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He’s locked out, now she’s left out By Abigail Van Buren e 1»7J iy Cfiicito TriSuM-N. Y. News Synd., Inc. DEAR ABBY: Phil and I were married for two years, and I thought we had a great marriage. He was 23 and I was 25. Then Phil went back to college full time while I worked and paid the bills. [I’m a surgical nurse.] It was working out fine until Phil became more than casually involved with a female classmate, and in a sequence of events they were both kicked out of school. [He had stolen a test and they were both caught in possession of it.] Phil then transferred to another school. The girl also transferred with him. By the way, she’s 21, divorced, and has a child. I demanded a showdown and Phil said he “loved” us both and couldn’t decide between her or me. My pride was hurt, so I locked him out, and now, of course, he is seeing her. I still love him and regret locking him out. I don’t want to lose him, but I couldn’t take his running from her to me. Please tell me how to get him back. SORRY DEAR SORRY: You could swallow what’s left of your pnde and ask Phil to reconsider, but after locking him out. I’d say you blew it. DEAR ABBY: I am a working girl, 19, and I live at home. I have several younger brothers and sisters, and it is really sad to find that someone in your own family steals. That is my problem, and I don’t know which one it is. I have hidden my purse in my bowling bag, underneath my clothes in drawers, and even far back in my closet, but someone always finds it and helps themselves to some money. I have missed 5s, 10s, and even $20 bills. [They never take it all.] How can I find out who is guilty? DISGUSTED DEAR DISGUSTED: I know of no “traps” you can set, altho I’m sure there are many. Why don’t you put a lock on a drawer [or closet] and wear the key around your neck on a chain? DEAR ABBY: I get so riled up when I read those pathetic letters signed, “Neglected Mother,” or “Forgotten Father.” They are from old folks who are not wanted by their children. Abby, I wonder if they have ever stopped to ask themselves why? One day, many years ago, I came home from work and found my four children watching TV. When I poked my head into the room, they didn’t even say hello. I was hurt and angry. Then I said to myself: “You fool! If you can’t make yourself more interesting than that damned TV set, it’s your own fault.” I admit, I used a bit of bribery in the form of peppermint candy and a few minor toys, but within a few days when I entered the house, there were hoots and hollers: “Daddy’s home!” Old people should consider that their loneliness could be caused by themselves. Many are excused for being difficult because of their age. Why? No one has a right to be difficult whether he be young or old. Old age doesn’t give one the license to complain all the time [we all have troubles], to talk all the time and reminisce too much [other people like to talk about themselves, too], or to expect constant attention. Old people should make an effort to be good company. They should also have a hobby, so they can enjoy being alone. I am 60 years of age, and if I grow old and nobody comes to see me, I hope I am wise enough to realize it’s 99 per cent my own fault. CHARLIE IN ROME DEAR CHARLIE: Loneliness for you? I’ll bet against it. DEAR ABBY: I am a 12-year-old girl with the same problems most girls my age have. Parents who think I’m still a baby, liking boys who don’t even notice me, and not doing as well in school as I should be doing, but now I have a really big one. I was looking for a blouse I had worn only once and threw in the dirty clothes hamper when I came across a whisky bottle in the bottom of the clothes hamper. Now I know why my mother has been taking a nap lately when I’d come home from school. And why she seemed so peppy sometimes and so low and unhappy at other times. Both Mom and Dad have a drink before dinner. Maybe two, but neither one of them ever had a drinking problem that I knew about. Should I tell Dad? Or should I tell Mom I found the bottle? Or should I just keep my mouth shut? WORRIED DAUGHTER DEAR WORRIED: Tell your Mom you found the bottle and are worried about her. Tell her, too, that even tho parents don’t usually take advice from their children, you wish she would call Alcoholics Anonymous. Anyone who “hides” whisky has a drinking problem. [P. S. There is a group called ALATEEN for teen-agers of parents with that problem. A. A. is listed in your phone book. Call and inquire.]

FREE BEAN DINNER Sponsored by DEMOCRATIC CENTRAL COMMITTEE 6:30 p.m. SAT. AUG. 18-Putnam County Fairgrounds. Featured Speaker LARRY A. CONRAD Ind. Secretary of State 1968 CHEVROLET IMPALA TO BE GIVEN AWAY, WHITE ELEPHANT AUCTION AT 4 p.m. To Many Items to Mention Alton Hurst Auctioneer

‘Music, Music, Music’ Is Back

By MARY CAMPBELL AP Newsfeatures Writer Remember Teresa Brewer, whose “Music, Music, Music” was No. 1 for four straight weeks in 1950? She’s recorded it again, this time with the British rock group, Head, Hands and Feet. And, to show that she does more than sing “Music, Music, Music” every generation, she has made an LP, “The Songs of Bessie Smith,” with Count Basie, been a guest for three numbers on Bobby Hackett’s IP, “What a Wonderful World,” and made another LP, “Singing a Doo Dah Song.” All of this is on Amsterdam, the pop label of Flying Dutchman, primarily a jazz label, whose president is Bob Thiele and whom Miss Brewer married last October. RCA distributes the two labels. Miss Brewer says that she sang a wide variety of music, including blues, as a child. In Toledo, where Miss Brewer’s father was a glass inspector, her mother had a big collection of Dixieland records. But after “Music, Music, Music,” the record companies wanted only songs — hopefully hits — of that type. Thiele says, “The newrecording of ‘Music, Music, Music’ started as a gag. We were in London and the head of Phonogram suggested she record it with an English rock band. Five days later, in Paris, he called and said he had assembled the musicians. It could have been a shambles but these kids were fantastic. They did two sides that the guys wrote. TTiey taught her the words. In September, we’re going back to london and she’ll finish an album with them. They genuinely want to do it.” Miss Brewer says, “I like this record better. I never really liked Music, Music. Music.’ It dragged; it was much too slow. It didn't sound like much to me, ever. I didn’t w-ant to do ‘Ricochet’ or "Let Me Go I/)ver.’ ‘Till PWaltz Again with You’ was the only one I liked. ‘Sweet, Old-Fashioned Girl' I didn’t like.

“ ‘Music, Music, Music’ I said was a terrible song. I listened to the Eddie Jin Miller rendition to learn the song. He played piano like a piano roll — he had ‘The Piano Roll Blues.’ ” Miss Brewer married at 17, the same year she recorded “Music, Music, Music,” and she has four daughters. Thiele has a son, who composed the title song of “Singing a Doo Dah Song.” The tiny singer, 5 feet 2, got her start when much tinier. She was 6 when she won a Major Bowes talent scout show and then she traveled with a Major Bowes “unit” for six years. She says, “I loved it. My mother would punish me by saying I couldn’t go if I wasn’t a good girl. I had four brothers so my mother stayed home. My Aunt Mary traveled with me. I got $100 a week; I got the most money of anybody. There were about eight acts. It was almost like vaudeville. The next to closing act is the star act. That was my spot. “They would run a movie in the theater, then we would do a show. I loved movies. I saw ‘This Gun for Hire’ every time the show was in. I’d eat or watch the movie. I ate like five meals a day. We must have done six or seven shows a day. I’d see the movie five times and be feeding my face the rest. We traveled by train. ‘ When I was little I used to enter an amateur contest every week and I’d win unless it was fixed. As the crowd got noisier, I got louder. I had the same sound in my voice then as now. “I retired from Major Bowes, at 12, to go to school. But I won an amateur show, Eddie Dowling’s Big Break, when I was 15*^ and I went to New York and went to work in the Sawdust Trail, a little nightclub. I got a temporary card to work and kept telling them my birth certificate was coming. A man came in from a record company and signed me to a contract — that’s how that happened.” Recently, when Miss Brewer

was performing in Las Vegas, Elvis Presley came to see her. He told her that “Till I Waltz Again with You” was the first song he performed publicly and said, “You got me into show business.” She replied, “So where’s my 10 per cent?” Presley just about put her out of show business, too, by introducing rock ’n’ roll, which took over the music scene. But during the 1960s she did record, for Phillips, and perform. And she was on the Ed Sullivan show 39 or 40 times. “I put too much emphasis on gowns and stuff. People like to see a nice gown but the performance is the most important thing. I would never be seen out in public in jeans. Now that’s what I mostly wear. I was Sophie Tucker on stage; all gowns were heavily beaded. People told me to wear something simple and I never listened. I wasted so much money that way. But I’d never worry; I spent a lot of time preparing my act. I had four boys working with me, at times six or eight. People said I didn’t need them. But I’d never do an act on my own. “Then Bob arranged for me to go out with Bobby Hackett last fall. I w-ork with a 12-piece band and Bobby comes on as a guest. He’ll do ‘Muskrat Ramble’ or ‘Fidgety Feet.’ “Now I work when I want to. It is not the only thing in my life. I don’t think your job should be everything in your life. “For the first time in my life I’m really liking what I’m doing.”

THE BALTIMORE CUTS A DISC BALTIMORE (AP) - The Baltimore Symphony has cut its first recording. It is the “Satire Concerto” by the contemporary composer, Ezra Laderman. “Diversions for Piano and Orchestra” by Benjamin Britten, with Leon Fleisher as piano soloist, also w-as recorded. Music director Sergiu Commissiona conducted.

Official Thinks ROTC Is ‘A Great Way To Make IT

By BOB COOPER Associated Press Writer LEXINGTON, Ky. (AP) - The Army Reserve Officer Training Corps' slogan is, “A Great Way to Make It,” and its commander at the University of Kentucky personifies the slogan. Col. Charles L. Brindel has worked his way from a $7-a-week hotel worker to a high ranking Army officer with two college degrees and the nation’s second highest combat award.

“I was an orphan for all practical purposes, living alone in Johnson City, Tenn., at the age of 12 and working in a hotel there while I went to school,” Brindel recalled in an interview. At 15, he bribed a town drunk with $2 into posing as his father to sign him into the Army — a career he has pursued for 28 years to the rank of full colonel. “He practiced signing his signature and told them my birth

Swiss Cupid Agencies Facing New Controls

By HANNS NEUERBOURG ZURICH, Switzerland (AP) — Commercial cupids seem to be in for some wing-clipping after a record boom in Switzerland. Critics contend that money too often matters much more than matches for the proliferating matrimonial agencies. And the government has promised to look into what a woman legislator claims has become an industry that leaves many clients feeling “deceived and cheated.” The matchmakers’ market chances are bright although some Swiss cantons, or states, recently relaxed enforcement of local laws forbidding concubinage, the living together of couples not legally married. Statistics show that more Swiss want wedlock than ever before, with the number of married people up from 570 per 1,000 to 670 in three decades. But there are still roughly 1.3 million unmarried adults in Switzerland — the targets of some 600 matrimonial agencies, most of which have come into existence only during the past ten years or so. In most cantons these agencies do not need an official license, meaning anyone with a mailbox and a notion of ad-writing can start collecting lonely hearts willing to pay handsome registration

fees.

Helen Meyer, a Christian Democratic member of parliament, says she knows of a “grea' number” of would-be grooms and brides who paid between $165 and $330 down and “often” never heard again from the people who promised to help them to marital bliss. In other cases, she says “services rendered are in no relation to the amount paid in advance.” Disappointed clients

rarely seek legal action, she ex- Swiss civil law.

plains, because they are afraid of publicity. Also, many agencies operate in near anonymity, using P.O. box ad-

dresses.

Some of the well-established matchmakers are concerned that such practices will hurt them in the long run. “Swindle and nonsense is blossoming,” says Mrs. Maria Theresia Klaey, whose Bern agency sometimes offers “exclusive unions with young Swedish women.” “Our honoraries depend on how much we have to work for a candidate until success,” Hans Gerber, head of a big Zurich agency, told an interviewer. “A factory girl does not pay anything. We get her married off right away. There is big demand. Things are quite different for a secretary or a farmer. A professional man, again, is rapidly married.” Understandably, Gerber has a low opinion of personal ads in lonely hearts columns sometimes filling several pages in weekend editions. “They attract chiefly married men in search of adventure,” he ex-

plains.

Another matchmaking executive — “we accept only people who have a good character, a pleasant appearance, and are without hereditary diseases” — also emphasizes the agencies’

role in society.

legislator Meyer agrees that the industry has become an “economic factor with social importance” and that there are “undoubtedly agencies which conduct this subtle activity with

utmost care.”

A motion she introduced in parliament in calling for federal control of the industry has drawn multiple reactions. The government has turned the case over to experts reviewing

Acoustics Play Important Part In Design of New Concert Halls

By WARREN E. LEARY Associated Press Writer BOSTON (AP) — What’s the most important instrument in a concert hall? A violin, cello, drum or piano? It’s the hall itself. When musicians say they play a certain hall, this stage term should be taken literally. The acoustics in each hall can determine the quality and tone of the music played there, and even determine the selections a group chooses to play. Engineers look at concert halls as giant sound instruments and at the design of these instruments for certain effects. Concert-hall design was one of the topics discussed at a recent meeting of the Acoustical Society of America here. Dr. Leo L. Beranek, a director of Bolt. Beranek and Newman, Inc., of Cambridge, said he tells architects to behave like designers of musical instruments when planning concert halls. Beranek, whose acoustic consulting firm has helped design many halls around the world, said architects have to keep some similarity to proven design and restrain some of their more radical creative impulses if concert halls are going to be more than just pretty boxes full of sounds. “But architects can’t build on the past except in a general

way,” Beranek said. If they want to do more than copy existing successful halls, he said, the designer must make the hall flexible enough to incorporate new techniques to get the desired sound. One ot the factors taken into account in concert-hall design is reverberation, or the time in which a sound bounces back and forth in the hall. Beranek said certain kinds of music are best heard at different reverberation rates. For an orchestra playing Bach, a two-second reverberation is optimum; for organ music in a large hall, up to six seconds is considered satisfactory; and in an opera hall, where words are sung, a one-and-a-half-second reverb is considered good. Beranek said the amount of reverberation depends on the cubic volume of the room and what sound-absorbing materials, including the audience, are present. A designer can get the desired reverberation rate by putting the ceiling at a certain height to increase room volume or putting in such devices as curtains, which can be closed or opened depending on the music played. Beranek said the great-sound-ing halls of the world, among which he included Boston Symphony Hall, Carnegie Hall and

the Great Hall in Vienna, are based on tried-and-true designs which have evolved over centuries. But he added that new ones designed with modern acoustical techniques in mind, such as the hall in Indianapolis, can be extremely good. “We don’t know how to design everything perfectly on paper yet,” he said. “We simply can’t account for all the variables because we are not precise enough in our knowledge to do so. So we must either build with the idea of later modifying the hall to get the right sound or copy successful halls.” Beranek said one reason engineers and architects have trouble building new concert halls is that they have to be larger than in the past to be profitable. Other factors also inflate concert hall size. Older halls, like Boston Symphony Hall, allow about five square feet for seating each person. Beranek said concert goers now want to be more comfortable so new designs allow more than* seven square feet per person. Modern fire codes also add to hall size by specifying widths of corridors and other factors. Bigger halls mean more volume and added balconies, which add height to the ceilings.

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certificate had never been recorded, but that I was 17,” Brindel said. On his 17th birthday, when he was legally eligible for Army induction, he was with the 10th Armored Infantry Battalion in Germany, he said. Since he was a high school dropout, Brindel decided to get his education through night school and, in 1948, earned his high school diploma. “I kept going to night school anywhere from two to four nights a week — but mostly two — and in 1965 I got my bachelor of arts degree in economics,” he said. Two years ago, the Army gave him 12 months and he added three extra months of leave time to get his master’s degree. And, in between all that, he served in Europe, Korea and Vietnam, where he earned the Distinguished Service Cross for bravery during the Tet offensive of 1968. But that’s far ahead of the story. Working as “a sort of handy man in the cleaning department” at the Johnson City hotel, Brindel said he showed enough promise “that they made me an apartment in the attic. “I became an apprentice baker at the hotel and by the time I was 14 they made me assistant steward. I had 35 people working for me,” he said. During that time, Brindel had earned honors in his high school ROTC program, but between school and work “I had never even had a date. “You can see why I wanted to get into the Army,” he said. At Kentucky, he heads a program that he says “fell into ill favor during Vietnam because it provided a focal point for student demonstrations. “People just vented their anger against the ROTC,” he said. But Brindel said the “pendulum is swinging the other way now” and if the public becomes aware of the ROTC’s great potential, it will regain its former status. Brindel isn’t in favor of an 'dl-volunteer Army. That would eliminate the citizen-soldier, he said. “That’s what ROTC is all about,” he said. “A guy comes into the Army, does his duty and goes back to civilian life. We’ve thrived on it since the Revolutionary War.”

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