ * ★ DEAR HELOISE: When moving heavy appliances, like a refrigerator or stove, rub the linoleum with a bar of soap or rub in some liquid dishwashing detergent. The appliance will move much easier. Just be sure and dean up the soap when through, though. Iva * * * DEAR HELOISE: When coloring Easter eggs, after the dye has dried, put a little shortening on a paper towel and rub the egg with it. Gives the egg a beautiful shine, and if the dye is blotchy, it seems to eliminate the uneven spots. K.P. * * * Have a good idea you’d like to share? Send it to Heloise care of this newspaper. Sorry she can’t answer your letter personally, but she’ll use the cleverest hints received in her column.

Tom Hacker gave a demonstration over grooming and handling. The next meeting is 7:00 p.m. April 3 at the Community Building. The meeting was adjourned by Sherry Foxx

By Bil Keane

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Learning to cope with the changes

Programs help children from broken families

By SHAWN KENNEDY c. 1980 N.Y. Times News Service NEW YORK “My parents expect me to take sides, but I don’t know who is right,” said one 8-year-old, whose parents have divorced. “Sometimes my friends think I don’t have a father anymore just bcause I don’t live with him,” said a 10-year-oldngirl. “My mother is still very sad sometimes when I don’t know what to do,” said another little boy. They were expressing some of the feelings and frustrations felt by the children in a special program at the Salem Elementary School in Port Washington, N.Y., where youngsters whose parents have divorced or separated meet with a school counselor to share their experiences and talk with one another about the problems particular to children in their situation. As an increasing number of youngsters are forced to face up to their parents’ failed marriages, school administrators, teachers and counselors in other parts of the country have initiated specific programs designed tt help students whose parents have divorced. In some schools the couselors or school psychologists work with children individually. In others the administrations have hired specialists to help sensitize faculty and staff members to needs of the children. Last year, Leslie Kaplan, a counselor at Menchville High School in Newport News, Va., invited youngsters whose parents were separated or divorced to meet once a week to talk The program was so well-received that students have asked that new groups be formed. John Sheridan, a counselor at the Park Forrest Junior High School in State Colrege, Pa., began several years ago to counsel youngsters who had lost a parent through death. He soon recognized that youngsters whose families had changed because ofhdivorce had similar needs and problems, so he expanded his program. Now about 50 youngsters, most of whom have divorced or separated parents, meet regularly during the school day. A program for boys who lived in fatherless homes' at the South Godwin Elementary School in Wyoming. Mich., has evolved into a group program in a school where a counselor, Earl Borlace, said, a third of the children live in single-parent homes. According to Phyllis Clay, director of the National Committee for Citizens in Education, every year more schools and school districts have become willing to involve themselves in this type of counseling. “There is still reluctance in many places,” she said, “not only because the schools don’t know what they should be doing or how they can help, but also because divorce is such a personal matter and some educators believe that related problems are not the school’s business or responsiblitv. ” Dr. Ellen Drake of the department of psychiatry at the Rutgers University Medical School, noted that frequently it is the teacher

drummed it into my head that I had bad breath, so 1 took to chewing gum because I was always self-conscious about my breath. I learned how to chew gum inconspicuously. I could keep it in my mouth for hours without chewing it. I still chew gum (I’m married now) but my husband hates it. He says it gets on his nerves. I never crack it, and I’m careful not to chew it a lot in company, but he still doesn’t like it. He says it’s offensive, ill-mannered and childish. What do you think? LIKES TO CHEW DEAR LIKES: I think it’s refreshing, good exercise and a bit of a treat if done in private. But if it irritates your husband, your gum-chewing may not be as inconspicuous as you think it is. Chew in private, and don’t stretch your luck. If you need help in writing letters of sympathy, congratulations or thank-you letters, get Abby’s booklet “How to Write Letters for All Occasions.” Send $1 and a long, stamped (28 cents), self-addressed envelope to Abby: 132 Lasky Dr., Beverly Hills, Calif. 90212.

who is the first to notice changes in a student’s personality or academic performance that may be related to a divorce. “School involvement doesn’t have to be elaborate. Teachers’ participation can be as casual as including books and stories about children whose parents have divorced,” Dr. Drake said. -* “Divorce is still a sensitive subject, and care must be taken in the way the schools try to help,” said Liane Leighton, one of the counselors who developed the Port Washington program. “But the school is a particularly important place for these children because at a time when the family is falling apart and it seems everything at home is changing, school often is the only stable and constant aspect of their lives.” Miss Leighton and Margaret Galente, another Port Washington school district counselor, made their own filmstrip, “The Sky Is Falling.” with the help of grant money. The district’s program also includes a weekly conversation group in two schools. Only children whose parents approve participate. Most youngsters attend the group sessions for just eight weeks because there is a waiting list. Through the filmstrip and counseling sessions Miss Leighton tries to make the children realize that the divorce is not their fault, that both parents still love them and that neither parent is the villain. She relies on the children in the group sessions to make one another understand that their feelings of divided loyalties and anger are normal and that other children of divorced parents experience the same problems. While sympathy and support are instrumental in helping the children. Miss Leighton’s approach involves realism. “Many children fantasize and dream about their parents’ getting back together,” she said. “While we try to encourage a positive and hopeful outlook for the future, we want them to accept the fact that their families will not be as they were before.” The children frequently share frustrating and hurtful situations they experience; for example, when promised visits are canceled or when mothers or fathers bring dates along on outings. Although older children may not experience the confusion that young students feel when their parents’ marriages end. some counselors feel that they need as much support as the elementary school chidldren do. Four years ago. Howard Schofield, a counselor at Lexington High School in Lexington. Mass., helped form a Divorced Kids Group “In the last four years, we’ve learned a lot about what does and does not work in trying to get these kids to help each other.” said Shofield. who put together one of the first such groups in the country. Now he and his students travel to nearby schools to assist others. “Now that we are well-known around school, youngsters are coming to us sooner and there is less stigma attached to attending the sessions ”

WHATEVER HAPPENED TO

Ethel And Ralph Crousore observed their 60th wedding anniversary on Monday, March 31. They are the parents of Betty Jean Williams, grandparents of Janice Gruenholz and Kent Williams, and have been blessed with four great-grandchildren. They celebrated their anniversary with their family.

Yeast bread dough can’t be kneaded too much. Too little kneading can leave large holes in the baked loaf. If you have a can of baking powder that’s been in your cupboard for a long time and wonder if it has kept its leavening power, you can test it by stirring 1 teaspoonful into cup hot water. If the mixture bub bles within a few seconds, the baking powder will still be effective.

THE HUMAN RACE?